Take care of yourself in this weather.

Iola once photographed her son as a chef in Weibo. Xiao Wu learned to cook for the first time. Although it is dangerous to use a fire knife, Iola let the children have a try. Soon, children can cook their favorite fried zucchini, cucumber and carrot.

As soon as the photo came out, many netizens praised it, boasting that Wu could cook from an early age and help his mother with housework, and his self-care ability was super strong.

Iola has always been the woman behind Jason Wu. She can reassure Jason Wu to give her the children and work hard for her career. Iola's education method is naturally unique. Iola also talked about her parenting experience in the interview. She mentioned that she pays more attention to the cultivation of children's self-care ability than the study of skills.

Self-care ability means that children can take care of themselves and their own lives in their daily lives, and adults no longer need to worry about it. It is also the most basic life skill that a child should have.

However, many parents feel anxious when they find that their children are going to kindergarten soon, but they can't even do the most basic things such as eating, dressing and wearing shoes. The inability to take care of themselves has also affected many children's inability to enter the park smoothly.

1, can't go to the toilet

Many people will find it funny to mention that children will not go to the toilet after school, but it is true. Some preschool children have been using the toilet at home, and parents don't realize that they have to sit in the toilet in kindergarten. Many children are not used to sitting in the toilet, and they are worried that they will fall off when sitting in the toilet, and they are not willing to go to the toilet at all.

There are also some children who don't wipe their bottoms after going to the toilet, especially after defecation, because adults usually wipe them and don't know how to use toilet paper at all. When they go home, they often find a pool of shit on their pants.

Many parents didn't realize the seriousness of the problem until the kindergarten teacher reflected the situation, and regretted not letting their children learn to go to the toilet before entering the park.

2. Eating is a problem

In the first week of admission, teachers will feed some children who can't eat by themselves at all, but it is impossible to feed every child for a long time, because according to the current allocation of educational resources, there are usually 2-3 teachers for about 30 children in a class. In this case, a teacher has to manage about 10 children, which has a great workload and responsibility.

In addition, many children at home are very picky about food. When parents cook, they often choose foods that their children like to eat, such as jiaozi noodles, fried rice with eggs, minced meat, etc., so that their children can eat more. However, kindergartens are a large group, and it is impossible to cook independently according to each child's taste. Many children start to skip meals.

Therefore, if children don't learn to eat well before entering the park, they will lose weight immediately after entering the park, their physique will get worse, and they will often get sick.

3. You can't wear clothes.

When you enter kindergarten, you need to take an independent nap every day. Children who can't take off their clothes are in big trouble. Especially in winter, when there are many clothes, it's terrible not to take off your clothes.

Many children began to learn to dress and undress after entering the park. When they don't dress well, they start to cry or lose their temper. When the weather is cold, they easily catch a cold, and some pants and socks are put on backwards, which not only makes children uncomfortable, but also affects their actions.

Children leave themselves, but they can't be independent. What shall we do? Education experts have said that it is more important to cultivate children's self-care ability before entering the park than to learn English, mathematics and logical thinking.

1, which can adapt to the park more quickly.

For the first time since birth, I left my parents and started a collective life alone. If I have any problems, I must solve them myself. It is no longer possible to rely on parents, and many children will get used to it. Children with strong self-care ability can adapt to life in the park faster. They can eat, go to the toilet, take care of themselves and live a smooth life. Naturally, they have more time to learn skills than other children of the same age.

2, can please the teacher.

Children with strong self-care ability are less dependent on teachers and nurses. Compared with the teacher's help, they can do better by themselves. Such children are deeply loved by teachers, and teachers are more inclined to pay attention to them. In some organizational activities, teachers will also choose such children as leaders in the team, which is also very conducive to the cultivation of children's leadership.

3, the heart is stronger

Many children will feel inferior because their toys are not packed as fast as other children, their quilts are not as good as others, and their self-care ability is worse than their peers. After a long time, parents and teachers will find that the originally cheerful children become introverted.

And some children with strong self-care ability will do well. When they encounter problems, they can always solve them themselves. At the same time, they gain self-confidence and are stronger in heart, because they realize that they are better than other children in many aspects of life and feel that they are very powerful children.

Self-care ability is so important for children entering the park. How do parents cultivate their children's self-care ability?

Parents should set an example first.

Many parents are mothers and daughters themselves, living with their parents, cooking, washing clothes and taking care of their children. Usually I don't have good self-care habits, such as

Never fold the quilt after getting up.

The food before the meal is ready.

I left all my clothes in the washing machine.

Fruit is always cut and brought to the front.

……

Parents are role models for children, and they can't take care of their own lives. What can they ask of their children?

Therefore, to cultivate children's self-care ability, parents should first set an example and be independent from all aspects of life. Many times, children don't need to be taught, and parents know what to do.

2, don't laugh, guide first.

Many times, children are afraid to do something by themselves because their parents scare them. Some parents like to make a fuss. For example, when a child drops a few grains of rice while eating, he will exclaim how it can be everywhere. Wearing clothes backwards will laugh at him; When you get dirty when painting, you will make a hullabaloo about. what's up ...

Think about it, who was not like this when he was a child? Many times children want to try again and do better, but they are scared by their parents' intimidation and ridicule. Over time, they dare not do it and become poor in self-care.

In fact, parents' encouragement is the best gift for children. To exercise children's self-care ability, we must first learn to guide and encourage children. For example, children can be taught how to dress backwards. You can demonstrate how to eat all the dishes in your mouth without spilling them all over the floor.

What parents should do is to tell their children "how to do it" instead of responding to him "you did something wrong". Such encouragement and guidance can help children build self-confidence, and children are more willing to try.

3, not reluctant, set rules.

Some parents like to force their children to do things they don't like. I believe that every parent's starting point is good, that is, they want their children to try more and exercise more, but many times it turns into coercion and reprimand.

Few people like to do housework, but some parents want to exercise their children's self-care ability, and let their children help sweep the floor, sweep the floor, hang clothes and so on every day.

They will tell their children to pack their toys and clothes in a forced tone to help mop the floor. Some parents are even persistent, reprimanding or even forcing their children to do it when they obviously don't want to. This will not only fail to exercise their self-care ability, but also make them rebellious.

The best way is for parents to set a good example for their children to see the fun of doing things, and at the same time, they can set up some incentive mechanisms, such as getting a little star when wearing clothes, and getting a little star when folding quilts, and showing their children their own labor achievements and praising them later.

In this way, children's enthusiasm will rise, they will take the initiative to undertake many things, and their self-care ability will naturally improve.

4, don't interfere, do it yourself

In the book "Reconciliation with Parents", there is a passage that says: "Some parents often make us feel that we are so capable that they seem to put us back in the womb for strict protection."

Parents are essentially out of love, but this excessive love has turned into interference, making children forget what they will do and even feel pressure.

Many of these parents not only give guidance to their children in their studies, but also help them undress and put on shoes. They think that children eat slowly and simply feed them with spoons ... They really don't give their children any chance to exercise and want to put their hands on them.

Parents must learn to let go to cultivate their children's self-care ability. Children of childbearing age can actually do many things by themselves, such as eating, undressing and wearing shoes. Many children with strong self-care ability even fold quilts, take a bath and wipe their bottoms. Look at their parents. They are all "shopkeepers".

Therefore, when parents want to interfere with their children, they should immediately realize that their children need to grow up and stop interfering. Letting go of parents is the first step for children to grow up.

In fact, the potential of children is unlimited. If he is not given a chance, he will never know that he can. Let children take care of themselves is to let children stand on their own feet, and self-care ability is the starting line for children.