The most suitable feeling is to accompany each other and become each other's sun.

You can have your career, you can be busy at work, but please remember to give a kiss to the person you love when you get home and tell her that you miss her very much. You can be overbearing and stubborn, but please don't use your bad temper as a weapon to hurt the people closest to you. The most suitable feelings will never torture each other in the name of love, but accompany each other and become each other's sun.

When Kutcher graduated, she fell in love with a man six years older than her, Lao Zhang.

Lao Zhang is actually not old. Although he is almost thirty years old, at least he begins with the word "two", which shows that he is young and promising.

He is the manager of the operation department of their company and she is his assistant. They go to work together and get off work together every day. Over time, the two developed feelings and became lovers.

Biscuit said that she likes mature men like Lao Zhang. Warm as jade, not losing vitality, showing noble temperament between gestures.

I said, you must be poisoned by the novel of the overbearing president, or your taste will change.

She has the expression of a runaway cartoon, and all kinds of dissatisfaction are written on her face.

At that time, the relationship between biscuit and Lao Zhang was not valued by the family. Cookie's mother is superstitious, saying that lovers are unlucky at the age of six. But Biscuit insisted on falling in love with him, and the family had no choice but to turn a blind eye to her.

They talked for more than a year, and it happened that a 24-year-old and a 30-year-old got married, but the story will give you a dramatic turn here.

One day, Biscuit asked me out to dinner. Halfway through, she suddenly told me calmly that she and Lao Zhang had broken up peacefully.

I'm surprised. I said, isn't Lao Zhang your type?

She said, yes, but I feel as if I am not suitable for him.

Cookie said Lao Zhang was busy. He is absorbed in his work. Every day, he either has meetings or socializes. After work, he did not forget to contact his client boss. Sometimes, she wants to make a phone call and chat with him. He is always sleepy, tired and going to bed after a few words. She said that she understood that he worked hard and she knew that he was very capable. He is really a very positive person. However, the most important thing is that he can't give her what she wants.

She wants someone to share her feelings and listen to her. She hopes that when she remembers something, hears a song and watches a TV series, he can sing with her through her sharing. Even if he is crying, laughing, quarreling and making noise, he must have flesh and blood and temperature in her heart. But Lao Zhang doesn't think so. He feels that being together is being together, and those little things can be completely ignored. He said that he has endless meetings, endless rewards and so many thoughts on these trivial things every day.

Thus, the difference between biscuits and Lao Zhang appeared. Cookie feels that she and Lao Zhang can't spark each other mentally. Lao Zhang thinks cookies care too much about those details, and love should return to dullness.

Gradually, the topics of the two became less and less, and finally they had to break up.

When breaking up, Lao Zhang told Biscuit that he felt there was actually a generation gap between them. For example, Cookie likes Korean Oba Lee MinHo, but Lao Zhang has never even heard of this name. For example, Lao Zhang and Biscuit talked about football and mentioned the record of Spanish player Harvey. Cookies look confused.

He can't give her what she wants any more than she can give him what she wants.

To tell the truth, at first I thought it was a pity to separate cookies from Lao Zhang, because it's really not easy to meet someone you like these days. But then I realized more and more that falling in love is not maintained by initial feelings or passions, but by getting along bit by bit and accumulating by various details. This relationship includes spiritual communication. Many people think that material feelings must be stable, but they are not. Without spiritual communication, it is equivalent to a person's lack of vigor and vitality. After a long time, he will be depressed and eventually die.

I remembered the story of another friend.

Deer is my college alumnus. When I was a sophomore, I met a school grass named Suke. They fell in love at first sight and soon fell in love.

The beginning of their love affair is as beautiful as that written in many novels. He took her to watch the sunset by bike, and she sat behind him, gently encircling his waist. He took her SLR camera around a dozen cities and hung her picture all over the wall. He said that he likes photography. He used to shoot still life, but later he liked to shoot her.

The deer was fascinated by him at that time. She said that she had never seen such a romantic man. She said she really liked him. She also said that she would never marry him.

But I broke up when I graduated.

I never understood why they broke up. It wasn't until I received a wedding invitation from the deer at the beginning of this year that I talked about it with her on WeChat, and she opened a conversation with me.

She said, you know, he and I are not suitable.

The deer said that Suko is a very strong person, suspicious and sensitive. He likes to go through her mobile phone and check her online chat records. He also likes to preach, and once she makes a mistake, he will always hold on to it. He thought what he said was a suggestion, but she didn't think she needed his advice. If she doesn't accept it, he will talk endlessly. He thinks she is too stubborn to listen to him or respect him. She thinks he is selfish, bossy and controlling. In the second year of their love, they quarreled once every half month and once in February, and almost collapsed. The most serious quarrel, Suzy actually hit her.

I said, Nima, no matter what, men shouldn't hit women!

Yes, the deer told me that he gave me a heavy knock on the back, which hurt me for three days and nights. I broke up with him. At that time, he didn't agree, so he knelt in front of me and begged me for forgiveness. But I know that at the moment he hit me, my heart was dead.

Knowing the reason why the deer and Suzy broke up, I felt that I was a bad person. I used to think that the phrase "we can't get along" said by the other party when we broke up was just an excuse, but later I found that the "personality" that we can't get along with not only refers to the personality and temper of both parties, but also their attitudes, behavior habits, life background and social experience. Many people think that personality incompatibility is not a problem. The problem is that if there is a problem, personality is particularly important.

Two very strong people rarely give up in front of each other, which will inevitably lead to mutual intransigence and intransigence. Both sides want to control the rhythm of love and strive for the best in love, which will inevitably lead to contradictions and quarrels on many issues.

Fortunately, after graduation, the deer met her current husband AG. An easygoing person. The deer said that with him, she didn't have to be afraid or hide, not to mention whether he would be jealous, angry or take cold violence against her.

He likes her occasional affectation and her occasional willfulness. He can accept the shortcomings that she thinks will scare people away. Of course, they also quarrel. But after every quarrel, he always stays calm for the first time and waits for her to go crazy before holding her hand.

He said he didn't want to see me cry, humble and sad because of him. If I am not satisfied with him, it is his fault. Because of him, I learned to be patient. Because of him, I learned to be considerate. I got rid of my bad temper and learned to cook for him. I think we are like two springs tied together. No matter how hard we pull, we will eventually come back to each other. I never worry, we won't have tomorrow after tonight. This is probably appropriate. She said.

Shouldn't a good relationship be like this? We are very happy, comfortable and relaxed together. You know he won't give you pressure, and you won't give him any trouble. You are independent of each other, but you care about each other. After disagreement, you will communicate with him well and he will listen to you patiently. You don't have to explain to him for a long time to understand what he is talking to you.

Everyone wants to find the right person, and everyone wants to find someone who really suits them. But no one in this world was born for you. It is a great luck that you can find someone who likes you, and you happen to like it.

I used to think that two people are together, as long as they like each other. Now I understand, what's the use of just liking and not changing? Only thinking about conquering, only thinking that the other person can become what he thinks, can't be a positive result in the end.

Many people like to avoid their responsibilities and blame their predecessors after breaking up, but if you are determined to be together, you should show some corresponding consciousness. Men are more concerned about tolerance, while women are more gentle and considerate.

You can have your career, you can be busy at work, but please remember to give a kiss to the person you love when you get home and tell her that you miss her very much. You can be overbearing and stubborn, but please don't use your bad temper as a weapon to hurt the people closest to you.

The most suitable feelings will never torture each other in the name of love, but accompany each other and become each other's sun.

Try not to quarrel when you can communicate, and try not to talk when you can kiss. Try not to get angry if you can hug, and try not to break up if you can fall in love.

Getting along is very important, and getting along is more important. Try to make some changes for each other and make yourself a warm and gentle person. You should understand that every encounter is a miracle, so cherish it.

No one has the obligation to stay where you are forever. Those who can wait for you are all people who love you. Don't ignore each other's feelings because of some trivial matters. When he leaves without looking back, it will be too late for you to stay.

May you find such a person, perhaps not the most suitable, but he is willing to change for you.

I hope you can accompany each other, become the sun in each other's lives, and light up the brilliant life in the future.