Generally speaking, do men really don't understand the subtext of women, or are they pretending?

No matter you are chasing women, or in the ambiguous family stage, or in love, I believe you will have the same trouble: what they say is completely different from what they want in their hearts!

For example:

"I'm not angry, so I sleep."

"Well, go to bed early. Good night. "

She said she wasn't angry, so you really don't think she is? How can your brain be as straight as your rectum? Seeing your reply, her lungs were absolutely furious. Consequence of this: a black storm is waiting for you (smiling face of schadenfreude)

"Don't buy, don't buy, it's so expensive."

"Well, whatever you say, don't buy it."

She said if you don't buy it, you won't buy it? She has been thinking about it for so long. Are you really "obedient" not to buy it for her? So after the date, no matter what you do, she will not be happy!

Women are duplicitous creatures, so this article will take a look at what women say is false!

0 1| I can handle it alone.

A friend of mine, Xiaoyu, is a typical polite girl. She talked about a boyfriend as straight as steel. She said that some time ago, she got acute appendicitis in the middle of the night and her roommate took her to the hospital. She called her boyfriend and said that she was ill. Her boyfriend was embarrassed to say that the dinner between the two brothers was not over yet.

The little fish was particularly disappointed and sad, and said disheartened, well, you eat first and I'll do it myself.

Later, Xiaoyu broke up, and no matter how the other party retained him, he never turned back. If the important moment doesn't appear, don't appear for a lifetime.

Maybe many girls with good cards have one characteristic: they don't want to disturb each other and dare not say what they really want.

But if you try to be brave alone, you are spoiling each other.

I remember a hot issue in Zhihu not long ago:

She travels for a long time and comes back every Saturday morning. My boyfriend is not very busy at work, but he never asks to pick him up.

So she asked helplessly: should her boyfriend go to the airport to pick up his girlfriend who came home late from a business trip?

Under the problem, she went on to say, don't bother him in the middle of the night. Even if her boyfriend offered to pick him up, she would feel sorry for him and say, "No, I can do it myself."

But you didn't pick up the plane once, and you didn't even care. Worst of all, you call home to ask for taxi information and talk to her, so that she doesn't feel afraid, the cost is lower, and girls can feel the warmth of being loved.

Think about it, how lonely, helpless and disappointed a girl is, dragging her luggage and waiting for a taxi in an empty airport every Saturday morning.

The best answer to this question came from an anonymous netizen, who said this:

My wife is a nurse. She works three shifts and the night shift ends at 10: 30 in the evening. Let's clean it around 1 1. When patients come during shift change, they are often busy until after 1 1 half past one. Generally, there are two small night shifts a week.

I work regularly, from nine to five, and occasionally travel.

What I want to say is that my wife and I have been married for five years. As long as I am at home, I will pick her up after the night shift, rain or shine!

I used to rent a house near her unit, so I walked to pick it up. Later, I lived a little far away, so I went to pick it up by bike. Later, I lived in my own house and was far away, so I drove to pick it up. When she gets off work with her colleagues, I will give my colleagues a lift on the way.

After five years of marriage, I should have picked her up hundreds of times, including Spring Festival, stormy night, starry night and quarreling night! So much so that when I get together with friends, as long as I pick up my wife from work today, I have never advised me to drink!

I took my wife and never felt that I paid more than her. I just want to wait until I am old and recall the countless nights when I went to pick her up. There is endless sweetness!

There is really no harm without comparison, and it is not easy for anyone. It's just that people who really love you are willing to spend more time.

The same is true of chasing women. Picking her up to accompany her provided emotional value. She is diligent and decent without losing her figure. A woman has no love, and whoever is kind to her will go with her.

02| Then I'll sleep.

No matter at what stage of your relationship, you should know what a woman says ≠ what she really thinks, so what is her subtext?

She said "hmm" is not very happy, "mm-hmm" is enough;

Her answer to "Oh" is unpleasant. You'd better reflect on what went wrong quickly.

When she said "ha ha", she was perfunctory. Only a long list of "ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha" was the real smile.

She said, "Then I'll sleep." You must never say good night. She was very angry. You have to ask her if she is angry.

She said, "I've been losing weight recently." If she sees something delicious and her eyes are bright, she will be happy to buy it for her.

She spits at others with you, don't give her analysis and reasons, just stand in a camp with her;

You should see through her duplicity, don't ask her if she wants it, just ask her directly.

03| Nothing.

Girls in the love stage and the early love period don't say anything, maybe they are just superficial politeness, but they may silently reduce your score and even let you out.

At this stage, it is best to be cautious, make fewer mistakes, and remember that not reducing points is the greatest victory.

When the relationship is stable, generally speaking, even if it is a minor fault to apologize and correct, our little fairy's mind is not that small.

But big problems such as cheating, previous problems, cheating on her, even if you beg for forgiveness, I still have to tell you in frustration that this matter will never turn over in her heart.

She will suffer in a corner that you can't see, and she will no longer trust you. When any contradiction breaks out in the future, this buried knot will deepen the contradiction and push your feelings to the edge of the cliff.

She said she forgave, but she never forgave.

If it has happened, keep it a secret, make up for it, and restrain yourself from doing it again.

Don't waste money, it's not practical.

In fact, this is particularly obvious in my mother! Every time my father and I send flowers to my mother, my mother shyly scolds me: it's a waste of money and it's not practical at all.

As a result, in the next few days, my mother would hum a tune and run to smell the flowers before going out.

At the same time, my father and I have the privilege of not being scolded for a week. This business is really cost-effective

As a creature, women naturally like these "imaginary" things, that is, beautiful, vain and romantic things. Well, what can we do except spoil them?

Of course she is very happy when you give her practical things, but these gifts smell like fireworks, but I always feel that your love for her is not romantic enough and pure enough.

Try going out and pressing the road to secretly buy a bunch of roses to do magic for her, and buy her a hydrogen balloon to prevent her from getting lost.

She was jealous of Tik Tok's resort hotel, so she took her there, called her name to the sea while there were few people, and then said I love you loudly.

Try to occasionally fill the trunk with pink balloons and give her a gift that she has been longing for for for a long time but can't bear to buy, until she inadvertently opens it and finds it.

Although these gifts are not cost-effective, their greatest value is to express their love. In a woman's mind, they symbolize your purest love for her, and in the end, she will return your gentler and richer love.

Of course, it is good to try these "virtual" occasionally. Girls can't get used to it every day and will be spoiled.