Be the slash mother in your child’s heart

Slash youth, a term that has become very popular recently, refers to a group of people who are no longer satisfied with the "single career" lifestyle and choose a diverse life with multiple careers and identities. These people will use slashes to distinguish them in their self-introductions, for example, Zhang San, reporter/actor/photographer, and "slash" has become synonymous with them.

Slash youth are enviable.

After becoming a mother, time becomes the most precious thing. Working, taking care of children, doing housework, buying things, managing money and keeping accounts all take time. Not to mention having time to unlock new skills, study and learn to open another identity, and draw a slash.

It is difficult to be a slash young man in the eyes of others, but it is necessary to be a slash mother in the eyes of your children.

Since the child was born, when he was hungry, sleepy or sad, the first thing he looked for was his mother. Mother is the baby's warmest support and can give her the greatest satisfaction. After I went to kindergarten, my mother accompanied me to draw, do crafts, and play the piano. She could also make various small cakes and bring them to the kindergarten to share with the children. In the eyes of the child, the mother becomes a painter/artisan master/pianist/baker... Whenever the child mentions his mother, he holds his head high and his eyes are confident.

My classmate Xiaoshan has not been seen for many years. She came to the last party with her children. She was dressed simply and elegantly, with exquisite makeup and a radiant face. Look at the 3-year-old little girl next to her. She is white and tender, with a sweet smile, like a little princess. This mother-daughter duo is truly the envy of others.

Xiaoshan is now a full-time mother. After giving birth to her child, she quit her job and devotes herself to taking care of her child and family.

We asked her whether it would be boring or tiring to face the baby at home every day. She looked at us in surprise and said: No, how is that possible? I am very fulfilled every day. Now that my child is in kindergarten, my life is even more perfect!

An answer full of positive energy.

After careful questioning, Xiaoshan slowly answered. Xiaoshan gets up at 6 o'clock every day and uses the hour when her daughter and husband are awake to prepare breakfast and meditate. After the whole family got dressed, they sent their husband out, sent their daughter to kindergarten, and bought groceries on the way home.

Xiaoshan spent the next unshakable hour reading. She said that she didn't get to know more people at work, so she could only rely on books to improve herself. She couldn't deviate from her husband's world, and she had to educate her children gently and skillfully.

Xiaoshan has a public account and a WeChat group where she shares her baby’s life, parenting knowledge, etc. every day. She is a parenting expert in the eyes of moms. The mothers trusted Xiaoshan very much and asked her to help them buy maternal and infant supplies. Xiaoshan also earned some pocket money.

The afternoon is a time for hobbies. Arrange content every day, listen to music, draw, practice piano, bake... After my daughter and husband come back in the evening, they jump into a responsible role and go to work. Take care of my husband and daughter.

We asked Xiaoshan, why do you schedule yourself so much at home every day? Aren't you tired? Isn’t it good to watch TV dramas while sleeping?

Xiaoshan said that she also had a period of confusion, and a large part of her unhappiness came from "freedom." Then one day I suddenly saw the newborn photo of my daughter on the desktop, and suddenly realized how much precious time she had missed. Although I was with my daughter every day, I didn’t leave the most precious records.

Later, Xiaoshan started to learn time management and planning. This handbook... participated in several clock-in training camps, getting up early to clock in, reading to clock in, handbook to clock in, and writing to clock in... The friends supervised each other, Since I had no financial resources, I would be fined if I didn't clock in, so I had to force myself to do it. I persisted, and slowly self-discipline became a habit. Then I picked up my childhood hobbies and slowly became what I am now.

Xiaoshan said that now her daughter talks about herself in kindergarten and says she is very proud, saying that her mother is very powerful. The daughter, who had been sitting next to Xiaoshan silently, nodded vigorously and said in a soft but firm voice that her mother's cakes are delicious, her paintings are beautiful, she also ties my hair beautifully, and she can also play the piano. , there will be many more, very powerful ones!

We asked Xiaoshan’s daughter if she liked her mother. The little girl said she likes, likes, likes... The more she spoke, the louder she became, and she didn't want to stop... Xiaoshan looked at her daughter's smile, her eyes were full of tenderness and love...

When you see this, you may say, I am a full-time mother and I have to go to work, so how can I have so much time?

But moms, let’s ask ourselves, do we really have no time? What about the time you spend drinking tea and chatting in your spare time at work, the time you spend in the car commuting to and from get off work, the time you spend scrolling through Moments and watching TV shows in bed before going to bed at night? Or you can improve yourself while accompanying your children, reading, painting, playing the piano together...

Actually, it is not difficult to be a slash mother. Mothers already have their own aura in the hearts of their children, as long as we work hard——

#desire for a better self#

Everyone is eager to change, but there is real change. People must be extremely eager for this in their hearts. How strong this desire is, how far it can push you.

You can use the mobile phone software to record the time it takes to complete each thing, and compare it to find out what you really like, or find out what will be helpful to your child's future growth, and what you are willing to learn more deeply.

Slash Youth, another point that emphasizes is a kind of borderless mentality - there is no necessity or certainty in life, and life has infinite possibilities.

What kind of mother do you want to be in the eyes of your children? What kind of life do you yearn for?

#自disciplinedonegetsfree#

After finding your own interests or the development direction to be unlocked, you have to invest time and energy.

Among mothers in their twenties and thirties, some can take care of work, childcare, study, housework, and hobbies, while others cannot even cope with basic childcare. What's the difference?

Two words: self-discipline.

Kant once said, The so-called freedom is not to do as one pleases, but to be in control of oneself.

An excellent slash mother needs to complete several things in the time it takes others to complete one thing. This pattern will push you to better plan your most important life resource - time.

As a mother, especially a stay-at-home mother, self-discipline can keep everything in order in life, maintain regular work and rest times, and maintain healthy eating habits. I also benefit from this self-discipline, stay in shape, live a fulfilling life, and feel that I am steering my life in a better direction.

After my daughter was born, I also followed Xiaoshan’s example to unlock my own interests. I read books and write essays in my spare time at work, and in my spare time, I did photography, handmade leather goods, baking, and painting... …Slowly, people around me asked me to make appointments to take pictures, and I customized handmade leather goods. It seemed that I gradually started to have a side business.

My original intention was just to be a slash mother, but now it seems that I am slowly developing into a slash youth, and my life is becoming more and more beautiful and exciting.

I am already on my way to becoming a slash mother in the eyes of my children, what about you?

Time is silent, waiting for the flowers to bloom; a touch of fragrance expresses the fleeting years.

Mi吖woo?2017.2.19