Urgent! ! ! Problems on the third day of March in Xinyi, Xuzhou

Hello, there are two customs on March 3:

1, it says here that I went back to my parents' house on March 3rd, and my dead husband collapsed. I just can't go back to my mother's house, otherwise it will be bad for my husband.

2, March 3rd, a good day, every family picks up their daughters ",Dangshan custom.

In fact, the folk custom of "March 3" has been recorded all over the country. Such as "Qushui Flowing", "Sacrifice Banquet" and "Blue Soup Bathing" are all its contents. However, I am afraid that "taking my daughter back to her parents' home" is only popular in Huaibei, and Dangshan is still very popular.

In the China lunar calendar, 13579 is a single month, and the month overlaps with the day, which is a festival. For example, the first day of January, the Spring Festival; On the third day of March, there are three festivals (also called Peach Blossom Festival and Water-splashing Festival). On the fifth day of May, Dragon Boat Festival; On the seventh day of July, Queqiao Festival (also called Qiaojie and Valentine's Day); On the ninth day of September, the Double Ninth Festival.

There are two local legends about the origin of the girl's return to her parents' home on March 3. One is that March 3 is an "evil day" to avoid evil. According to the Book of Rites in the Song Dynasty, "Zhao Xu, a native of the Plain, got triplets in early March and died on March 3rd. A villager was very surprised. From then on, he went to the water to wash himself or go out to ward off evil spirits every day. Another way of saying it is: The Queen Mother, on the third day of March every year, goes to the Flat Peach Garden to enjoy flowers, and all seven girls are married. Earlier, the fairy thought of worldly things and secretly came down to earth to match Dong Lang. It was on March 3rd that the Queen Mother beat gongs and drums and called her back to the Heavenly Palace. Therefore, whenever it rains after March 3, it will thunder. Such a long distance can't stop the girl from returning to her family, let alone the world.

On March 3rd, just before and after Tomb-Sweeping Day, in Huaibei, where cold and warm air flows frequently meet, the weather was humid. Since ancient times, there has been a saying that "it rains in the Qingming Festival". In this restless day, it is natural for her daughter to return to her parents' home. In Dangshan area, there is also a Song Like proverb: "God, don't get off the bus, keep the dry road and go back to your mother's house. The bride's family is far away, riding an umbrella, and the bride's family is close, wearing country shoes and playing sticks. " It seems that I have to go home for a few days no matter how the trip is.

The key to returning to my parents' home on March 3 is to pick it up. Because of its origin, after all, it is related to "evil" and "sadness". In addition, around Tomb-Sweeping Day, it is the season of "adding new soil to the old grave and flying black gold in the daytime". Yin and Yang are intertwined, so it must be picked up by a sister-in-law or nephew to avoid accidents on the road. If she is too busy, the girl can bring her own boy back, but she must break a peach to ward off evil spirits. There is a children's song that proves this custom: "The big locust tree, the locust tree, and the stage under the locust tree are all here. Why didn't my daughter come? Her face was full of tears and she was in a daze. I am the pride of my mother, and she will come if she doesn't pick me up ... "