I want to know about the wedding customs in Northeast China. I'm from the south and my girlfriend is from Dalian. I don't know if we will be together in the future, but I still want to.

A good day on the wedding day in Northeast China is called a "positive day", which is generally chosen by the groom's family, and an abnormal day is also called a "hospitality day", which is decided by the bride's family. Generally, the reception day is three or four days earlier than the positive day. On the reception day, the groom-to-be will stay at the bride's house all day to entertain her relatives and friends. On the same day, the woman's parents will hold a big banquet in the wedding banquet hotel, and there will be guests in the guest house. The bride and groom put on their dresses, and the host, master of ceremonies and guest representatives took the stage to deliver speeches, which was regarded as their first marriage. The couple also need to propose a toast to each guest and accept gifts from her relatives and friends. After the banquet, the groom will go back to his home and wait until the wedding day to see the bride.

Greet the bride

According to the custom of marriage in Northeast China, the earlier the wedding date, the better. Because there is a saying of "robbing the head", the time for the groom to get married is also a good time to find someone to divine. Generally, there are two numbers, 8 and 9, which represent making a fortune and lasting. Moreover, the number of bridegrooms who come to pick up relatives must be odd, because when he marries his wife, he makes up a double number, and it is best to control the number to more than a dozen people, including a pair of boys and girls.

The groom needs to bring tenderloin to his mother-in-law, which means "leaving the mother's meat", as well as green onions tied with red lines (meaning a complete life) and a "cornucopia" (actually a red washbasin full of daily necessities). The bride should sit on the new quilt of her parents' house, commonly known as "sitting on the blessing". When the groom arrives at the bride's house, the woman's house will block the door and wait until the red envelope is changed to "parents open the door" before giving it in.

According to the marriage custom of the northeast people, the number of bouquets must be nine, which means a long time. After the groom presents a bouquet to the bride, it is better to talk to the other party first, and the one who speaks first will be controlled by the other party in the married life. So the other party will play some tricks to get the other party to speak first, which is very interesting. Then the groom will wash the bride's face with the golden basin he brought, and sprinkle thick coins in it. After the bride washes her face, her little boy will use it to throw her face out, which means the water thrown out by the married woman. From then on, the daughter is someone else's. Then a couple will start eating longevity noodles made by the bride's family. When they eat, they must feed each other. If the bride has a younger brother, she will grab longevity noodles and borrow the happiness and blessings of the couple. After eating noodles, the groom needs to give the bride's parents a cigarette ceremony, and the bride's parents will give the son-in-law a big red envelope and then take a group photo.

Step 3 send relatives away

The number of people going to see the bride off in the northeast is not particular, but the bride's younger brother must go, sit on the wedding car and call it "pressing the car", and the couple will also give big red envelopes. According to the marriage custom in Northeast China, a mother can't send off her married daughter, but the father of the bride can go, and the mother will cry when she sends her daughter away. If her daughter cries, it will make her family rich. This is called "throwing golden beans".

Next, we are going to get ready to marry the bride home. The groom must dress the bride in red shoes. Of course, this is not an easy task, because the bridesmaids will hide the red shoes. If the groom can't find it himself, the bridesmaid will tell you where the red shoes are.

marry

According to the wedding custom in Northeast China, the bride must put flowers on her mother-in-law and call her parents by her name. Of course, there is also a big red envelope when changing the name, which is generally 100 1 yuan, indicating that the bride is "one in a thousand". When the bride enters the new house, she will start eating peanuts and red dates, which means having a baby early. And all the boxes and cabinets in the new house will be piled with coins, which means wealth. Next, we will flirt with the couple in the wedding room and take photos to leave good memories, and then go to the hotel to attend the wedding as scheduled.

Hotel weddings are held in much the same way as weddings in other parts of the country. After the ceremony was presided over by the host, the couple took turns toasting and seeing off the guests. According to the custom in Northeast China, people who see their families off must leave before 12. In the evening, the couple must have a reunion dinner together.

Return door

The wedding custom in Northeast China is the same as that in other places. The groom will accompany the bride for three days and then go back to her family, but she must return to the man's home before sunset. If the bride's house is far from home, it will take nine days to return.

You can also go to Xilinmen to see more wedding customs in Northeast China.