Can I take a bus from a colleague of the opposite sex?

Only the owner and I will have the upper hand in the discussion.

There are two ways to ride in the car of a colleague of the opposite sex. One situation is purely personal. If a colleague uses the car by the way, he will ask for it, or the owner will help him in a friendly way. Another kind of situation is rare, but it also exists, which belongs to the nature of official business, such as dating at work and colleagues of the opposite sex going out, and colleagues driving private cars.

In addition, the problem is "riding in the car of colleagues of the opposite sex", which has clearly reflected the acceptability and inevitability. Then, it is meaningless to judge the master's character. If the host invites, there is no need to consider the host's motives. As for the gender issue, it has lost the significance of discussion.

In the first case, there is only one correct choice: the co-pilot. You can't choose the back seat

1, etiquette category thinking, official car leaders should sit on the right side of the back row (some people think that the left side is not discussed. The back row is certain). Therefore, it is very impolite to sit in the back of a colleague's car, and it is suspected of treating the other person as a professional driver and should be avoided.

2. The co-pilot is a special position-the vision is good and comfortable, but the risk is the highest after the accident (the technical and human natural reaction issues will not be repeated). Sitting in the co-pilot means to advance and retreat with the owner to avoid the suspicion of 1. Therefore, it is the right choice.

3. The co-pilot can communicate with the driver's seat more easily, and can also show courtesy and respect.

Special circumstances have a strong psychological rejection of the co-pilot, or just like to sit in the back row. For proper reasons, it should be approved by the owner.

In the second case, official business. We should basically refer to the first situation. Unless it is a normal relationship, it is rigidly designated by the superior. Of course, even if the relationship is average, going out together is also a good opportunity to ease the relationship, and the co-pilot still recommends it.

The core of etiquette is to show respect. If the owner asks you to sit in the back row, you can choose the back row.

I am 28 years old and work in a trading company in Hefei. Sometimes the company receives a big order and we have to travel all over the country, often in Anhui today, Shanghai tomorrow and Beijing the day after tomorrow.

Last week, I received an order from Guangdong. This is the biggest customer I have ever met in my four years in business. The contract amount is more than 6 million. If I sign it, I can earn120 thousand according to the commission of 2% of the company's sales!

On the day of signing the contract in Guangdong, the boss said, "I will accompany you to Guangdong this time, hoping to win this order smoothly."

The boss made such a decision, in fact, I was a little surprised and surprised, because she was usually busy managing the company, so she rarely intervened in our marketing business.

Speaking of our boss, I still admire him in my heart. She is 34 years old. She has achieved tens of millions of net worth in five years. Although she is single now, she is an independent and successful woman with a free life that most people envy. But even so, she still didn't stop trying and kept going.

When I arrived at the company's underground garage, the boss pointed to his BMW and asked me, "Can you drive?"

I shook my head and said, "I'm studying, and the third subject has passed."

When the boss heard this, his eyes flashed with disappointment, but he was expressionless and said, "Get on the bus."

I went to the co-pilot's side and saw that the boss looked pale, so I hesitated again, opened the back door and sat in.

The boss shouted at me with a surprised face, "What are you doing?"

I smiled and said, "Nothing, I'll sit in the back."

The boss didn't speak. Turning around, he looked gloomy and didn't talk to me all the way to Guangdong. I don't know where I offended her. She was very friendly to me before I went. I didn't expect it to change suddenly after getting on the bus.

When I arrived in Guangdong, I met a customer as soon as I got off the bus. The other party directly ignored the boss and then walked up to me: "You are Mr. Han. You have worked hard all the way. "

I looked at the boss a little embarrassed. The other person's eyes want to eat me now. I crustily skin of head introduced to them: "Excuse me, everyone, this is our boss, General Luo."

At this time, everyone noticed that Mr. Luo, who was left hanging, had an extremely awkward atmosphere. When I arrived at the client company, the client quietly pulled me aside and asked, "You have a very good relationship with President Luo. Will she be your driver? "

I gave a wry smile. "You misunderstood. I'm afraid I can't drive. "

The customer looked at me with meaningful eyes and said strangely, "I see you just got off the back seat and the co-pilot is empty!" " "

I looked at each other doubtfully and asked, "What's the problem?"

As a result, the other party smiled and said, "Haha, always be careful when it is cold!" "

After listening to each other's words, I feel a little unknown so, and I have been worried about being scared. When we signed the contract and got on the bus to go back, I thought of what the customer said just now, so I opened the co-pilot and got on it this time.

I don't know if it was because I just signed the contract or I didn't sit in the back seat, so on the way back, the boss began to be willing to talk to me again.

She talked about her entrepreneurial experience over the years and couldn't help sobbing when talking about her emotional situation. I was moved by her excitement. I didn't expect her to walk all the way to the present.

So I couldn't help smoking a paper towel and handing it to each other, saying, "Teacher Luo, you are not the only one in the future, but also me and our whole company!"

The other person stopped the car and suddenly looked at me. "Are you telling the truth?"

I suddenly got goose bumps when I heard this, and I felt that the voice of the other party suddenly became gentle, and my eyes seemed to be full of affection. My in the mind suddenly a sudden, thought it wouldn't be her misunderstanding.

I nodded blankly and comforted: "OK, Teacher Luo, our hearts will always be with you."

After returning to Hefei, my boss took me directly to Yintai City to buy some clothes. She said, "You have made a great contribution to the company this time. I gave you these clothes. Do you like them? "

I looked at the price of clothes, and then at my boss. I struggled in my heart and said, "Teacher Luo, I can buy my own clothes. There are already many clothes at home, and many clothes my girlfriend bought for me have not been worn yet! "

As soon as I finished, the other person froze, then his face sank and he threw his clothes into my arms and said, "Why didn't anyone say so earlier?" Say that finish turned and left.

I looked at this sudden scene and suddenly felt at a loss. I thought about it carefully and regretted what mistakes I made when I went to Guangdong on business trip!

First of all, I am on a business trip with my boss. Because I can't drive, my boss has no choice but to drive by himself. The other party must have some dissatisfaction with this. After all, it is really impolite to travel together and let the boss drive.

Secondly, I started to choose the co-pilot, and later I felt that the other side was unhappy, so I chose the back row. This practice must have caused a misunderstanding and made the other party mistakenly think that I hate her. At the same time, when traveling with leaders, leaders usually sit in the back row. Later, the customer mistakenly thought that I was the boss of the company and directly ignored that she was the real boss. The other party certainly doesn't like it.

When I finally came back, I sat in the co-pilot position and heard the other side talking about feelings. My words and deeds must have caused some misunderstanding to the other side, thinking that I liked her in my heart, so when I refused the other side later, it made my boss feel a little humiliated, and it was also the self-esteem of my superiors that made her angry.

(1) If the relationship between the other person and himself is like good brothers, then there is not so much scruple, because neither person's personality will care where you are sitting, so it will not be embarrassing to get along.

② If a colleague of the opposite sex is married or has an object, it is best not to sit in the co-pilot position when traveling alone, because it is easy to cause misunderstanding of the other family and cause unnecessary trouble, so the back row is the best choice.

If a female colleague takes a car of the opposite sex, I think she should choose to take the back seat, because the co-pilot is usually a male driver, and sitting close to others is easy to misunderstand.

If a male colleague is in the car of the opposite sex, we should choose to take the co-pilot to show respect, because it gives people the impression that you don't hate each other and can give people a sense of security.

⑤ If a colleague of the opposite sex is a leader, then the leader drives, so we are not suitable to sit in the back row, because the ID cards are different, which will easily give the boss a bad impression and make the other party feel that their identity is reversed. Sitting in the back row is a status symbol.

In our workplace life, we often go on business trips with the opposite sex, so the first thing to consider is the degree of relationship between two people before taking the car of colleagues of the opposite sex. For unnecessary troubles and misunderstandings, we need to make rational judgments and choose which position is more suitable for us.

It complicates a simple problem. Tell me about my experience:

I'm at work, and a female colleague lives in a community with me. The unit is about half an hour's walk from where I live. She is ten years younger than me, and her family's economic conditions are quite good. She drives a private car to and from work every day. As for me, I always go to work on foot. Usually when I go to work, I often have contact at work. I belong to a very familiar and close colleague, who speaks casually and has a good relationship.

Because we live together and meet after work, she will take the initiative to invite me home in her car. But I know what it's like, knowing that colleagues are a kind of concern and a kind of courtesy. It doesn't matter how many times you sit, but it's definitely not good to sit often, which shows that you are unreasonable and really take your colleague's car as your own. It's too cheap.

Therefore, when my colleagues invite me to take the bus, I usually decline it politely. However, under special circumstances, I accepted it rudely. These special circumstances:

First, it rains and snows, so it's inconvenient to walk.

Second, the task is heavy and the time is tight, so we need to go back to work overtime as soon as possible.

The third is to carry heavy items home.

Fourth, there is something urgent to do.

In the above four cases, I will not wait for my female colleague to invite me to take the bus, but will greet her in advance and ask for a ride after work. And I will wait in her office in advance when I get off work, so as not to disturb her to call me.

As for where to sit? The co-pilot seat, of course. Although this position is the most dangerous in a car accident, it is convenient and comfortable to sit up, and it is easy to talk with colleagues who drive, which shortens the distance.

I think if I sit in the back seat, I don't think my female colleagues will have a problem. After all, they are very familiar and have a good relationship, and there won't be so many taboos and stresses.

Of course, this is just my personal feeling. I wonder what my female colleague thinks of me taking a ride with her? Will it be annoying? From my observation, she shouldn't mind and will be very happy.

It has been two months since the female boss got off work and took the bus. One day, the female boss saw me sitting in the co-pilot and even ordered me to get up quickly, saying that I could only sit in the co-pilot. My name is Green Tea, the female boss, and my husband actually said: You just go looking for trouble. There is a reason why people take the co-pilot!

My husband is 35 years old and works in a private enterprise. His immediate boss, sister Li, is a 38-year-old unmarried woman. This girl is very beautiful and has a good family condition. It is estimated that she has high conditions for choosing a spouse and has not been married yet. Who thought? ...

Sister Li told everyone that she was pregnant, just 1 month. As for who the father is, no one asked, and no one dared to ask. The problem is that Sister Li is pregnant, and our family is in big trouble.

Sister Li is usually the most optimistic about her husband and knows her husband best. My husband usually does all kinds of chores such as buying coffee. No, as soon as Sister Li got pregnant, she came to her husband for help.

"Zhang, you drive to cut? Look, I'm pregnant, so it's not convenient to take a taxi again. We're just on our way. Will you send me down? " Li Jie said and handed her husband a cup of coffee.

Husband, idiot, agreed without thinking. After returning home, he also told me that he was highly valued by the leaders. There are so many people in the unit who have cars, so they chose him. I felt something was wrong at that time, but at least it was the relationship between the boss and the subordinates, and I dared not say anything more.

On this day, I happened to go to my husband's office to do business, and I was going to take his car home. I was sitting in the passenger seat eating ice cream when a figure flashed by and brushed the door open, and a warm feeling came over me, almost …

Sister Li brazenly said to me, "Oh, daughter-in-law Xiao Zhang! Every time I take a car, I always take the co-pilot. Only pregnant women can sit in the passenger seat. Please take care of me, okay? You can sit in the back, I'm comfortable in the location ~ "

Dude, you just pissed me off with my ice cream. I looked at my husband angrily, hoping that he would speak for me. But my husband just looks forward and ignores me!

I picked up my bag, took my little ice cream stick, sat angrily in the back seat of the car and slammed the door to express my dissatisfaction. Who would have thought that this Li Jie should use green tea to educate me!

"Xiao Zhang ~ Can you help me fasten my seat belt? I can't reach it ~ "Li Jie glanced at me in the rearview mirror and said to her husband.

So I watched her husband fasten his seat belt, which was a very ambiguous scene in the idol drama. If she is not her husband's boss, I can slap them in the face!

After that, she made many suggestions, such as what air conditioner is too cold, the smell inside the car is too smelly, the decoration inside the car is too ugly, and what incense should be bought …

When the bus finally started, she said, "Oh, daughter-in-law Xiao Zhang, every time I take Xiao Zhang's car, I always take the co-driver." I am used to it, and I wronged you today. " I was so angry that I clenched my fist so hard that I almost killed someone. Who would have thought that she finally got to her house, and she actually said …

"Xiao Zhang's daughter-in-law, why are you unhappy? I don't look well, and she found me banging testily! Aren't you happy that I took the car? "

"Zhang, I didn't mean to make you two unhappy! Why don't you let me off now? I will never ride in your car again! It doesn't matter how I go home, mainly because you two don't want to be unhappy! " She unfastened her seat belt and got ready to get off.

I see. Well, don't get off. It's already at her house. If you don't get off, you should go to my house. I had a brainwave and quickly said to Sister Li, "Sister, of course I'm not angry with you! But if you give me some fares, I will be happier! Hey, my sister is joking, you can't take it seriously? "

My husband turned around and stared at me, and Li Jie slammed the door and left. When I got home, my husband gave me an ideological education. He insisted that I was too aggressive today and should not talk to his leader like this, which would make him feel bad at work.

I said to him, "I tell you, don't you drive this woman home again!" " I see that she is green tea. "My husband said that I was unreasonable, and it was clearly that the leaders valued him. And told me to stop fooling around. Maybe he will get a promotion next time.

"Why? You are distressed when someone else's wife is pregnant, and you are not distressed when your wife is pregnant! " I touched my stomach and said to my husband in tears.

Hearing this, my husband reacted instantly. He hugged me carefully and said, "Wife, you are the oldest. You said you wouldn't drive her if you didn't drive her. I just don't know why you hate Sister Li so much. "

Hey, straight is straight! You can't even tell the difference between green tea! Forget it, discuss something important with him first. In the future, my husband goes to work by subway, and I drive to work, which also saves the hard work of squeezing the subway. Now that I think about it, it's a good thing I didn't drive Li Jie again, or I'll be in trouble!

The next day, Sister Li asked her husband to drive her home. The husband said that he lent his car to his daughter-in-law and went back by subway. Li Jie's harsh voice rang again: "Are you kidding? What kind of car does a woman drive? Bring the car back tomorrow. I'm telling you, cars are people's legs. I'm not saying that your wife is so rude and inconsiderate! Look at her attitude yesterday! It's bad luck to marry such a person! "

Husband quickly explained, "Sister, it's not that I don't want to drive you. My daughter-in-law is pregnant and it is convenient for her to drive. "

Li Jie listened and stood for a long time angrily without saying a word. Who ever thought, she blurted out: "Oh, what's so difficult! Let your daughter-in-law company man drive her home! "

Later, my husband told me what Sister Li said, and I asked him if he would help me. He faltered for a long time, unable to speak. I knew this boy was timid! The somebody else all pointed at his wife's nose scolded, he Nuo Nuo can only passive Nuo Nuo bent his ears!

Anyway, I didn't promise to send Li Jie home again, and I achieved my goal. After that, Sister Li has been riding home with her husband's unit Xiao Wang. She is always lukewarm to her husband at work and occasionally makes things difficult for him. My husband has complained to me many times about this. He complained that I wouldn't let him near the leader. However, before long, my husband came to thank me!

It was a thunderstorm in autumn and it was very cold. Sister Li goes home in Xiao Wang's car as usual. At this time, she was almost 4 months pregnant. Supposedly, it has stabilized. Who would have thought that as soon as Sister Li got on the bus that day, her face turned white …

She painfully asked Xiao Wang to drive quickly and wanted to go home and lie down for a while. Who would have thought that Li Jie began to have a stomachache in the car, and she was red. This frightened Xiao Wang, who drove very fast. At first, I was almost in the hospital. Suddenly, a stray dog rushed in front of me. Xiao Wang quickly stepped on the brakes. Due to the excessive inertia, Li Jie was very upset.

By the time she arrived at the hospital, Sister Li was already in a coma and the child was gone. After a few days off, I went back to work. That's great. The narrow-minded woman picked on Xiao Wang's thorn and raised Xiao Wang in various ways, saying, "Who told you to brake suddenly?" Which is more important, the dog or the baby in my belly? It's all your fault that I miscarried! "

Well, Xiao Wang knocked out his tooth and swallowed it. He is very wronged! Obviously, she showed signs of miscarriage as soon as she got on the bus, but she just blamed Xiao Wang.

At the end of the story, Xiao Wang submitted his resignation, but he didn't even get the money from the security guard, and he also had a problem with Li Jie. There is a person who is as lucky and happy as a narrow escape. He is my husband.

Because she didn't continue to drive for Sister Li, her husband escaped and continued to work in the original unit. Later, Sister Li resigned for some reason, but her husband rose instead of falling, and her salary rose by 2000 yuan. This time, he insisted on praising me. Women still look down on women!

This is a trivial matter in life, but it involves a series of problems behind it. Life is a butterfly effect. If you don't know which step is wrong, it will lead to a completely different life in the future. I just want to say that where the opposite sex car sits is really worth studying.

First of all, the co-pilot is a comfortable seat for the whole car. When the car had an accident, the co-pilot was also the first to bear the disaster with the driver. Because Li Jie is pregnant, she wants to sit in the co-pilot to ensure that she and the fetus are in a comfortable state. This is normal and correct.

However, when there was a hostess in the car, Sister Li once again asked to take the co-pilot, which seemed rude and inhuman. Through a series of operations behind her, such as asking her husband to fasten her seat belt and pretending to be reasonable, we can see that Sister Li is too casual about the opposite sex and will not keep her distance from married women.

Finally, Sister Li wanted her husband to drive back to pick her up from work when she knew I was pregnant. In this case, we can see that she is not a good person, and she would rather sacrifice others than fulfill herself. And she has no empathy when I am pregnant with her.

It can be seen from this series of events that Sister Li is not easy to get along with, so I advised my husband to stay away from her and stop driving her off work.

1. If both parties are unmarried, the co-pilot can be preferred in the opposite sex car. We are all colleagues, so we can talk about things at work by the way to facilitate future communication. If there is love during the ride, that is a good thing.

If the driver is an unmarried man, the hitchhiker is a married woman. Then female colleagues should go home and ask their husbands' opinions first. With the husband's knowledge and consent, women can continue to choose to sit in the co-pilot.

The driver is a married man and the hitchhiker is an unmarried woman. If a hitchhiker is ill, he can sit in the passenger seat in order to ensure his comfort. However, if the child's owner is present, women should never sit in the co-pilot position, which will inevitably cause unnecessary suspicion.

The kindness of adults begins with learning not to cause trouble to others. The problem of where the opposite sex takes the bus seems simple, but it may cause a series of quarrels. When we face this situation, we might as well think about whether our actions will cause trouble to each other. If you think there is a possibility of 1%, which will cause difficulties to the other party, please think twice before you do it. After all, your every move may affect the life and death of a family.

This is a question about riding etiquette, according to the situation: 1 If a male colleague is driving, in the case of the two of you, first of all, you are unfamiliar. Ask his advice first and do as he asks. Second, if you are familiar with it, if he doesn't object, try to be the co-pilot position, so that you can talk and avoid taking him as a driver. Third, if the other person has a girlfriend or lover, try not to sit in the co-pilot seat, because that is the hostess's seat. 2. If a female colleague is driving, under normal circumstances, don't sit in the co-pilot position, unless the other party invites you, it will cause embarrassment.

Yichun is a picturesque town. The population of the city is only tens of thousands, and every day we meet are familiar faces. Therefore, colleagues of the opposite sex are always worried about being mistaken by acquaintances for what is the relationship. Because people are interested in lace news now, it is said that in order to avoid suspicion, female colleagues of the opposite sex are absolutely not allowed to be the co-pilot of their own cars. In this case, others should think it is a special relationship when they see it. Therefore, if people are afraid, we should not show warmth with others in order to attract lesbians.

In addition, I also pulled a female colleague of the opposite sex. Maybe people are also worried about being misunderstood by others. Therefore, most female colleagues of the opposite sex will not choose to sit in my co-pilot, but choose to sit in the back. I think this is a way to avoid suspicion.

Sure, take the co-pilot. It is a special relationship to be able to ride in a car with colleagues of the opposite sex. If you sit in the back seat, it is estimated that the owner will not sit again once. A pair of middle-aged male and female colleagues in the unit, every time they go to work, the male colleague is waiting for the female colleague. Female colleagues also enjoy five-star service, and male colleagues take the initiative to help her carry the bag and open the door for her. If this service is still sitting in the back row, it is estimated that it will not happen again!

When there are only two people, where the opposite sex colleague's car sits is related to the marital status of both parties. Once my husband came to pick me up from work, I habitually opened the door of the co-pilot, and then I saw a female colleague from his company sitting on the co-pilot. What is exasperating is that the female colleague didn't mean to get off and change to the back row at all.

The female colleague was having dinner with a friend, and happened to be near my home, so she took her husband's car. Think about it. Just hitchhiking. I will put up with it.

Although I didn't show it in my attitude, I still feel uncomfortable psychologically.

So when there are only two people, where the opposite sex colleague's car sits has a lot to do with the marital status of both parties:

1. Both parties are unmarried, and there is nothing to avoid suspicion. It is impolite to sit directly in the back row, so it is best to take the co-pilot.

Unmarried male colleagues and married female colleagues should avoid suspicion and sit in the back row. If you think it is too obvious to sit directly in the back row, find a reason, such as taking more bags and sitting in the back row is more spacious.

3. Married male colleagues and unmarried female colleagues should avoid suspicion and find the reasons as above.

4. Married male colleagues and married female colleagues, if they don't want to get into trouble, sit in the back row.

As soon as this question is raised, it is obviously between the opposite sex! Do you need to ask if you are the same sex? And I'm sure you must be a woman! Men won't ask this question whose answer is already legal [I want to be quiet]

My answer is straightforward! Don't say anything! What manners, manners! Rules! Those are all grandiose things! I can't solve my inner thoughts at all! Take a ride between the opposite sex. When a man takes a woman's car, he wants the man to sit in the back row. Unless they are close or in love with each other or have a superior-subordinate relationship, sit in the co-pilot position! If a woman sits in a car of a male colleague, ten men all want the opposite sex to sit in the "co-pilot" position next to her! Unless it is a serious henpecked "patient" [I want to be quiet] or a hypocritical hypocrite! Otherwise, everyone welcomes and expects the opposite sex to sit in their co-pilot position!

Of course, as for your question, I know your concern: 1 that is, if you sit in the co-pilot, you are afraid of being gossiped by others! If you sit in the back seat, you are worried that it will make the other person mistakenly think that you are on guard against something! 2 is that you are not only worried about other people's mouths, but also afraid that the driver's "heart" [dumbfounding] has ideas for you!

My advice to you is: if you are so worried, don't take this opposite sex colleague's car! It doesn't matter if you only take it occasionally, just take a short walk and sit wherever you want! If you need a long ride, personal advice is better to refuse! First, men and women can't just talk about work for a long time in the same car. After a long time, they will start to say "others"! This is the beginning of a red flag! Secondly, if you give money to the other party, you are embarrassed to accept it. If I don't give it to you, you will feel guilty. This is embarrassing, there are many hidden dangers! In the long run, your colleagues will be more closely related than others, and you will definitely lose a proper reserve and consideration in normal communication. Once released, without scruples, it is equivalent to giving others a sigh of relief! People don't care if you show your teeth on purpose. Since then, you two have become the "talk capital" of colleagues in the unit after dinner! Of the three, once your lover or boyfriend sees it one day, it will inevitably be suspicious! I will also stop you! But because you think you know it clearly, you will hate your boyfriend or husband for not trusting you or making a mountain out of a molehill! Over time, there must be a gap in your life!

So, listen to me. For the sake of long-term consideration, it is best not to hitch a ride! (unless there are other colleagues of the same sex riding together for a long time. Even if your boyfriend or husband is reasonable and supports you firmly, can you guarantee that your colleague's driver's lover won't ...! The most convenient and suitable way is to take the bus harder! Sometimes, don't take your clear conscience as the reason why others must understand you. Many troubles and troubles are caused by "self-righteous, improper things"! At present, the social atmosphere of "some aspects" is not very good. If you can do less, try not to cause more trouble! Otherwise, it's easy to regret it!

This question depends on whether there were other colleagues at that time. If so, you should let other colleagues sit first, and then you can sit at will, whether it's the co-pilot or the back seat. If it's just you two, you'd better sit in the back seat. In order to avoid being misunderstood by others (except lovers and people in love)