In life, how should we learn to accept our imperfect self?

In psychological counseling, psychological counselors often tell visitors to accept themselves, accept their imperfect selves, accept symptoms, and accept unconditionally, saying that only acceptance can solve problems and get out of pain. Is that so?

Admit your imperfection and accept it. Only in this way can you avoid depression in inferiority complex, keep positive, and constantly learn to improve your ability, so as not to sell yourself short in the face of blows. This is not so much the ability to accept oneself as the ability to face risks and a strong belief in self-affirmation. Accepting yourself will make you have positive energy and be able to go on with more confidence and determination.

For example, a high school student is excellent and promising, but he is anxious for some reasons. He hopes to get rid of his troubles and improve his grades, but he has no way or ability to solve them, so he is anxious, depressed and even depressed.

At this time, the counselor told him that it is normal for you to study badly now. Not good is not good. You should accept this situation. Do you think students will agree with this statement? On the surface, he can't change himself. Only in this way will his mood be better. But as time goes by, his classmates are admitted to universities, and some students who were not as good as him are admitted to good universities, but he can only stay and not study. Then he will be more anxious and his symptoms will be more serious.

Many mental patients have done psychological counseling, and the answer is that they accept everything now, which eventually leads to aggravated symptoms. There are many such psychological counseling, so everyone doesn't believe in psychological counseling and thinks it's nonsense.

Regarding acceptance, it is correct to accept what cannot be changed and change what can be changed. For example, it's very cold now, and you like to wear light clothes to go out, which will freeze you. Then you need to accept the cold weather and wear more clothes. The learning state, about academic performance and some symptoms, can be changed, and you must never live with symptoms.