What should I do if I feel confused at the age of 30?

Don't frown just because you have studied a major you don't like. Although you don't like what you study, the basic ability to learn any knowledge is the same. You have learned how to build a knowledge system and solve problems in this subject, which is also applicable to other subjects. "I don't like it" can't be used as an excuse for "not working hard".

Don't complain that your present job is not suitable for you. You can find ways to improve the future.

If you haven't found your own direction for a long time, it's probably because you think too much and do too little.

What should I do when I am confused?

I have three experiences to share with you.

1. Read more books. Learn in a targeted way. Reading classics can cultivate one's sentiment, while reading natural history can increase one's knowledge and broaden one's horizons. In fact, there is another kind of book that can help us solve our own problems. This kind of book is called "practical book".

If you feel that you can't always make rational decisions, read behavioral economics and game theory. If you think your life needs improvement, read How to Improve Emotional Intelligence. If you are confused, read Critical Thinking and Systematic Thinking. These books can really help you solve the problem.

"Confusion" seems to be a chaotic fog. If you take it apart, you will find that it is made up of many small problems. These small problems have been solved, and the thinking is clear and there is a direction.

2. Based on reality, try and make mistakes in small steps. I really don't like my major courses. It doesn't matter. You can take your favorite professional classes, participate in various competitions, and listen to the lectures of celebrities who have to queue up to punch in.

With car loans and mortgages, it is difficult to make up your mind to resign. It doesn't matter. You can start from what you are interested in and use your spare time to develop slowly. For example, if you like taking pictures, you can polish this skill well, instead of just staying at the level of "like taking pictures". Being a part-time photographer, contributing to photography magazines and taking photos in my spare time; Or carry out knowledge-paid courses to teach people who want to learn photography how to take pictures and retouch pictures.

In this process, you will meet some like-minded friends, you will collide with many sparks of thought, and slowly you will have a direction.

3. Take the initiative to meet people. The circle you live in determines the height of your development. If your roommate plays games in the dormitory every day, you need to make great determination to concentrate on your studies. If your roommate goes to self-study every day, you will feel guilty even if you stay in the dormitory and play with your mobile phone.

When you are admitted to the university, you will gradually drift away from your friends who were not admitted to the university as a child; When you want to change your destiny by hard work, you will also stay away from those who sneer at yourself but are not enterprising. The process of everyone's upward development is a process of constantly abandoning the old circle and entering a new circle.

But a paradox is that the circle of cattle people generally does not bring rookies, and rookies must integrate into higher circles if they want to make progress. So what should we do?

Others will not help you for no reason, unless they think it is a valuable thing to help you. If you are still at school and interested in academic attainments, impress your favorite tutor with full sincerity.

Study his published papers and topics and put forward his own opinions. Take the initiative to help in the laboratory, don't care too much about the reward, your biggest gain is to learn from him. If you like a certain knowledge V, join his club and try to be a volunteer in the club, so that he can see your enthusiasm.

The most important thing is to seek help for the problems you have thought about. I once chatted with other big V's and said that I left a message backstage for help. Everyone said that they were unwilling to answer those questions that "Baidu can obviously reach".

Opportunities are always given to those who are prepared, and so are the nobles.