Chatting topics and boys make you have endless topics.

The most important thing in a relationship is to have something to say. Once men and women start to talk less and less, the relationship will definitely fade.

This relationship is easy to separate.

Therefore, for couples and couples, the most important thing is to have something to say. In fact, to put it simply, it is to learn to create a chat topic.

So how can we create more chat topics?

0 1 1+ 1 policy

Answer the question directly, this is the original 1, and the other 1 is to expand a new topic on this basis.

1 original topic+1 new topic, which is the strategy of 1+ 1

For example, a man asks you if you want to climb a mountain tomorrow.

Many people will only answer the original question normally, for example, I don't really want to go, okay, forget it.

This kind of answer, it is impossible to prolong the conversation, and it is difficult to let this chat continue.

Use the strategy of 1+ 1 to answer this question.

Tomorrow, I don't want to go, I'm a little tired.

Or I feel tired from climbing mountains. I don't want to go.

The original topic here is I don't want to go, but the new topic is a little tired. At this time, men can continue to talk along the new topic that you are tired.

For example, I'm telling you that climbing a mountain is not as tiring as you think, or if you are tired on the road, you can take a bus. There is a lot of delicious food there, so you can eat it while climbing.

Do you think we can talk more and more?

If you initiate a topic, the strategy of 1+ 1 means that the topic you initiate must contain at least two key information points.

For example, if the weather is fine tomorrow, where shall we go to play?

The weather is good, where to play is the key information point, so the other party can answer the information about the weather or where to play, so that he can answer you more easily.

If you just ask us where to play tomorrow?

If he doesn't want to play, he may end the conversation immediately and tell you that he doesn't want to go out, so the topic will stop immediately.

If you want to share with him that you bought a bag at the mall today, you must not just say the bag.

Because it is difficult for a man to be interested in bags, he is not interested in this topic, so he will not reply to you. Even if he does, he will only perfunctory you.

At this time, continue to use the policy of 1+ 1.

"I tell you, I bought a bag at the mall today. The mall is obviously colder than before. There used to be many people, but now there are fewer people shopping! "

At this time, there are two information points, 1 that you bought the bag, and 2 that there are few people in the mall.

Men are not interested in bags. Even if he doesn't pick up your 1 topic, he can pick up your 2 topics and chat with you.

He may say to you, "Isn't it because of the epidemic? Now everyone goes to public places less, and the shopping mall is definitely colder than before. "

At this time he also put forward two information points.

1 is a shopping mall with few people.

2 is the epidemic situation.

At this time, you can also continue to talk about topics according to these two points, so there will be a steady stream of topics that can be talked for a longer time.

The focus of the chat is the topic. The more topics you have, the more you can talk, so use the 1+ 1 strategy to provide chat topics.

02 interrogative sentence

It is said that the focus of chat is topic, and the more topics, the more chat. On the contrary, the fewer topics, the less chatting, and the chat may be interrupted at any time.

Therefore, if you can't talk to each other for a few words, it may be because there are too few topics provided during the chat, which leads to the interruption of the chat for minutes, and the more you chat, the more boring it becomes.

People who often use questions are likely to cause such a chat interruption.

For example:

What are you doing?

Have you eaten yet?

Are you off duty?

Is this dress beautiful?

If it were you, would you be annoyed if the other person kept asking you questions? You may be bored, too.

So using interrogative sentences all the time will make the other person lose interest in chatting with you.

If you can only ask questions, don't use closed questions, that is, the kind that can be answered in a few words.

Like the ones above.

Have you eaten yet?

Are you off duty?

Is this dress beautiful?

You see, this kind of question can be answered in only 1-2 words, whether it is beautiful or not, so why should I tell you a lot?

So don't use closed questions.

You can use open-ended questions, that is, the answer is difficult to answer that with 1-2.

For example:

What are you doing?

Honey, look, how beautiful I am today. Aren't you going to praise me?

What are you doing this weekend?

You see, is the word1-difficult to answer?

So, if you can only ask questions, then you must use open-ended questions to make him talk more. Once chatting, it's easy to get into the chat state, and he will be more willing to chat with you.

03 declarative sentence

After all, the problem is the problem. Even an open question is a problem. As long as it is a problem, it is doomed to be bad.

If you want to talk well, try not to ask questions, but to use declarative sentences.

For example, most people want to know what the other person is doing, and they will ask: What are you doing?

And I will say, "There is a little fairy who misses you. She wants to know what you are doing. "

This is not a question, but a statement that a little fairy is thinking about your state, and he will want to go back more.

I would also say: "At this time, most people are not playing games, eating, or watching short videos to see their little sisters.

I don't think you like playing games, and you're not hungry. You must be there. "

I didn't finish it on purpose, in order to leave it to him.

He might say, "Are you digging a hole for me? I didn't look at my little sister, I was really playing games. "

When you are in a bad mood, you will say, "One thing I met today is annoying."

At this time, he will probably ask: "What's the matter? What's the matter? "

Then I'll tell him what happened to me.

You see, when you are stating your status, the other party is more willing to join in and understand your status.

In fact, if you think about it carefully, do you use a lot of interrogative sentences when chatting with your girlfriends? Or do you use more declarative sentences? Must be a declarative sentence.

I'm telling you, a new lipstick has been released recently. It's really beautiful. I'll send it to you.

Did you watch that XXX TV series? Wow, that little brother inside is so handsome, and I'm going to have a husband again.

I have a crush on a XXX. I like it very much. I'm sure you will like it, too. Let's go and have a look.

Look, isn't this chatting atmosphere much better than interrogative sentences? Therefore, the use of declarative sentences will make the chat atmosphere more relaxed, and the other party will naturally chat with you more.

If you want to have more chat topics with each other, then use fewer questions. If you can only ask questions, use less closed questions and more open questions.

You'd better use declarative sentences and more 1+ 1 strategies, so that you can have more chat topics.