I found myself masturbating for more than a week, and I was afraid of what would happen in the future. What should I do?

Masturbation is also called masturbation. In a narrow sense, it refers to a phenomenon of touching and stimulating one's external genitalia with one's hands to satisfy one's psychology and achieve masturbation.

Broadly speaking, any kind of self-touching and mutual touching that stimulates genitals and other sensitive parts for sexual pleasure and satisfaction can be regarded as masturbation. Masturbation is an act of self-venting sexual desire during sexual impulse.

Masturbation is a common phenomenon, which exists among men, women and children of different ages. But it is the most common among teenagers.

Masturbation has existed since childhood, but in childhood, it is mostly due to the friction caused by unconsciously occasionally playing with genitals, wearing tight pants, climbing poles and other activities that stimulate genitals and cause pleasure. Both men and women, after puberty, due to physical changes in the body, will naturally have sexual impulses and demands. During this period, they are in a state of sexual tension, full of desire, curiosity and fantasy about sexual issues. As an instinct, they will consciously masturbate under the drive of sexual physiology and psychology.

Because sexual impulse is not dominated by the brain but determined by the level of sexual excitement in the blood, it is a natural phenomenon that is not transferred by human will. From sexual maturity to legally satisfying sexual requirements-marriage, people usually have to wait for 7-8 years or even longer, and during this period, their sexual energy is the highest, so they always look for opportunities to relieve sexual tension. In this case, masturbation may be the most convenient and safest way. It doesn't involve the opposite sex or get involved in emotional entanglements, and it won't lead to sexual assault or even sexual crimes, so it is a reasonable way to relieve sexual tension and solve some social problems caused by sexual problems.

There is a set of data in China suggesting that 86% have a history of masturbation, and the age of masturbation mostly starts from 12 to 16, with an average age of 14, which is consistent with the age of nocturnal emission.

Masturbation is a kind of privacy in our country, and most people will not openly admit and talk about this kind of sexual behavior.

How to evaluate masturbation?

For years, people have been arguing whether masturbation is harmful, harmless or beneficial.

Especially in recent 10 years, masturbation has been a common concern of men, and the evaluation of masturbation by different authors in publications is quite inconsistent. For example, "masturbation is harmless, a normal phenomenon in the process of sexual maturity, and a normal and universal masturbation behavior", but some people think that "masturbation can be used as a treatment for impotence, chronic prostatitis and other diseases, which is equivalent to strengthening genital exercise".

The evaluation of masturbation cannot be generalized.

Gopula believes that moderate masturbation is not a bad phenomenon. For a person who is physically and mentally healthy and knows others, moderate masturbation is harmless, especially when the husband and wife are separated for a long time, the woman is sick and pregnancy is abstinence. After marriage, due to the different needs of husband and wife, it is impossible to be completely consistent, and one party sometimes makes up for its own shortcomings in this way. Therefore, it is more realistic to masturbate at this time.

Unmarried men and women regularly masturbate 1 ~ 5 times a month to relieve their psychological or physical satisfaction without affecting their health.

Masturbation under the guidance of a doctor is one of the methods to treat some sexual dysfunction. Masturbation is often used to collect semen samples for clinical examination.

Excessive masturbation

Masturbation itself will not bring any harm and adverse consequences.

However, excessive masturbation is a psychological disorder, which will seriously affect health and cause some diseases of urogenital system and sexual neurasthenia.

Mainly as follows:

(1) Central nervous system and systemic symptoms such as depression, hypomnesis, inattention, decreased understanding, insomnia, dreaminess, dizziness, palpitation, etc.

(2) Chronic prostatitis, diseases of genitourinary system, causing frequent urination, white urine, discomfort of lower abdomen and perineum, weakness of waist and knees, loss of libido, impotence, premature ejaculation and no ejaculation.

Excessive masturbation can be divided into three aspects: ① excessive masturbation; ② Overstimulated masturbation; ③ Improper use of sexual tools. Excessive masturbation is also reflected in masturbation beyond one's mental cognition.

It is frequent for ordinary young people to masturbate more than once a week. Too frequent masturbation on the one hand makes people's spirit and energy decline, on the other hand, it stimulates organs too frequently, which may lead to impotence, premature ejaculation or female frigidity. If frequent masturbation becomes a habit and even thinks that masturbation can replace sexual life, it will become a hotbed of morbid personality such as homosexuality and narcissism.

Excessive stimulation of masturbation refers to excessive stimulation of genitals, such as overexertion. This is more serious damage to reproductive organs, and it is often easy to cause organic damage. At the same time, the threshold of sexual excitement is raised, resulting in sexual apathy or sexual satisfaction during normal sexual intercourse.

Improper use of sexual tools refers to the situation that the reproductive organs and sexual arousal are damaged by the bad influence of some bad books, magazines and movies, or the illegal propaganda of sex shops and the unauthorized or collective use of sexual tools without the guidance of doctors. For girls, the use of sex tools generally leads to the rupture of hymen.

Masturbation causes a mental burden, which is hard to extricate itself. In particular, some people masturbate, which will lead to guilt and self-blame, and often want to correct it. However, under the spontaneous impulse of physiology, it is difficult to control oneself, and the desire for goodness is frustrated, resulting in mental damage.

What kind of influence does masturbation have on fertility?

Masturbation refers to the act of venting sexual desire by hand when sexual impulse occurs. If masturbation happens by accident, it will not have much impact on physical and mental health. If you masturbate often, it will have a bad effect on your body and mind. In fact, the harm of masturbation to the body lies not in the loss of semen, but in the abnormal psychological state caused by frequent masturbation and the influence of repeated stimulation on sexual function.

After masturbation, teenagers often have complex psychological states such as regret, shame and anxiety, and are prone to sexual dysfunction symptoms such as fatigue, backache and leg weakness, listlessness, decreased libido, premature ejaculation, nocturnal emission and no ejaculation. In severe cases, it may lead to neurasthenia and chronic prostatitis due to repeated congestion of organs.

Long-term frequent masturbation often causes serious mental burden. Due to frequent ejaculation, the quality of semen can be reduced, and sexual desire can be reduced. Some people can't ejaculate due to the increase of ejaculation stimulation threshold in normal sexual life, which may affect fertility.

As for whether masturbation will lead to impotence, the current data can not explain the relationship between the two. Therefore, those patients who think that their impotence is caused by masturbation when they are young should eliminate their psychological guilt and anxiety, look for reasons from other aspects and find a treatment that suits them.

Masturbation mostly occurs among teenagers, which is quite common. Someone has done a survey in this field and found that 90% of men over 20 years old have a history of masturbation. During the period of 1986, a survey was conducted among male students in several universities in Shanghai. Among the 353 students surveyed, 3 10 had masturbated, accounting for 85.3%. Someone surveyed 2200 female students in an American university and found that more than 50% of them masturbated. Masturbation of adolescent boys and girls is a sexual activity accompanied by normal sexual development. During this period, masturbation can be considered as a reasonable way to relieve sexual tension as long as it is moderate and temperate. Sexologists have conducted a lot of comparative studies on masturbators and non-masturbators, confirming that masturbation has nothing to do with mental diseases such as neurasthenia, manic depression, schizophrenia, personality disorder, mental retardation, and psychosomatic diseases such as gastroduodenal ulcer, bronchial asthma, essential hypertension and coronary heart disease. Studies also show that masturbation has nothing to do with future intelligence, achievement, social adaptability and sexual function. This shows that masturbation is not as terrible as people think.

In fact, moderate masturbation is not only harmless, but also beneficial, which helps to relieve sexual tension and psychological stress.

How to prevent masturbation?

Excessive masturbation needs prevention. If you masturbate wantonly and indulge in pornography, you will inevitably neglect your studies and do harm to your health, especially the teenagers who are in the mature stage of sexual development, and their psychological state is unstable, so it is even more necessary to improve their self-control and self-discipline ability. The key to prevent masturbation lies in the following points:

We should treat masturbation correctly, give priority to prevention, apply the methods of psychotherapy and psychological consultation, strengthen the construction of spiritual civilization and sex education, make attention develop in moral, intellectual and physical aspects, and overcome excessive concentration. Pay attention to the rules of life and life adjustment, avoid wearing too tight clothes, go to bed on time, and don't be too full for dinner. Don't be too warm and overweight when sleeping, sleep on your back and lie prone, and don't eat irritating food such as cigarettes, wine, coffee and spicy food for dinner. Develop good hygiene habits, pay attention to keep vulva clean, wash frequently and remove the bad stimulation of scale. Encourage men and women to participate in social activities, reduce sensitivity to the opposite sex and avoid puppy love. Teenagers who commit masturbation habits should not be severely criticized, but should be given help to establish confidence and determination to quit masturbation, and must not use exaggeration or intimidation, otherwise it will increase their ideological burden. If there is inflammation of reproductive system, take anti-inflammatory drugs and other symptomatic treatment to eliminate the discomfort of patients.

It is necessary to carry out correct sexual psychological and physical health education for teenagers, so that they can master the basic knowledge about sex and correctly handle rational tension and sexual impulse. Teenagers should keep in mind the following points if they want to overcome the habit of masturbation: (1) Set up lofty ideals and ambitions, and focus on study and work. (2) Cultivate good hobbies and dissolve excessive sexual energy through colorful spare time. (3) Reduce the bad stimulation, and don't watch pornographic books and movies. (4) Correctly understand the harm of excessive masturbation, establish the determination to overcome habitual masturbation, and liberate yourself from the mental pressure of masturbation.

Masturbation refers to the act of touching the sexual organs with hands or other objects to reach orgasm. 90% of men and 30% of women have masturbated. Men masturbate prematurely before 18 years old, which will lead to poor fertility of sexual organs and early decline of renal function. Long-term masturbation can cause penile curvature, shortness, impotence and premature ejaculation. The number of masturbation in adolescence should be controlled below 2 times a month, and women should avoid inserting hard objects into the vagina to avoid vaginal injury and various inflammations.