What should I do if I get engaged?

In view of the fact that many young people do not understand the current engagement and marriage market in Ruian (urban area), I will take the current social market and give you an introduction based on the preparation before the engagement and the situation on the wedding day:

Engagement:

1. The parents of both parties attend the banquet to discuss the engagement matters, mainly setting the almanac and the amount of the man’s betrothal gift. The amount of the gift depends on the family conditions of both parties. If both parties are ordinary families (an ordinary family here means that the annual income of both parties is about 100,000 RMB), the current standard is around 88888-108000.

2. To There must be a lot of time before the engagement day. During this time, it is necessary to buy the things that the two of you need for the engagement. We start with the things that the man gives to the woman. A set of gold jewelry includes earrings, bracelets, anklets, and necklaces. , a pair of rings, and a diamond ring (the current price of a diamond ring is about 15,000). In fact, you can also go to a gold store to buy loose diamonds and choose the style you like. The price varies greatly, and you can save about 35%. Note : I asked my parents first. Some parents like to buy 24K pure gold because they think it can preserve its value, but young people don’t like it and think it is tacky.) There is also a pair of sugar-gold apricots. Ruian's wedding candies are divided into different sizes. The man is responsible for all the wedding candies needed by the woman, including the red envelopes included in the wedding candies. Except for some friends of the woman's parents, etc., the woman will send them herself. (Currently, red envelopes of 50-100 are given, depending on the conditions of both parties and the amount of wedding candies. depends). The things the woman wants to buy are: a suit, two shirts, two ties, two pairs of shoes (one pair each of casual and leather shoes) for the man to wear for the wedding and engagement, two sets of casual clothes, a dozen socks, and gold items: bracelets and a necklace each (if the red envelope for the groomsman is less than 580, you need to buy another shirt for the groomsman). There are 88 pieces, 98 pieces, and 108 pieces in the set of dishes. You can choose from them. You can buy them according to the situation. The six items are oranges, pastries, dates, and longans. , lotus seeds, peanuts. Then give the man a sugar-gold apricot in return. The gift money received will be returned according to the financial conditions. If the woman's conditions are average, if she accepts 88888, she will return it to the man ranging from 38888 to 58888. The remaining money will be used to buy things for the man. And for future marriage and purchase of a new house. If the woman's condition is good, she will directly accept all the gift money and buy a car for the man.

3. Engagement day: Ruian people now have two types of engagement banquets. One is that the woman’s family sets up a banquet at noon to invite the man’s parents and best man to attend, and the man invites the woman back in the evening. The other is that both parents and close relatives and friends hold a banquet in a hotel to get engaged. Generally speaking, more people in urban areas now choose the latter. In the afternoon, the man drives to the woman's home dressed up to greet the woman and her parents, and gives the woman's brother or sister a suitcase of money (the suitcase money refers to the woman's brother or sister preventing their sister from getting married). He refuses to leave with his suitcase, and he will not let him go until you give him money. This is how the elders explained it.) The price of the suitcase ranges from 1,000 to 10,800 (depending on the man’s financial ability). After arriving at the hotel, serve tea to both parents (generally, tea is rarely served nowadays, and tea and wine are always served), and toast to relatives and friends to witness your love (anyway, one word. Drink~~~)

Marriage:

1. After deciding on the wedding day, it’s time to book the hotel and arrange the banquet. Ruian seems to have to book the banquet a year in advance. I feel dizzy. Everyone gets married in good days. Then you have to settle down first. It doesn’t matter that the house price is too expensive. A house of more than 130 square meters will cost around 1 million RMB (take the community in Anyang as an example). Of course, the man is responsible for buying the house and decorating it. The decoration takes at least 2 months. After the decoration is completed, except for the furniture purchased by the man, the woman is responsible for everything else. This is a big expense, and the electrical appliances are Not to mention, even buying decorative items, kitchen items, and bedding is a huge expense.

2. Choose a good time and good weather for two people to take wedding photos. Generally, photo studios are now competing on price and their skills and capabilities are similar. However, this is only once in a lifetime and you don’t care about the small amount of money. Just be careful not to look at one picture that you think is good or another one that you think is good. The more you choose, the more you spend. Generally, it is worth spending 4000-5000 for taking pictures.

3. Once you have taken photos, everything will be fine. Make wedding arrangements in advance and wait for the wedding with peace of mind. Contact us for photography, rental cars, and fireworks on the wedding day, but these are not relevant now. The etiquette company has an all-inclusive service. As for whether or not to hire a master of ceremonies, it depends on personal preference. I always feel that if you have a lot of banquets, the master of ceremonies will take a long time and you will be busy until 12 o'clock in the evening. Don't even think about it. If you can't wait, others won't be able to wait.

4. The night before the wedding, the bride only needs to go for a beauty treatment and exfoliation. She doesn’t have to get up so early on the day of the wedding. Nowadays, beauticians come directly to her door and get up at around 9 o’clock to get her hair done. Then eat. The next meal after lunch will be lunch the next day. I would like to remind everyone that you still need to eat enough, haha. . . Then after one o'clock, the makeup artist comes home to put on the wedding dress and shawl. It takes about an hour to do makeup and hair. A reminder here is that you should call the makeup artist in advance to inform the color and style of your wedding dress, so that she can prepare a headdress of the same color and style.

The groom's side is about the same, it's not as troublesome as the girl's. At 4 o'clock, the groom and the best man will set off to pick up the bride from the bride's house. After arriving at the bride's house, the bridesmaid will come up with some tricks to embarrass the groom. In the end, of course, the red envelope will be received before the door opens. , and then there are nine bridesmaids (but in some places it cannot be nine bridesmaids, it must be an even number of 6, 8 or 10) plus all the male relatives of the bride to the new house in the car. Let’s talk about getting off the car. If you are renting a car in Ruian, the driver must hand you cigarettes. Otherwise, some unscrupulous drivers will deliberately drive fast and slow, so that they will not be in a group and the video will not look good. Then when we get to the new house, we will serve tea and make glutinous rice balls, and we must remember the order of elders when serving things, otherwise we will be gossiped about. The next step is to drive all the way to the hotel, then there is a lion dance (usually Ruian is not so grand), and then red envelopes are given (the number of red envelopes varies, usually 28). The next thing is that some groomsmen will use that spray to spray the bride and bridesmaids wildly. It is recommended that the bride put down her veil, while the bridesmaid suggests preparing an old dress with a hat on it, and putting the hat on before going in, haha. The last step is of course the toast. This is the most important. Of course, it varies from person to person. Everyone can play their part, so it’s not necessary here. You should also pay attention to the fact that the bride needs to change her wedding dress and hairstyle in the middle.

It should also be noted that Ruian is now the man giving the woman 1 to 4 banquets including red envelopes (depending on how many relatives the woman has), and the red envelopes are of course collected by their parents.