I want to cheat.

In late spring and May, at the turn of spring and summer, some are sleepy in spring and some are poor in summer.

People's mood, just like the weather in spring and summer, is confused and confused. For example, a reader left me a message saying:

I've been particularly annoyed recently My husband and I have been married for many years, and I feel that he is useless, wrong and unpleasant emotionally. My heart is like a fire and a coptis root. What a depression! I found that I don't love my husband at all. He doesn't understand me at all. Every time I roll the sheets, I feel very uncomfortable and guilty …

I want to find someone I love, I want to cheat, but morality is like a heavy yoke; I'm choking. I want to run away from home, but I am too weak to be so free and easy.

The feeling of grasping the heart is uncomfortable. I am puzzled, how many people are forced to smile and make do with people they don't love in the bustling city …

After reading this reader's message, I replied: Is my husband having an affair outside?

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Is there domestic violence?

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Is the family's economic condition not ideal?

It's not too rich and expensive, but I have no worries about food and clothing …

This is a woman who has been married for many years.

Because we are in a virtual network world, and no one knows anyone without the network, this reader can open his heart to me.

There is nothing wrong with men. Why is this happening?

Talking about this with my girlfriend, after many years of marriage, she actually grabbed my hand and shook it hard and said, Oh, my God, I finally found my bosom friend! I thought I was the only one who had such problems and puzzles.

Hearing this, I was shocked: how happy my girlfriend is in everyone's impression. My husband has a successful career. My girlfriend used to open her own shop, but now she concentrates on taking care of her family at home and often watches her take pictures in her circle of friends. A family of three looks happy.

Are these all illusions?

The girlfriend's "alas" tells the truth: before marriage, several people pursued themselves. After some comparison, they chose to marry their current husband. In the first few years, they felt very happy and often had endless topics to talk about. As time went on, I found that my husband was not what I expected at all. In some interpersonal relationships, in the interest of life, as well as in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and the concept of parenting, we gradually have great differences.

My son is now in the fifth grade of primary school. Every day, my mother-in-law treats her son as a little BB. From the moment her son just got up to eating and going to school, her mother-in-law took good care of her. Sometimes I really can't stand it, so I tell my husband to ask his mother not to take care of the boy too much, which is not good for his growth. Guess what my husband said? This is how we all grew up. You are too full and have nothing to do. How long can the old man live? Leave her alone and mind the old man's business. ...

Living such a wronged life, I originally planned to discuss it with my husband and wanted to rent a house for the elderly in our community alone. We're separated. Now, after listening to my husband, I don't even mention it.

I like painting very much. I have never had the time and conditions to study before. I recently signed up for a painting class to learn from my teacher. My husband often works from home. I practice painting at home, and he is not happy. He often sarcastically asks me: What's the use of learning these things? Do you want to be a painter without your support at home? Don't look at your age. …

I am speechless.

I wonder when there has been such a big difference between us.

I'm about to collapse! There must have been something wrong with the eyes. How can I find such a man with no culture, no taste and no consideration for his wife's feelings?

At night, I often dream of the boy I liked before and want to cheat …

It is said that the most difficult problem in the world is the emotional problem.

The communication between men and women begins with looking handsome, looking at each other, and then appreciating each other's talents. But if you want to have a long-term relationship, you must be attracted by each other's excellent characteristics in order to enter the marriage hall. Marriage is just the beginning of the story.

A complete marriage will go through four periods: passionate sweet period, running-in period, stable period and sublimation period.

In the passionate and sweet period of marriage, love is the focus of life. It is like a lollipop in our hands, and every bite is sweet.

However, lollipops will always run out. Because under the same roof, the two sides stayed together for too long and were too familiar. At this time, we will find that there are many imperfections in each other, and there are also many shortcomings and deficiencies that you can't accept. The two sides began to quarrel over a small matter, which turned into a big problem.

You said he didn't know how to communicate, how to be romantic, how to share housework and how to make money …

He said that you are too powerful, you don't understand him, you are not a good daughter-in-law, and you don't know how hard it is for men to earn money outside …

The running-in period of marriage is in this period. This period of time can be long or short.

Because some families have children, the family foundation is stable, and love begins to slowly turn into affection.

Some families are under greater pressure and have deeper contradictions because of having children. At this time, we should pay attention to empathy, break unrealistic fantasies, and don't give up marriage unless we have to. Just like the lady above.

After the running-in period, it enters the so-called stable period.

There is a short story: the couple climbed the stairs. As a result, on the third floor, the wife stagnated and the husband continued to climb. As a result, when the husband reached the eighteenth floor, he couldn't see his wife.

This story tells us that married women should not lose themselves in marriage, but should know how to grow up and keep up with their husbands.

However, in the first-tier cities, we have seen many other sights: the wife has climbed to the eighteenth floor, while the husband is still enjoying the comfort on the third floor, standing still. Heart to heart communication has never been like this.

Many couples who seem to respect each other on weekdays are sometimes easily lost during this period.

So the stable period is not foolproof, once and for all.

A happy marriage is the result of the joint efforts of both men and women. Both men and women need to reflect on themselves and grow up in each period.

Husband and wife can cultivate more hobbies, exercise together, spend holidays together, and say more interesting words to make life more fulfilling and interesting.

After decades of ups and downs, the children gradually grew up, and both husband and wife gradually entered the sublimation period of marriage. The construction stage of marriage is over.

Life is long, sometimes life is short. Never give up easily at any time.

Everyone is pursuing happiness, and happiness is most afraid of being put on the scale. If you are too heavy, you will care too much and stay away from happiness. On the road of marriage, we should know how to be content and cherish happiness!

The above pictures are all from the Internet.

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