I usually have many girls chasing me...but the girl I like ignores me...what should I do?

It seems that I prefer men with masculine qualities. I don’t really like the popular male stars from Korea, Taiwan and other places. In fact, neutrals can also be very popular with women, such as Li Yuchun and David Beckham. So you don't have to worry about this.

But your problem is that the girl you like ignores you. Generally, there are two possibilities. One is that she really doesn’t want to ignore you, so there is nothing you can do about it. Just be conscious and take the initiative to disappear.

Another possibility is that she doesn't like having many other girls around you. Originally, having a few love rivals will only make her more nervous and value you, but if there are too many, it will be very annoying. So if this is the case, you have to let her see that you only have her in your heart, and that will be fine.

I am a girl, and I feel disgusted when I see some boys who want to chase the girl they like but dare not chase her, and even want her to chase her instead.

From a girl’s words From a perspective, I understand girls’ psychology better. Most girls will not take the initiative to pursue the boy they like, unless they really like him too much or are brave girls with more personality. So, if you like a girl very much and think she is interested in you, then take the initiative and don't get into a tug-of-war with her. If you feel uncomfortable, the person you like may also suffer too.

Whenever a girl is chased by someone, her psychology is very complicated. She may be happy, but she is also a little scared. She has an ambivalent attitude towards this boy who breaks into her peaceful life. She does not mean to refuse but welcome him. Don't think that she is testing you, she is actually fighting with herself, and she is afraid of being hurt.

Don’t be afraid that your initiative will offend her. If you don’t take the initiative, she won’t take the initiative either, and she will slowly fade away. If your initial confession is rejected by her, that's normal. Don't be discouraged, who knows what this girl is thinking?

Maybe if you confess your love twice more, she will be moved by you. A good girl with a kind heart is easily moved.

If you suffer a setback, leave immediately, never talk to this girl again, protect yourself tightly, and lick your wounds silently. While you are in pain, little do you know, that girl Maybe I am feeling regretful and regretful in my heart! Maybe she will cry secretly and regret rejecting you. She will also be very sad when she sees your indifferent eyes, but she will not tell you and will definitely not ask you to come back and chase her. Your excessive self-esteem may hurt a girl's sensitive heart.

She will think that you don’t really like him, otherwise why would you just give up on her?

Some people say that it is so difficult for boys to chase girls. But my feeling is that this phenomenon is inseparable from the social role positioning of men and women. From a physiological and social perspective, women are always passive. If, on the other hand, it were the other way around, making men shy and women moving forward courageously, the world would be in chaos! A woman's shyness is always beautiful and touching~ I have always heard that a brave man overcame many difficulties and finally won the heart of a beautiful woman. There are very few examples to the contrary.

Some boys are afraid that others will say that they are stalkers and get a bad reputation. But I think that when a boy pursues a girl he likes and continues to be nice to the girl after some setbacks, it means that he really likes her and is sincere. If he doesn't succeed, he doesn't regret it. It's nothing, right? Who made people like it? I hate other people messing around the most, and I also hate boys who have no idea of ??their own and care too much about what others think of them. Such boys deserve to be unable to find a girlfriend.

If you are a man, be brave. Girls are inherently emotional and easily immersed in love. Although you have worked hard, once your sincerity touches her, you will get more and longer love. Such examples abound around us. Girls are very gentle and considerate to their boyfriends. In exchange for this sweetness, what is the hard work in the beginning? And most good girls are very devoted and dedicated in love.

So, I suggest some boys be brave and pursue the girl they like. Don’t be so timid. Firstly, it will make people think you are unmanly. Secondly, it will make you feel uncomfortable. But the most important thing is: in the end you get nothing. Happiness is always earned by yourself, don't expect others to give it to you!

One more thing, I think it’s good to be proactive, because your goal is something you really like. Girls are often passive, and the passive ones can only choose to accept or reject, so I would rather take the initiative. , love what I love, no regrets!

————Life is beautiful, happiness is in it, you must learn to look for it!

1. What kind of first impression should be left on MM (Time: Just started contacting MM)

1. I think the most important thing is to let MM see your ambition.

The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people do not work long hours and cannot be considered "successful". At this time, you have to make your girlfriend think that you are a motivated person.

You can talk nonsense about other things, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell MM that you are full of confidence in the future, that you are not satisfied with the status quo, and that you already have long-term plans. In short, your future Not a dream.

2. Be confident and responsible

Don’t be like a child. Girls are lazy and hope they can find someone to rely on. You have to show your confidence and responsibility. Heart comes.

It is better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all.

3. Don’t be too serious, but don’t be too casual either.

Be serious where you should be serious, and laugh when you should be ridiculous.

Girls like men who are a little cynical, so don’t appear to care about anything, as that would be too dull.

4. Look more mature

Men who are calm and unhurried in situations are fatally attractive to girls.

2. How to have further contact with MM (time: the beginning of chasing)

1. The most important thing at this stage is not to be anxious, not to make things so clear, let People can tell at a glance that you are chasing them.

Think about it, most people will not fall in love with you at first glance, but they will also not hate you at first glance. They are all ordinary people’s children (unless you look like Chow Yun-fat, Andy Lau or Kevin Coster) (Na), goodwill needs to be realized as understanding continues to increase, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want.

Think about it from a girl’s perspective: If you rush over to find someone so directly, the girl must be under psychological pressure. If I find out that I don't like you after being in contact for a while, wouldn't it be like playing tricks on you? So if you come out with a determined attitude from the beginning, you will basically be put back immediately.

2. Start with a low profile

First of all, you must position the relationship as a "friend". It is originally an "ordinary friend". If you want to become a "good friend", it is okay if you have good taste. Ask the other person to become a "confidante" or something like that, but never say "chasing you".

Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then the girl will have less chance to "reject" you - how can she reject you if you don't pursue her? !

This can reduce the psychological pressure on girls and enable you to have a smooth relationship. Don't imagine that you will agree to marry you after only three days of knowing each other. You need to fully communicate and understand each other. Feelings do not arise out of thin air.

3. Don’t be too impatient in the process of dating.

Be relaxed and don’t pester others all day long. You will get tired of anyone who treats you like this. A good friend of mine told me that the key to chasing a girl is eight words - "hot and cold, playing hard to get" (this is the culmination of many years of hard work by my classmate).

Of course they won’t think well of you if you keep pestering them all day long. If you cool off for a day or two, girls will remember the benefits of your presence.

Also, don’t have the ambition of “I won’t marry you unless you want me”. It’s not good if the price is too low. Sometimes you can use some tricks.

4. Create opportunities appropriately

As mentioned earlier, don’t make things immediately turn into “you are chasing someone else”, and you need to get the opportunity to get close to girls. It all depends on your creativity.

You can collect intelligence and find ways to turn waiting around into an encounter; you can also pretend to be casual and find the most sufficient reasons to invite the other person to do something with you.

In short, this is the most technical place. If it really doesn’t work, you can ask your seniors for advice.

5. Don’t: It is impolite to give gifts to others casually.

Some people are eager to chase girls and like to buy things and give them to others. However, they don’t know that this is the most taboo thing for chasing girls.

As the saying goes, "No reward for no work". If you give people things like this, you are putting pressure on them. People will feel that they owe you something, so they will find a way to pay you back. If they can't pay you back, they will Find a way not to associate with you so that you don't always owe you favors.

If you want to show your sincerity, you might as well ask a girl to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat, or finding an expensive place to play together. Girls will naturally be able to see that you spend money. It's a lot of money, but after all, the money is spent by two people together rather than turned into things to take home.

3. What exactly is a “girlfriend”?

1. "Girlfriend" is a fact, not a promise

When you start dating a girl, you change from "ordinary friends" to "good friends", and then to To "a very, very good friend who talks about everything", you "accidentally" held her hand on a sunny afternoon; to "the moon above the willows", you suddenly attacked and kissed her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Whether she admits it or not, she already thinks that you are her boyfriend.

I know that the wisest person didn’t even ask “Will you be my girlfriend” until we went to bed? In the end, the girl got anxious and said, “Why don’t you ask me to be your girlfriend? ”

So, don’t rush to pierce the window paper. The more hazy the situation is, the better it is for you.

2. What is "confession"?

As mentioned before, confession is actually just a formality. The correct sequence should be: Only after she has actually become your girlfriend can you confess your love to someone, and it will be a matter of course. Many people don't understand this issue. They always think that someone agrees to be their girlfriend first and then does whatever they want. I can only say that it is very, very "simple" and very, very "stupid".

3. Is there ever a time when you “have no choice but to express your feelings”?

Yes, for example, a third party appears, or the relationship between you and the girl is not mature but the two of you may be separated for a period of time.

The confession at this time is an immature confession, and the risk is very high. It is similar to the serious situation when playing Go. The lagging side is forced to release the "winner's hand", and if it wins, it wins. If you lose, you can only say "Unlucky people are born".

4. Don’t say the word "love" easily

I often see "bold confessions" appearing on forums. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment, and even a kind of responsibility.

Men who say "love" casually are irresponsible.

4. Civilized love cannot be forced.

1. Not every girl can be pursued.

There will always be many people chasing good girls. No. Maybe everyone's wish comes true, but there will always be losers. For example, even if you study hard and master the most amazing principles of chasing girls, you still can't catch up with anyone in TWINS.

Think about the problem from another angle. A rural nanny who has not graduated from elementary school, no matter how nice she is to you, earns 600 a month and buys you 700 gifts (overdraft), and is willing to "play a role" for you. "You won't fall in love with her either. If she cries and pesters you every day, you will definitely feel annoyed.

So love needs a material foundation, or at least a balance.

2. Chasing girls is a serious social activity.

Don’t annoy others and leave a way out for yourself. Why should a man worry about not having a wife? Some girls are indeed snobbish (a minority). If you are not convinced, you can work hard and use facts to prove that "she was blind at the time." Never mislead others or yourself.

One final point:

Never appear cynical in front of MM. Being cynical sometimes means "you are a failure".

You should have more contact with her, such as asking her to participate in some activities. It is most natural to get to know each other through having fun. It allows you to understand her and she to understand you---this is the most important thing. , let her know that you are not just a pretty girl behind her, let her be interested in your thoughts, but first of all, you really don’t think about everything for her, think more about yourself, maybe she will be interested in you instead, if you The idea is nothing special to her, and over time, she will think you are boring and will never attract her attention again!

You said you have no big shortcomings, but this is not the most important thing. The important thing is to show your strengths! ! ! What’s special about you! ! ! Don't be so impatient that you can't show your true self in front of her

You can tell who you are by reading your article

It's a bit unfocused

In fact, you don’t need to write so much

It has nothing to do with other girls liking you and you liking that girl

You make me feel like you are showing off

It doesn’t Be sincere

Maybe it’s my feeling

I’m a girl

And if a man always talks about the woman he likes

I will be disgusted with that man

Of course I won’t feel anything about him

Since you are so charming

As long as you pay Sincerely

That girl will feel it if she loves you too

Hehe

If you fail, what if! !

You are so charming

Why does a husband have to worry about not having a wife

She will regret it in the future

Also

I feel that no matter how long a person does not write in his mother tongue

he will never forget it

This is enough to show your carelessness