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I remember going to Hokkaido once in the New Year.

It is said that the Japanese have a good service attitude, but I almost met the dilemma that money can't buy things.

In Tao Le Cake Shop in Xiaozundian Street, I had an in-depth cross-language and cross-cultural exchange with a Japanese waitress for a piece of double cheesecake, regardless of the instructions given by the leader that it was not convenient to buy it on the way back.

I can't walk when I see something delicious. I pointed to the signboard products in the window and said "Kolei" to show my profound Japanese literacy. My little sister chattered a lot of Japanese. Looking at my face and Sun's face failing side by side, she gave me a standard smile and added, How long do you take, eat?

Now I'm stupid. Maybe she is saying, how long will you eat this cake, so I recommend you to buy one or two? Temperance is the same as me. How can I indulge myself easily if I eat two barrels of food for the whole family? You must eat this cheesecake for at least three days. "Three days." I said.

Unexpectedly, the young lady's face changed: "No, no, no, three days?" Hu Liji "If I didn't minor in Hu Jian Putonghua as an amateur, who would recognize' Hu Liji' as Edge? But in order to eat, no matter how many days I have hallucinations, let alone a Japanese girl who speaks Hu Jian English. I said, "Yes, the edge, two days."

The little sister was happy, took out a box of packaged cakes and put an ice pack on it. "This, five hours. Refrigerator, two days. "

A few hours later, facing the delicious cheesecake behind me, I will still think of the afternoon when I switched languages with my little sister for one minute.

On the way back, I was thinking, what's the reason why I repeatedly struggled with the taste appreciation period and preservation conditions, and even preferred not to sell them? My friend who lives in Japan mentioned me. First, the Japanese want their own things to appear in front of others in the best state. Secondly, they are afraid that they will not taste good, look good, or even eat, which will bring trouble to others.

The most basic tenet of Japanese life is to try not to cause trouble to others.

In my impression, most Japanese literary and artistic works pursue the ultimate. On tenderness and delicacy, there are Yasujirō Ozu or Hirokazu Koreeda. As far as surprises are concerned, there are also themes such as escape, confession, or night walking, not to mention a lot of taboos about sadomasochism. The reality is that I only serve the Japanese in terms of meticulous work.

With the experience of Otaru, I left a heart for Hu to eat every time I bought food on this trip. When I got off the boat, I met something more unique in the shopping street of Raccoon Road in Sapporo.

After the cashier's grandfather scanned the code, he took out a printed piece of plastic A4 paper, on which a schematic diagram was clearly drawn in Japanese, Chinese and English: If there are any fresh or frozen foods, please continue reading. If you buy an ice pack, how much is it and how much time is guaranteed, please continue reading. If it is kept in the refrigerator, how long can it last? If there is no refrigerator, which categories are not recommended to buy, etc.

Maybe he can't even speak the most basic English. Grandpa has taken all the situations into consideration. I don't expect tourists to know Japanese, nor do I expect temporary help. No matter how much I do, I won't bother my customers. This is of course the way of doing business, but it is also the way of being a man.

This spring, I went to Osaka to inspect garbage sorting. I was surprised to see that there was almost no litter scattered on the roads, parks and stations along the way, and occasionally there were some pieces of paper that the Japanese would pick up for me.

Lu, a tour guide who is proficient in Chinese, told me that Japanese people are extremely sensitive to public areas, which is the boundary between themselves and others. If you can, don't influence others. Therefore, eating while walking is definitely a taboo for Japanese people. He also showed me a garbage bag and a portable ashtray.

The garbage bag is folded into a heart, which at first glance is Mrs. San Lu's ingenuity. A portable ashtray is like a small cylinder with a hat. When the lid is opened, it is a metal inner container for receiving soot. I saw that the ashtray only shook hands, so I asked Mr. Sheng Lu if it was designed so small that it was enough for you. He smiled: "I don't smoke. This is for the group tourists, just in case. "

On the way to Hakodate, I saw a girl driving a Porsche, burning waves and wearing sunglasses, smoking while driving on the speeding seaside highway. But she doesn't open the window or dust. Near the mirror, there is a portable ashtray. I laughed to myself. Isn't this the legendary "I smoke and drink a perm, but I know I am a good girl"?

There are some details that are unforgettable.

Engaged in the service industry in Japan, whether it is a taxi driver with thick hair or an exquisite hotel front desk, as long as there are guests, they will help carry boxes. Later, I learned from a friend that the Japanese packed their luggage in return for sympathy, and each box was controlled within 23 kilograms, so as not to cause inconvenience to the service staff.

When it needs to be changed, it is always equipped with a "two-change machine" automatic change. When I take a bus in China, when I meet two people who invest 5 yuan, the indifferent driver will not say much. Enthusiastic drivers will ask the next passenger to give back 1 yuan, but in Japan, machines will solve all this.

In another hot spring hotel, my leader and I were so bored that we wanted to play an amusement machine, but there were only 5000 banknotes in our pockets. Looking at two replacement machines, we were dumbfounded. The leader said, "It's over. Find 50 100. When to use it? " As a result, the money was inserted, but four 1000 bills came out.

In Japan, the logical premise of all systems and machines is to provide solutions in consideration of any possible situation, even the worst case. Anyone who has been to Japan will be deeply impressed by its fine service and convenient life. The source of all this is a deep-rooted concept: try not to cause trouble to others.

I believe some people will say that everything becomes more and more indifferent at the thought of not causing trouble to others. It's true.

How lonely the Japanese are, and how lively the China people are. Breaking off social ties and fighting tooth for tooth is undoubtedly a fatal blow to China people.

But everything is measured. From what I have seen and heard, most of them are far from thoughtful and indifferent, and they are still rushing on the road of disturbing others unconsciously.

Many people don't have much contact on weekdays. The circle of friends caught a glimpse of you abroad and left a message: Go abroad, too, and bring me a bag to buy some cosmetics. It's easy to be affectionate. There is no mutual affection, which is a growing problem. If ten people come out like this and meet a nice guy, this trip is probably ruined.

Many people pay lip service to food. Once they do it together, they will be spoiled from time to time: You are so good at it, let's do it together, and capable people will work harder. Your English is very good. You can translate this. You studied marketing. Isn't this PPT yours Speaking of later, I don't know whether this is a simple help or a duty.

Of course, the place between people does not encourage indifference, but it also refuses to be incomprehensible and inconsiderate. I have written before, "Friendship is friendship, only when you associate first can you have a good impression. And communication, of course, is mutual assistance and reciprocity, only when you know what you mean. " The starting point of all this is to be yourself as soon as possible and not to cause trouble to others.

In fact, the more people who don't want to make trouble, the more they can understand the difficulties of others. It is more harmonious to make friends with such people. It's a pity that there are many people who care about themselves and few people who understand others. Some troubles are not conscious, and some troubles are intentional.

I have a brother who is very popular in the circle and has achieved financial freedom. I have a travel driver and a schedule assistant. But one of the details that impressed me the most was that I would clean up the scraps of paper on my desk even if I didn't have to do my daily work myself. The reason is: "Cleaning people are also very hard. If you can do it yourself, you will cause less trouble to others. " If success is a collection of thousands of accidents, this is probably one of them.

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