Integrity depends on self-discipline debate materials

Yilin's Story

Friends depend on sincerity and trust

The crocodile looks ferocious and behaves cruelly. It has a bad reputation in the animal world. Therefore, it has almost no reputation. What a friend. But it also wants to find a good friend. It wants to get along well with it and never hurt it.

One day, a toothpick bird flew to a tree on the shore to rest. The crocodile in the water looked at the toothpick bird very happily and said, "Hello, can I make friends with you?" Toothpick Bird Seeing that it was a crocodile, he said vigilantly: "It is very dangerous to make friends with you. I can't agree to it." "But I really need friends. I think you are very suitable. We can help each other and benefit from each other." "But how can I believe it? Some bad guys talk better than they sing, but they are actually vicious." "When dealing with people, you can't just listen to their words, but watch their actions. Please believe me. I need you." Friends like this help me remove tartar, and you can also solve the food problem." Seeing that the crocodile was very sincere and that he was very hungry, the toothpick bird flew into the crocodile's mouth and took out the food from the crocodile's teeth. Lose. The crocodile really didn't hurt the toothpick bird, and they became good friends.

In real life, if you do not show sincerity and trust to your friends because you are afraid of being hurt, then you will not get the sincerity and trust of others. Therefore, when treating a friend, you must sincerely trust him. You may get hurt, but if you don't, you'll never have a real friend.

A child holding an empty flower pot

Once upon a time there was a king who had no children. He was old and wanted to choose a child from the country to inherit the throne. He gave each child in the country a grass seed, and whoever grew the most beautiful flower from the grass seed would be the king.

A child named Song Jin also took a grass seed home. He planted it in a flowerpot and watered it every day. Like other children, he hoped that the grass seed would sprout, branch out, and bloom the most beautiful flowers. However, day by day passed, and nothing grew in the flower pot. He changed a flower pot, changed some soil, and planted the grass seed in the hope that it would sprout. But two months later, when it was time for everyone to send flowers to the competition, the flower pots were still empty and nothing grew.

On this day, children from all over the country came to the palace holding their own flowers, some red, some yellow, and some white, very beautiful. The king passed in front of the children, but he kept frowning and said nothing. Later, he came to Song Jin and saw Song Jin with his head lowered and holding an empty flowerpot in his hand. The king asked: "Why are you holding an empty flowerpot?"

Song Jin said sadly: "I planted the grass seeds in the flowerpot, but it didn't germinate."

After hearing Song Jin's words, the king said happily: "I found it. I want to find one." An honest child becomes a king, and you are that honest child.”

It turns out that the grass seeds the king distributed to everyone were boiled in boiling water. How could they sprout and bloom? Other children planted flowers with good grass seeds, but Song Jin did not do this. He was an honest child.

Speaking of words but not doing what you want will bring disaster to you

A businessman in Jiyin overturned his boat while crossing the river. He clung to the floating dry trees and cried loudly. A fisherman rowed a boat to rescue him. Before he could reach him, the businessman hurriedly shouted: "I am from a wealthy family in Jiyin. If you can save me, I will reward you with a hundred gold." The fisherman saved him. When we got ashore, he only gave us ten gold coins. The fisherman said: "You originally promised to give a hundred gold, but now you only give ten gold. I'm afraid it won't work, right?" The businessman became angry and said, "You are a fisherman, how much money can you earn in a day? Now, you Aren't you satisfied with suddenly getting ten gold pieces?" The fisherman walked away in silence.

Some days later, the businessman sailed his boat down the gantry of Luliang Mountain. The boat hit a big rock, capsized again, and was met by the fisherman again. Someone asked the fisherman: "Why not save him?" The fisherman replied: "This guy doesn't keep his word. Last time I rescued him, he promised to give me money, but then he defaulted on the debt." He docked the boat on the shore, He stood idly by and the merchant drowned.

Someone once said this: If you lose money, you only lose a small part; if you lose your health, you only lose a small half; if you lose integrity, then you He was almost destitute.

This businessman was not honest and trustworthy. Although he could gain temporarily, in the long run, the gains were not worth the losses. He eventually lost his life because of a small breach of trust.

Integrity Experiment

A scholar who studies economics conducted an experiment on integrity. Just buy things ten times in different stores, pay twice for each purchase, and see how many people refuse to pay the second time.

The experimenter first walked into a clothing store and bought a shirt worth 20 yuan. After paying, he went back in and said, "I'm sorry, I just forgot to pay for the clothes I bought." The shopkeeper was a kind-hearted middle-aged woman, and she seemed to be a good person. The experimenter described the situation of buying clothes to her in detail, giving the shopkeeper enough time and opportunity. But she impatiently interrupted the experimenter and said, "Okay, please pay the money quickly." The experimenter had to obediently give her 20 yuan.

The experimenter tried 9 stores in a row, and no one refused to pay for the second time.

The last time, the experimenter didn’t give up, so he found an acquaintance who sold drinks. He bought a bottle of mineral water and came out. A few minutes later, he went back in and said, “Oh, old man. Classmate, I just forgot to pay for the mineral water." The old classmate said, "I'll give it to you." The experimenter wanted to carry out the experiment to the end, so he said, "How about that?" He took out two dollars and handed it over. past. The old classmate actually reached out to pick it up. Just when the two of them were holding half of the money, her son said: "Mom, didn't uncle give you the money just now? The money is still in your hand." Indeed, the old classmate held the money in his other hand. Holding the two dollars just given.

The old classmate was very embarrassed and had to let go of his hand. The experimenter even regretted using an acquaintance for the experiment and left the beverage shop in embarrassment. As soon as he walked to the street, he heard the little boy who told the truth crying loudly in the store. His mother must have beaten him.

This integrity experiment has ended in this way. It seems that what is left to us is not only the results, but also reflections on the lack of integrity in the current society. As small as a person, as large as a company or a country, if you are not honest, you may gain temporarily, but you will definitely lose long-term trust.

The truth is to get a golden sword

In ancient times, there was a very beautiful queen. One day, she suddenly had a whim and sent someone to make a sword from gold, and then summoned all the officials of the dynasty. Announced: "I only know that I am beautiful, but I don't know how beautiful I am. You are all knowledgeable and eloquent people. Whoever can describe my beauty will be rewarded with this golden sword." "Who?" The sword given by the queen can be said to be famous and profitable, and everyone in the civil and military circles coveted it. So, those officials all searched their hearts and minds, and the praise competition began. Some said: "The queen's beauty is like a flower that is shy when the moon is closed, and a fish sinks before a wild goose." Some retorted: "It is too vain to say this. The queen's beauty should be the beauty of the sky, the beauty of the country, the beauty of the country and the city." "The queen's beauty is the best in the world. "One..." Before this person finished speaking, someone else immediately retorted: "The queen's beauty is not only the best in the world, but also unparalleled in the sky. The seven fairies did not dare to raise their heads when they saw the queen, and the Jade Emperor had to be tempted when he saw the queen." ." Everyone was noisy and boasted more and more, but the queen remained calm and seemed dissatisfied. At this time, a loyal and kind old minister stood up and said: "I have seen countless women in my life, and the queen is the most beautiful." When the queen heard this, she was overjoyed and said quickly: "This is what I like the most, and I will reward you with a golden sword." < /p>

Why can't the empress be tempted by the praises from all the ministers and generals, but a simple compliment from an old minister can make the empress elated? Because the old minister's praise was neither excessive nor derogatory. It was realistic and accurately described the queen's beauty.

Honest reward

Hansen, a 10-year-old elementary school student in Tacoma, Washington, USA, was playing baseball with his children in the open space in front of his home one day and accidentally threw the ball. He went to neighbor Keir's car and broke the car's window glass. Seeing that they were in trouble, the children fled home one by one. Hansen stood blankly for a while and decided to go to the door in person to admit his mistake. Kiel, who had just moved to the city, forgave Hansen but informed Hansen's parents.

That night, Hansen told his father that he was willing to use the money he had saved from delivering newspapers to compensate Kiel for his losses.

The next day, Hansen, accompanied by his father, visited Kiel again and explained his purpose. Unexpectedly, Kiel smiled and said, "Well, you are so honest and willing to take responsibility, so I Not only do I not ask you to compensate, but I am also willing to give you this car as a reward. Anyway, this car is what I plan to abandon.”

Since Hansen is still young and cannot drive, this car is temporarily in my possession. His father kept it on his behalf. However, he has found someone to repair the car windows, and often washes and waxes the car, treating it like a treasure. He leaned on the 1978 Ford Mustang and said, "I wish I could grow up quickly and drive this car. I still can't believe it is mine." He also said, "After this The lesson I learned from this incident is that honesty is valuable. I will always be honest with others throughout my life."

The Foolishness of the British

The first thing I felt when I came to the UK was that I was British. Very silly. If you are walking on the street and accidentally bump into a British person, the other person will say apologetically: "I'm sorry." It seems that he touched you, which is incomprehensible.

If you buy something and suddenly don’t want it after you get it home, you can take it back and return it no matter how long ago you bought it, as long as it’s not damaged. There's no reason, just say you don't like it. Think about it, you are not afraid of losing money. How silly.

As time goes by, I slowly understand the stupidity of the British.

A gentleman who was a visiting scholar at a university in the UK told me: "In the laboratory, there are many precious metals, such as gold, platinum, etc., which are not specially managed or monitored by anyone. If If you need it, just go get it yourself. It doesn't matter how much you use, but it can't be used for personal use. If you take some home with you on a whim, it means that your credibility is completely ruined and you will not be hired by any company in the future. You."

Under this premise, the stupidity of the British has become synonymous with honesty.

No one checks tickets when you get on the train. All you have to do is go to the window and buy a ticket. The platform is absolutely open, but no one is evading fares. Of course, you don’t have to worry about the bargains and haggling in the supermarket. Because their prices are absolutely real and they won’t make any fuss about the scales.

It is not surprising that if a society regards reputation as more important than money, then this will become inevitable.