Have you ever accepted the inferiority complex projected on you by others?

I went to Hong Kong and booked the Novotel Hotel. Because the hotel is near the airport, I called a taxi. Who knows, I met a driver with a very bad attitude.

At first, the driver got off and helped him with his luggage. I heard that we informed him of the hotel in Chinese, but he didn't say a word. We chatted in the back seat and sometimes asked questions, but the driver just turned a deaf ear.

After arriving at the hotel, the driver didn't get off the bus, just opened the door of the trunk and let us get off and get our luggage by ourselves.

This service attitude is to look down on others with indifference and make them feel disrespected. Another bad service is to express and convey your attitude towards others with words and expressions.

Two years ago, my friends and I traveled to Japan. In the foreign tourist service center of Narita Airport, you need to buy a ticket to Shinjuku and a subway penguin card. I want to buy a coupon and charge more money in my penguin card.

When I was communicating with a staff member in English, the other party became extremely impatient when they saw that I didn't understand it once. His expression contains impatience, contempt and inexplicable superiority from himself.

When I expressed several times that I wanted to give more money to Penguin Cardo, I still couldn't do it and finally had to give up.

Friends said that they all said that the service in Japan was good. What's so good about it?

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Traveling abroad, we can clearly feel whether the service provided by the people of a country is good or bad, because our image is a symbol.

We come from China, with yellow skin and black hair. Once we appear somewhere, the other party can clearly recognize us. And if we use secular standards to measure a person's value, then our country is the most important standard.

Just like the example I cited above, maybe the driver thinks that China people have low quality and low income, so he shows disrespect for customers. Getting off the bus, opening the trunk and helping with the luggage should have been what a taxi driver should have done, but he looked down on customers in his heart, so he disdained to do it.

If he is a Japanese employee, he will have a different attitude if he meets a western white man.

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In the absence of in-depth contact with others, service personnel will be used to judging a person's value by criteria such as money and power, so as to express whether their attitude towards a person is friendly or indifferent, intimate or distant.

When girls go to cosmetics counters or luxury stores, they are likely to meet cold and arrogant waiters. Their attitude is impressive. It seems that every customer who comes to shop needs to crawl under their feet. They represent the brand itself and can look down on those who come to defect.

What they give customers is not good service, not warm words, but an illusion of self-deception.

It seems that everything in the counter is for them. They don't need a penny of service to attract people.

Everyone is mediocre and embarrassed in front of them, unless they meet someone glittering all over. They only entertain the most distinguished guests.

And that person needs to show his money in front of them in just a few seconds.

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Give different service attitudes in front of different customers. The occurrence of behavior is the internal values at work. Money, power and status are all worthy of respect. Poverty, no rights, no status, no respect, give it warm treatment.

This view of money is actually influenced by young families. Maybe he came from a poor family and got help from childhood. In the process of communication between relatives and friends, I was inspired and informed by my parents, thus forming my belief. Poverty means inferiority and weakness.

Even if you are crying and embarrassed, smile in front of people. Because of money, many inconveniences can be solved. Buy necessary food, children's school expenses, see a doctor and take medicine, and give gifts on holidays.

With the help of relatives and friends, it is possible to live.

On the contrary, children from materially wealthy families will have the value of money first. Although their parents have a good material foundation, what they convey to their children from their words and actions is their sense of superiority.

Because of money, you can not only buy things, but also gain the respect, admiration and enthusiastic pursuit of others. This is what poor families do not have.

Children who grow up in such an environment will naturally hope to continue their good economic foundation in the future and treat people around them with the same values.

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When a person has the value of money first, then he will naturally show his inner beliefs in his dealings with people. This is a projection in the relationship.

Just like the Hong Kong driver I met, he has a set of fixed ideological standards for China people, so he expressed his thoughts to me in his behavior. If I feel inferior, resentful and bitter, and then doubt myself, it is because I recognize his behavior projection.

This is obviously a clumsy way.

When we receive poor service from others and feel disrespected, we may be irritable, angry and even curse. It will be an unpleasant memory, but it should never enter your body and mind and become the root of your inferiority complex.

Others think you are poor, you are low and should not be respected. And thus you accept the projection of the other party and recognize such an idea. Then, you are demeaning yourself. This is easy to be recognized, and it will make you doubt yourself, which will lead to a strong sense of inferiority.

In your mind, it will be deeply confirmed that you are poor, humble, useless and fragile. You're not noticed, you're not recognized.

The thoughts projected by others will destroy you again and again, leaving you in the abyss of inferiority and helplessness.

Therefore, don't easily agree with each other's projection. You can't stop others from expressing their ideas, but you have the right to choose to trust or doubt each other. Be wary of those negative and malicious thoughts and use your own strength to resist.

If you can be modest, then you can turn Gan Kun around and win real respect. If you can't, then it's okay to face the malicious outside world smartly and heartily.

Like, when we leave the taxi with our luggage, a beautiful journey is about to begin. And all this has nothing to do with this taxi driver.

After all, his appearance is just a dim and distant star in our journey.