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The whole process has three stages: climbing relatives, getting engaged and getting married.

First, climb relatives.

The man asks one of his relatives and friends to intercede for his adult man, and this intercessor is called a matchmaker. The male matchmaker is called "Duke Zhou" and the female matchmaker is called "Matchmaker".

The matchmaker and the woman's parents are at least familiar and "accessible". Explain your purpose first, and put it

Tell the man's family (land, real estate, population, man's appearance, etc.). ) One by one. If the woman agrees, write "eight characters" (measuring "eight characters" can tell the future fate).

"Eight characters" have a fixed content and format. Women under the age of 16 are called "flower girls", and those over the age of 16 are called "Kun Zao". The "eight-character" sticker is the size of a red envelope, the brush is vertical, the number of words must be paired, and the word "Ji" should be added at the end of each stroke. If the woman doesn't agree, find an excuse to refuse.

The matchmaker ordered the "eight characters" for the man, and the man put the "eight characters" under the incense burner. After a while, if the family is safe, it is considered that the girl's life is good. If the family is not smooth, it is considered that the girl's life is not good, and the "eight characters" are returned.

The fate of the eight characters is usually no problem. "Matching eight characters" (eight characters in each line of their birth date) is decided by the blind fortune teller. If the match is good, it will be successful, and if it is not good, it will be retired. The "eight characters" retired, and the two sides kept quiet, kept secrets from each other, and did not let others laugh.

Second, engagement.

After the "eight characters" are properly matched, even if the two families get married, after a period of time, the man chooses an auspicious day and asks the matchmaker to inform the woman of the engagement date and ask her for her opinion on the engagement gift.

On the engagement day, the matchmaker will send a bride price (clothes, food, etc.). ) to the woman, and the woman will invite relatives and friends to accompany, entertain the man, and return gifts (shoes and hats, etc.). ). At this point, relatives and friends all know about the betrothal, and the betrothal is over.

Third, get married.

The wedding procedure is very complicated, and there are twenty basic procedures before and after.

1, depending on age. Is to let the blind fortune teller choose a wedding date.

People think that May is a "poisonous month" and July is a "ghost month", so they choose the first half of the wedding day.

It is always between January and April, and the second half of the year is always between August and December.

2. communication. Also known as "Xia Shu" and "Li Xia".

When the age is set, the man writes a "little red book" and prepares a table of dishes, which are sent to the woman's house by the matchmaker.

Tell the wedding date, send "little red book" and gifts.

The content and format of the "little red book" are also fixed: four-character couplets on the cover book, such as "Zhu"

Good, Qin Jin get married ","perfect match, spend the night together "and so on. In the book: "Tian Yinchun XXX (the name of the man's father) ended Sutton's first worship" and other eulogies. Then the woman opened the gift list.

The contents of the gift list generally include: gift money (dowry), "seal" (love money), wedding clothes, jewelry, cosmetics, food (including alcohol and tobacco), mothering mats, etc. If the man thinks that the woman's gift list is biased, the matchmaker will give a discount, which is called "deduction of money", and if the woman continues to increase the gift list, it is called "promotion". "Promotion" is rare, and "deduction" is very common.

3. Get ready to get married. The woman is busy preparing for the wedding, and wooden utensils are generally bought in Dongxiang, Zhenjiang or Baoyan.

The finished products are mostly made by nanxiang craftsmen. Wedding dresses are made by tailors, and curtains, pillows and shoes are mostly embroidered by girls to be married.

Please get married. Before marriage, the woman's relatives and friends invited the girl to dinner and bid farewell to the girl to be married.

5. Take a dowry. The day before the wedding, the man sent someone to the woman to get the dowry, and the matchmaker led the way.

Double the number, give all the money and things listed in the gift list to the woman, and the woman will host a banquet. If the woman finds that the actual gift is not enough, she will make comments and ask for supplements, otherwise she will not get married.

After lunch, the dowry includes: wardrobe, floor, table and stool, basin, quantum, hemp bucket, toilet, needle and thread plaque, copper lamp, copper teapot, copper foot stove, mirror box, quilt, pillow, curtain, clothes and so on. Among them, the mirror box and toilet will not be distributed on the same day, and the bride will send someone to deliver it in front of the sedan chair the next day.

6. Press the bed. In the past, the new bed was made of wood, with a floor above the ground in front, facing the bed.

There are carved patterns on the top, bottom, left and right sides of the board, commonly known as "flower beds" On the first night of marriage, the man lets one or three boys with both parents sleep with the groom for one night. This is called "pressing the bed". Under the four corners of the mattress, the owner has put away candy and boiled eggs in advance, and whoever finds them will return them.

7. sedan chair. The sedan chair must be carried by four "boys" (unmarried) and must be a "fresh mother"

"Xian Ye" means that both parents are intact and both are biological parents.

The matchmaker leading the sedan chair must be a man. If the matchmaker is a woman, her husband or son will take her place. The sedan chair goes out

The number of people is odd, and when you come back, add the bride to make it even.

The members of the sedan chair are: matchmaker, sedan chair, gong, spear, blow hand, palace lantern, flag bearer, torch and sedan chair. When the sedan chair comes back, don't take the old road.

8. "Open the door small" and "Open the door big". When the sedan chair entered the village boundary of the woman, the fire was announced, and the woman bolted the door, but the sedan chair was rejected. The matchmaker called the door, and the people in the door ordered wedding candy, cigarettes and money, and made a counter-offer. It often takes half an hour to toss and turn until the doorman is satisfied before opening the door to welcome guests. This is called "small door opening".

After entering the room, the host gave a warm reception. In addition to rock tea cakes, there are sweet soup and boiled eggs, commonly known as "three teas". At this time, the matchmaker will give the red envelope to the host, which is "opening the door". Sometimes the matchmaker will cut off some money privately (custom allows). If you go too far, there will be disputes or even quarrels between major media, which is called "noisy hair" by the people.

9. The bride got into the sedan chair. The bride didn't get up that morning, but got up before getting on the sedan chair and after the elders gave her money.

Just getting up, this is called "wake-up money".

At noon that day, the woman gave a banquet to entertain the man's guests. In order to catch up with the time, the man had to knock gongs and cannons again and again.

Car. "

Before the bride gets on the sedan chair, she carries the empty sedan chair to the front of the hall. The woman holds a red candle and takes photos up and down in the sedan chair, which is called "taking photos of the sedan chair" (the folks regard the sedan chair as a "mulberry door" rather than a mascot to ward off evil spirits).

When the bride gets into the sedan chair, the soles of her shoes should not be stained with the dust of her family, so as not to take away wealth. Usually the bride's father or brother comes to hold the sedan chair.

After getting on the sedan chair, the bride's mother or sister-in-law wants to "cry on the sedan chair": First, she apologizes to her daughter, who didn't eat and dress well at home and did a lot of things for her family. For more than ten years, mother and daughter have been inseparable day and night. The second is to tell her daughter to abide by women's morality, honor her in-laws, be considerate of her husband, live in harmony with her sister-in-law and win glory for her family.

After the bride sits in the sedan chair, she covers the top of the sedan chair, hangs up the sedan chair clothes, locks the sedan chair doors, fastens the sedan chair bars and carries the sedan chair on her shoulders.

Yes, a woman carries a bowl of water, puts a kitchen knife at the mouth of the bowl, and then spills the water in the bowl in front of the door. This is what the folks call "the water thrown out by the married girl", which means that the married girl belongs to her husband's family, at least for a lifetime, and she can't "return to the furnace". The knife is intended to cut off the retreat and encourage the girl to work hard and not be repatriated by her husband's family because of her mistakes.

10, shipped in barrels. The woman asked two people to put the toilet and mirror in the box (the toilet is full of red eggs and red ones)

Jujube, safflower and so on. There are mirrors, combs, grates, rouge and pollen in the mirror box. ) to the man, you must leave the man's house before the man's sedan chair enters the village, and you must avoid it on the way. The man held a small banquet, entertained the barrel delivery man, and rewarded him with happy money and zongzi.

1 1, got off the sedan chair and put on some makeup. The bride got off the sedan chair to avoid a certain zodiac sign and left consciously with jealousy. As soon as the car door opened, a girl brought a glass of red water, split the square head of a chopstick, dipped it in red water, clicked the watermark on the bride's face in the order of top, middle, left and right, and said:

A little makeup will make you live longer, and a little makeup will make you happy from now on.

Three-point makeup is three yuan, four-point makeup is four points.

Five points of makeup, five points of makeup, six points of makeup.

At seven o'clock, seven children are reunited, and at eight o'clock, eight holes are immortals.

Nine generations live together at nine o'clock, and ten o'clock is auspicious.

After making up, the bridesmaid carried a basket containing an axe (the homonym of "axe" means "wealth for generations"), a bunch of cypress trees (longevity) and an evergreen tree (husband and wife get along well for a hundred years, lasting forever) and gave it to the bride.

There are two ways for the bride to get off the sedan chair. One is that the groom takes the bride directly into the bridal chamber. The second is to help the bride with a sedan chair, prepare a pair of large shoes for the bride to wear, and the bridesmaid will help her into the bridal chamber.

12, sitting rich. The bride and groom are sitting on the edge of the bed, and the bridesmaids hand over two cups of sweet water and two glutinous rice balls. Eating glutinous rice balls and drinking sweet water symbolize the love and sweet reunion of husband and wife.

13, meeting the bride. There are two square tables in the main hall, with cakes and incense sticks on the tables, a new mat and a new quilt (folded into a rectangle) under the tables. The bride and groom both bow down, first to heaven and earth, and then to the family hall (God). The local custom is to worship the gods (pray) instead of their parents, but not the husband and wife.

14, get out of the groom. Send wine, send room, set dishes on the table, sit on the groom, accompanied by cousins.

Sit down, light candles and say something happy, such as: "Pick up candles, everyone is happy, red paper is opened, and children and grandchildren are full." "Candle tip to candle tip, rich for thousands of years, candle head to candle head, on behalf of princes." "A pair of candles, lighting room, cousins congratulate each other, happy to roll the groom", followed by wine delivery, which was arranged in advance. Generally, three people take turns to deliver wine to the groom and say wine words, such as:

This glass of wine respects the sky first, and the happy event coincides with a sunny day.

Good luck getting married today. Husband and wife love each other for a hundred years.

This glass of wine is a toast to the earth, with the right time and the right place.

I am so happy to marry the bride, I am very happy, very happy.

This glass of wine is full of joy, and the groom holds it to his father.

My father had a glass of wine, and my daughter-in-law Xiao Xian was really happy.

This glass of wine is beaming, and the groom holds the wine to honor his mother.

Mother has a glass of wine, and she always smiles happily.

A glass of wine is more plum blossoms, and the Tang emperor plays Chang 'e in the Moon Palace.

If the old man rides a donkey to congratulate him, the new house will be filled with flowers and candles.

Two glasses of wine and apricot blossoms, and Sambo loves Zhu Yingtai.

Dong Bin arrived with the sword and the god of wealth, and Zhang Xian sent his son to the door.

Three glasses of wine bloom, Zhengde (Mingwuzong) Hotel as husband and wife.

Fairy girl is fragrant with lotus flowers, and a godsend jade girl is matched with a golden boy.

Four glasses of wine, roses, the goddess of Wushan playing the king of the world,

The clock leaves the fairy wind, and the husband and wife are happy in their new home.

Five cups of pomegranate powder, Jinlong monopolizes Yutangchun,

Uncle holds Yunyang board to congratulate the couple.

Six glasses of wine, lotus music, Jinlian flirting with Uncle Song Wu,

Pick the baby in the basket, and the couple will bring a family photo.

Seven glasses of wine are fresh, and the dragon girl humiliated the white lotus.

Xiangzi played the flute to congratulate him, and a talented person and a beautiful woman were sweet.

Eight glasses of wine, sweet-scented osmanthus, and Xu Xianou met Bai Niangniang.

Iron gourd pours fairy wine, and a couple have been in love for a long time.

After the wine is delivered, the groom is sent to the bridal chamber, and the bride and groom raise their glasses together.

Then there is "irrigation", that is, pouring rice, wheat, melon seeds and other things into the bride's collar, and there are happy words: more irrigation, happy wedding night, full irrigation, giving birth to a son as a big official.

Followed by "spreading the account", peanuts, melon seeds, rice and wheat are scattered into the account, and there is a song about spreading the account:

Spread your tent eastward, just like the Twelve Peaks in Wushan. When you feel at ease in the peach blossom cave, you will get a small red flower.

The Buddhist paradise is like bloom, the son of the son belongs to IKEA on the same day, and the peach blossom dies at the right time.

In the south of the tent, at the top of Caiyun House, there is a blessing from the sky, and Huafeng Zhu Sanqing is more heroic.

In the north of the tent, the snow is like white catkins. Catkins are popular because of the wind, so they can make the whole family happy.

Venus and silver stars are all over the sky, and the delivery of the house is a great success. Please exit, the bride and groom will accompany the flowers.

Candles. When everyone quits, the noisy room will be over (Jurong dialect: North, color, music, going out and candles all rhyme. )。

15, open seats. There are many relatives and friends, and more than a dozen tables have been set up. There is not enough room at home to borrow from neighbors.

If you can't open a seat for the first time, you can wait for the first time before opening the second time, which is called "flow" by the people.

Water mat ".

Seats are very particular, especially for the "bride" (guests of the bride's family). If the escort arrangement is improper, the bride will blame the host family and even make a scene. If there is no suitable escort, it must be explained to the new bride's family in advance, and after obtaining the consent of the new bride, it must be resolved through coordination.

The next step is to "calculate the seat". "Counting seats" refers to designating someone to sit in a certain seat. There are high and low levels of seats, and the seats are also divided into upper and lower sizes. You can't make mistakes when counting seats. You must follow the rules and be fair, otherwise there will be contradictions. "Counting seats" is mainly aimed at the elders of new relatives and old relatives. If all goes well, all the guests are seated and the seats can be opened.

During the dinner, the newlyweds sent representatives to thank the chef for cooking with cigarettes and candy, accompanied by the man. During the dinner, the host of the man will propose a toast to the newlyweds and their relatives and friends, and the groom will propose a toast to the newlyweds and all their relatives and friends under the leadership of Duke Zhou (the matchmaker). When the bride is not seated, the bridesmaid will deliver the food to the new house.

16, see relatives. After the new relatives have eaten the banquet, the host invites the new relatives to meet the elders of the old relatives.

The bride and groom also participate. The matchmaker introduces the new relatives to the old relatives first, and then introduces the old relatives to the new relatives. This link is called "meeting relatives". At this moment, the woman's parents usually modestly claim that her daughter is young and not sensible. I hope my parents-in-law will give me more advice and treat her as a daughter. The man's parents assured the woman's in-laws that the marriage was over after saying goodbye. The bride said goodbye at once. Even if it is a long journey at night, the bride must go home and never stay with the man.

17, be in-laws. After the bride left, she began to quarrel with her in-laws, mainly with her father-in-law.

Relatives and friends found a broken straw hat and a rake for my father-in-law to carry the rake with his hat and wipe my father-in-law's face with black ash from the bottom of the pot.

Forced into a new house. At this time, my father-in-law was ugly, which attracted many relatives and friends to laugh. Anyway,

Don't be angry with your father-in-law. According to folk customs, you can make a scene, make a scene. The so-called "three days without children" is not taboo.

18, the bride opens her face. The next morning, an experienced woman was invited to "open her face" for the bride. First, apply powder on the bride's face and neck, then twist it on the bride's face with two intersecting thin lines, wring out the hair on her face and neck, and trim her temples and eyebrows. This is called "opening face", which is commonly known as "wringing face" among the people.

19, not vacant for one month after marriage. Within one month after marriage, the bride is not allowed to stay outside, even if she "comes back"

Door ",also must return to her husband's house the day before sunset.

On the second day after marriage, the groom took the bride back to her mother's house and hosted a banquet for her new uncle. The bride chatted with her parents. In the afternoon, the couple said goodbye and went home.

20. Xie Media. Choose an auspicious day within 10 and a half days after marriage, and the couple will bring incense sticks, firecrackers and gifts to the matchmaker's house to thank the media. Gifts include cloth socks, jujube bags, sugar bags, cakes and lucky money, and the matchmaker will host a banquet.

As the saying goes, "When a newcomer enters a room, the matchmaker climbs over the wall", but this is not the case in the local area. For three years in a row, the young couple will send a package to the matchmaker to pay New Year's greetings.

In rural areas, except for "dressing up", "rolling the groom", "delivering wine" and "spreading the bill", all other links have been basically preserved, but some links have been simplified. However, the procedure of getting married in the city has changed a lot. All cocktail parties are held in hotels, not at home. The wedding banquet adopts the combination of Chinese and western styles, omitting many traditional links.