Lesson 65438 +0: Seven Processes of Chasing Girls

These seven steps are an inseparable whole.

1, understanding objects

If there really is a girl in front of you, and there is a girl you like very much, are you willing to do it abruptly and take a chance, or are you willing to find out what kind of person she is, what kind of environment she grew up in, what she needs, and what kind of person she will be attracted to first? All these require you to make a prediction about her.

The stage of understanding the object often includes the process of understanding you and her.

Some people will advise you to strike up a conversation more often. But I think, in addition to chatting up, you actually have other options to better understand her choices. Chatting up can exercise a person's courage and ability to talk freely with the opposite sex. If you think that the opportunity is only once, only a few seconds, and once you miss it, it is an irreparable regret, then it is a good choice to strike up a conversation;

But if you can be sure that you will meet her next time, there is no need to strike up a conversation rashly. Many times, the natural way of understanding will be more conducive to the later advancement. The blessing of "social authentication" that can be provided in this way is actually very low and it is not easy to follow up.

You need to know as much as possible about her, whether by chatting up or otherwise. When chatting up, first observe her dress and see if there are any companions around her.

This information can help you predict. In a non-chatting environment, you can get to know each other in a more reasonable way, such as through her friends, classmates and colleagues, and get to know her better. The more you know, the easier it is to push back. In short, in the first stage, you have to make a prediction for each other.

At this stage of "knowing the object", there is another important task, that is, to have a pre-judgment for yourself. Besides knowing who the other person is, you should also know who you are.

Step 2 show up

The world is multidimensional. Different people live in different dimensions, and it is often difficult to understand and communicate with each other. If you want to broaden the scope of your attraction to the opposite sex, you should expand the dimensions of your life, which will not only enhance the social connection between you and her, but also help you understand her, analyze your own needs and establish contacts.

Han Han is an example. If you don't mention his controversial "ghost gate", at least his image is both a writer and a racing driver. It can be said that he lives in many dimensions and has a multi-dimensional life. How to show your multidimensional life? What are the points that need attention?

In the stage of "showing yourself", there is an important concept called "social evaluation". It refers to the comprehensive evaluation of you formed by her friends, family and all the people who have social relations with her in her environment. This is a very important indicator. Its significance lies in emphasizing that your self-presentation must conform to a specific social environment.

Also give an example. You can dress luxuriously in nightclubs, just like a proud peacock; On campus, you can dress simply and simply. If you wear fancy clothes in nightclubs, wander around the campus, or come to nightclubs in rustic clothes, it is not in line with the social environment and will reduce the corresponding social evaluation.

Oriental culture is a culture that attaches great importance to clusters. We don't pay attention to clusters, but to who is right and who is wrong. At least according to the current national conditions, the display mode of Thai peacocks may not get good results. Her little sisters, friends or classmates may think you are too strange, too exaggerated or too frivolous, which will lower your social evaluation. If your social evaluation is too low, below a certain threshold, there is usually absolutely no chance to have sex with her.

Because at this time, she won't feel safe enough to go to a strange private space with you. In other words, the defect of "harmony with people" prevents you from gaining the advantages of "good weather" and "good location". Therefore, in the process of showing yourself, we must always pay attention to social evaluation and keep it within a reasonable range. This is the law of "harmony between man and nature".

Of course, your social evaluation can be very high, but sometimes you can just show her a part to avoid her being attracted to you too much. This is also for the last step of the whole process, that is, the requirement of "classification treatment".

Step 3 Analyze the requirements

People's needs are diverse. Dig deeper and you can divide it. For example, external demand and domestic demand are a division.

You can judge her social needs through preliminary understanding, psychological analysis or cold reading. For example, what does her social environment need?

What are the external requirements or constraints on her? What kind of external pressure is she under? These are all external needs.

Endogenous demand may be reflected in her dependence and appreciation of a label. For example, she likes people who have the courage to take responsibility, or it may be because she lacks the courage to break through in her own personality, so she subconsciously looks for such a responsible man as compensation.

When you analyze her internal needs, you can often get twice the result with half the effort and move forward with a clear goal. Either it can directly meet her internal needs, or it can support her to resist the pressure of external needs when her external needs suppress internal needs.

Step 4 establish contact

The fourth stage is called "establishing contact". At this stage, there are two main ideas, one is "* * * vibration", that is, the two have the same point; One is "filling in the vacancy", that is, what the other party doesn't have, you need to make up for it yourself. This is the first turning point and the final destination of the first three stages.

"* * * vibration" refers to the similarities between you and her in appearance, mood, personality, hobbies, experiences, values and even beliefs, which can cause * * * sounds. Let's give an example combining the demand analysis in the previous stage. Split the other person's personality first, and then echo the expression of his son's personality, so as to achieve * * *. For example, if her name is Ting, you can divide her into two people, one is Ting and the other is Ting.

"Dating" represents the demands, expectations and pressures of the external environment and the whole society, that is, external demand; On the other hand, Xiao Ting represents her own interests, desires, wishes, preferences, etc. , that is, internal demand.

Then, you can split yourself in the same way to echo her two corresponding aspects. By expressing your inner similarity with her, she will feel a kind of support. Her trust in you may also increase greatly.

This feeling can bring you closer quickly.

In the "* * * vibration", what we seek is * * *. Conversely, "difference" is also worth seeking and using. This is the idea of "filling the gap". People often don't care much about things that have nothing to do with themselves.

People are most concerned about and interested in, either the same as themselves or the opposite of themselves. The latter usually refers to the missing part of oneself.

Usually, it is enough to show some labels that she is missing or wants to have.

Usually, we advocate * * * vibration first, and then fill the vacancy. This is a relatively safe order. Through this order, you can establish a deep connection with her and let her have a direct bridge with you in her heart.

Step 5 choose the right time

The fifth stage is called "timing". In fact, it is inseparable from the sixth stage, that is, "rapid advancement." "Timing" is precisely to prepare for "rapid advancement" in order to complete the first intimate contact in "rapid advancement".

So, how to prepare? The most important thing is to guide each other to a private and undisturbed place and stay together for a period of time. This is a good opportunity. We will help you analyze from the aspects of "weather", "geographical location" and "harmony with people".

"Time" is usually a time when people are not easily disturbed. At this time, no one will rush in, no special weather or climate conditions will be encountered, and it is not easy for you to change places with her.

"Geographical location" generally refers to the privacy of the environment. There, I will not be disturbed by others, nor will I say that there are too many unsafe or unpredictable factors. The environment itself is better. The neater and more elegant the location, the more conducive to the advancement of things. This is the right place. A room in a five-star hotel is definitely much better than a messy rental house.

"Human harmony" is generally the driving force or resistance for your friend and her friend to make progress.

This is closely related to social evaluation. For example, a girl wants to go out with you, but her little sister says to her, "Oh, you go out with someone. This man is too bad. He is a rotten person. He often wants to push a female fan, just like Qilu. The point is that he can't push it back. Worse than an animal. Why did you go out with him? "

This is not good, which means that you have not got "harmony". If you have "harmony", her little sister may even say, "Wow, you're going out with him, handsome boy!" You can consider pushing him down! Don't come back to see me until you push it down! Get dressed and go, now or never! "Which is more conducive to your promotion is self-evident.

If the weather, location, people and people are ready, it is an excellent opportunity.

Step 6 move fast

(The so-called rapid advancement means that you have to quickly complete the first intimate contact with each other in a series of ways under the conditions of favorable weather, geographical location and human harmony. )

Then, the sixth stage is "rapid advance". You should quickly complete the first intimate contact with each other through a series of ways under the conditions of favorable weather, geographical location and human harmony.

Be flexible, surprise, break or bypass each other's psychological defense. This stage is the second turning point.

Rapid advancement is a way to "knock down" in a short time, which is often called "explosion", that is, the relationship between two people has changed greatly in a short time, from strangers to the extent that they can have a direct relationship.

You should use a set of actions or strategies to break through the "last minute resistance" of the other party. Through actual combat, we found that reverse thinking is most beneficial for you to bypass obstacles and win by surprise. So when "breaking out", you need some reverse thinking.

The link of "rapid advancement" is very important. It can be said that success or failure is at stake. If it can be successfully completed, it can transition to the stage of "classification processing";

On the other hand, if you fail in this link, the situation will be very bad and there may be no chance to move on in the future. It can almost be said that this is a point of no return.

This is why we attach importance to the fifth step-we don't have to fight unprepared, only reliable opportunities can guarantee a reliable success rate. Once you try to push each other down, but you don't succeed, you will find it difficult to find such an opportunity in the future. Women will have a psychological mechanism of "reverse rationalization" and will look for reasons after things happen.

If you fail in the promotion, she will think, "This bad guy, XXX, wants to take advantage of me, but it's a good thing I didn't follow him." . I will never go out with him again. "This is a bad ending, and you may never have a chance to advance again. And if you stretch the front too long, don't take the initiative to seek rapid progress, or have entered a private place, but nothing happens, your relationship will quickly cool down. So "fast" is very important, and the success rate is also very important.

After successful and rapid advancement, congratulations, you can enter the last stage: positioning processing.

7, positioning processing

The last stage is "positioning processing". This includes both your classification of her and her classification of you.

Let's start with your position on her. I think, since you have achieved close contact with her, you should have a clear understanding of her. What kind of relationship do you want to keep with her? Is it an accidental one-night stand or a tacit long-term lover? Is it a formal boyfriend and girlfriend, or a lifelong partner who talks about marriage?

Conversely, her positioning for you is also very important.