As a homosexual, how to eliminate the distress of "two-faced people"

Many gay friends will encounter the distress of "two-faced people". Because society and family members do not recognize or even discriminate against same-sex love, they have to wander in the "real" and "false" world.

The description of this "double-faced man" is nothing more than a wonderful summary in the novel "Evil Son" by Bai Xianyong, a famous writer in Taiwan Province Province:

"In our kingdom, there is only night, no day. At dawn, our kingdom will be invisible, because this is a very illegal country. "

As homosexuals, they hide their true side in broad daylight, that is, during the day, studying and working like ordinary people. Perhaps because of the excessive self-repression of homosexuals, many of them have to rely on hard work to relieve their mental and emotional leisure, so they often perform well in their studies and work and achieve something in their careers. But in the face of life, they dare not disclose their true feelings, but try to avoid their sexual orientation and pretend that they also like women and are willing to get married.

As homosexuals, in the dark, that is, in the dark, they dare to expose or show their true side, go to gay websites, read gay novels, watch G-passion movies, see pictures of men, talk to men, and have sex with the same sex. This is the real side of their lives. Only at this time can they find their true love and love, have emotional satisfaction and vent their sexual desire.

The "two-faced" situation of homosexuality has caused extremely heavy ideological pressure and mental burden to homosexuals. So that they don't have the courage to face life and their loved ones, and they can only swallow their own bitter fruit alone. Even so, it is impossible to be perfect. The double blow of marital troubles and emotional torture has left homosexuals in an embarrassing situation and pain forever. The embarrassment and pain of homosexuals in life is not short-term, but the pain that has plagued and tortured their lives for a long time. Based on this, it can be said that God made you a comrade, which is a punishment for you and will doom your life to sorrow.

This tragic experience of homosexuality is entirely caused by social prejudice and wrong ethics. From the perspective of respecting human rights, we should respect the sexual rights of homosexuals; If we recognize the same-sex love based on true love, we should give the non-mainstream and mainstream groups the same treatment, and should not be indifferent, discriminatory and interfere with their sexual freedom. From the aspects of law, morality, public opinion and social concepts, we should gradually correct all traditional, wrong, unreasonable and backward things (including concepts and systems) about homosexuality, realize the full understanding and mutual tolerance of mainstream and non-mainstream groups in sexual behavior, provide a social environment for minority groups to live as happily as most groups, and work hard for all people in China to jointly build a harmonious socialist society.

In the process of understanding nature and revealing science in human society, there will always be sharp contradictions and disputes with different views. From the slave liberation and anti-racial discrimination in the United States to the "stone wall movement" of homosexuality, it was because of the indomitable struggle of many ideological pioneers that the victory of ideological liberation and the change of social concepts were triggered. In China, there are a large number of homosexuals because of the remnants of feudal ideas for thousands of years and the influence of bad customs in traditional culture, but few people are willing to participate in the maintenance of gay rights. This reminds me of a story of louganis, the world diving prince. After louganis won the Outstanding Athlete Award from the United States Olympic Committee on 1994, when he learned that,

When the volleyball match of Atlanta Olympic Games will be held in a city that recently passed a law condemning homosexuals, he was deeply indignant and decided to use his influence to challenge this injustice. At the award ceremony, he first thanked the Olympic Committee for encouraging him, then changed the subject and began to shout loudly: "Just as I am gay, there will be homosexuals among volleyball players all over the world. What would they think if they learned that the city hosting the competition did not welcome them? How can the spirit of friendship and participation advocated by the Olympic Movement be reflected in ignorance and prejudice? " Although there have been similar appeals before, they have all been ignored. louganis's influence made the US Olympic Committee immediately disqualify the city from hosting volleyball matches. I also thought of XX in Hong Kong, Leslie Cheung and the mainland. They are both stars and comrades. The former openly identifies himself as a homosexual and actively participates in the activities of comrades in Hong Kong. After his death, he was still loved by the world because he was an honest, upright and brave man. The latter was stabbed and the media speculated that he was gay. He tried to deny it and fabricated a lie. Although he came back, he lost popularity. Why? Because he didn't have the sincerity to be a man, of course, I also understand his worry that he didn't have the courage to tell the truth, but it was his cowardice and lies that made him lose the trust of many people.

So I have always admired those homosexuals who dare to challenge customs and outdated concepts. I am surrounded by comrades who come out. Although they have made their homosexuality public, most people in society, especially colleagues, continue to maintain good relations with them because they are excellent in all aspects. In the past, many comrades around me did not "come out", but they did not particularly care about other people's opinions. Some went out to rent a house openly with BF and lived a gay and happy life. However, they stick to the bottom line of not marrying the opposite sex in various ways and dominate their future life.

Some people say that heterosexuals always "can't understand the darkness at night" when they look at homosexuality. That's right! Because we dare not face up to and admit our sexual behavior ourselves, and even we often live in doubt, pessimism and self-blame, how can we convince those who don't know homosexuality at all to understand your life? So, I want to tell comrades that if you are gay, you should be proud of being gay! Don't pay too much attention to the eyes of the world and the gossip in the street. Face and love life with sunshine, be a strong career, be a brave person in life, work hard and love boldly. Look at the society with a peaceful and inclusive attitude, and you will understand many people, including those who ridicule and attack you, and leave your same-sex friends. Of course, you must stick to truth and justice, treat love and friends sincerely, and speak for this group when necessary. Live by the principle of "caring for others, being kind to yourself", caring for the feelings of relatives, friends and colleagues around you, loving them and caring for them; At the same time, don't wronged yourself, let alone spoil yourself.

We should carry forward the modern democracy and civilization step by step, and make more and more people feel the warmth and superiority of a harmonious society through our own efforts and the concerted efforts of Qi Xin, which hopes for the whole society. By then, it will be the spring for everyone, including homosexuals! Gay tomorrow

In the world, I believe there are not only silent nights but also sunny days.