Parents can't be with you forever (Song Rongfeng)

-talk about my frustration education for children.

A child in our family is supposed to be a super baby and needs more care, but my education method is a typical tiger mother type, even an iron fist level. Tell me about my cruelty to children.

When I got up that morning, the mobile phone weather forecast was a blue warning, and it was raining heavily that day. After washing the cough, the child called his father to get up and said that it was raining and he had to send him to school. I looked at the door for a while, and it was raining, not so heavy. Moreover, the students in the neighborhood went out with a smile on their schoolbags, and didn't take the rain seriously at all.

When I heard that I wouldn't let him go to school, the child stayed at home and said that I couldn't believe it was raining. I cried before I finished, as if I had been greatly wronged.

I told her with an expression: You are so old (less than ten years old) and you are still afraid of this light rain. What will you do in the future? Hurry up and take an umbrella to school!

Our family lives in Golden Pier, only three stops from school, but she has never been to school on foot. Every time she takes Li Bai Road to Jianghua Hotel Station, takes the sightseeing line, crosses the railway station and the river field, and reaches the school gate, which is the terminal.

I have always told my children that in their rural schools, it is always five or six miles to go to school. Children in walking to school, adults rarely send. You are studying in Chengtou. If you go this way, you will cry bitterly and tired. When you grow up, you will step into the society. How can we survive?

I usually don't listen to the preaching to my children. Today, I taught her a lesson: although the weather forecast is a blue warning, it's not raining much now. Take this stall to the platform and wait for the bus. Just get in the car and you'll be fine!

The child really couldn't call his father downstairs, so he followed my words and asked, what should I do if it rains heavily and gets soaked?

I said, you have a skull on your head. You should learn to use your head. First, it doesn't rain very much. Even if you get wet with an umbrella, it doesn't affect wearing clothes in summer. Second, if it is too wet, you can ask the teacher to dry it with a hair dryer when you get to school. Third, you can put an extra piece of clothing in your schoolbag, change it at school, hang it up and dry it naturally after school. If the shoes are wet, what's wrong with going barefoot at school? ! When your father was a child, he often wore no shoes in winter!

After listening to my class, the child went to school without saying a word. In fact, the problem she was worried about didn't happen. My insistence made her understand that when encountering difficulties, she should first find a way to solve it herself, instead of looking for her parents.

Another day, the child went out to school at 7: 30 and came back with a schoolbag around 8: 00, saying that he forgot to bring a red scarf and a bus card! After taking something, she opened her mouth and called her father, saying that she would be late and asked him to take it to school.

Of course, I kicked her out again! When I came back from school at night, I told her why I didn't get on the bus in the morning:

First, if you don't wear a red scarf and are criticized for being late, then your correct choice is to face the mistake that has happened and solve it, instead of making up for it in another incomplete way, then you may face two kinds of wrong punishment.

Secondly, if you don't bring your bus card, you can use your pocket money to coin money, or borrow it from your classmates once, and pay him back a dollar next time or help him swipe his card, but you can't borrow it, and there will be no following.

Third, the next time I don't bring my bus card, I will have time to run back and get it, and I will almost run to school. What are you afraid of if you walk a few more feet?

The child muttered, what do you want to do? I said, I'm teaching you! Learn from mistakes. When you encounter problems in the future, don't concentrate on coming back to your parents. We can't be with you forever. First of all, we should use our brains to overcome difficulties and find ways to solve them ourselves. We should have the spirit of hard work and a strong sense of independence.

The child seems to understand, but after being rejected by her several times on these small obstacles, there are fewer and fewer feedback questions.

Of course I understand that life is 360 degrees and there are countless difficulties in life. The education of children has a long way to go, and I will continue to adhere to a strict, open and loving way to alleviate various problems encountered in the process of children's growth.

Parents all over the world, who don't expect their children to succeed, who don't expect women to succeed, who hate iron and steel, I don't need to train my children into social elites and pillars of the motherland. Ordinary people live an ordinary life. I just need her to be independent, sensible, polite and educated when she encounters difficulties, and go out without being rejected by others, and everything will be fine!

(Mother Song 20 18.6.22)