I was chatting with my best friend when suddenly a classmate came over, but why did all my classmates ignore what I said?

Many of our brothers don't know what to say when they are with women, especially the women they like. My mind is full of ideas about what to say, but I still can't say what I am satisfied with. It's embarrassing to feel the atmosphere at once. My brain began to feel a little anxious, and the more anxious I became, the less I knew what I was talking about. This feeling is very uncomfortable. Like you, I have had it many times before, but don't blame yourself for being so useless. Because we all know that once we return to our familiar brothers and sisters, we will be laughing again, and there will be no such problem as being speechless at all. But why do many buddies talk to girls they like and don't know what to talk about? Why can't you relax like talking to your brother? The simple and obvious reason is that we care too much about what this girl thinks of you. In front of this woman, she became very careful about her words and deeds, always thinking about how to speak and how to make her like herself. This is too concerned about the performance of fruit, so some people don't understand and ask, I like this woman, of course I care about the result of talking to her, of course I care about whether she likes herself or not. I don't care. How is that possible? When I say I don't care, I mean I don't care emotionally. For example. You like a girl. Of course, if you can attract her and make her like you, you will feel happy, but if you can't attract her and make her like you, you will feel sad. Come to think of it, you have given the power to decide your mood to others. Everyone's actions, no one's glance at you, no one's reply to your message can determine your mood. This is definitely not the characteristic of attractive men who attract women. A man who can be pushed around is not a man who attracts women. In fact, we all know from life experience that women are naturally sensitive to detecting such men. Women do have the so-called sixth sense, while most men don't and never know it. But this sixth sense can be cultivated and learned. We'll talk about this later. What I want to say is that if you talk to a woman, you care too much about the result and are emotionally involved. That is to say, if her words and deeds can affect your mood, then her attraction to you, even her previous attraction, will drop sharply, because for a woman, this is a signal that you can be pushed around at will. Women's perception of this signal is unconscious and automatic. This is a woman's natural ability, but many of our brothers don't care about talking to women. It's hard to see that beautiful woman. I quite understand. This is what I experienced. Even if I have this knowledge consciously, I can't do it in practice and I can't control myself. I still don't know what I'm talking to her. After long-term teaching and practical research, I found a way to solve this problem well. At present, I call it big Lianqing big Lianqing. There are two kinds of chunk association, one is shallow and the other is deep and shallow, which is very suitable for beginners. Bookmark to the bottom and chat with girls who don't know what to say. This shallow keyword skill is very useful. But those veterans who have fought many battles should have done so unconsciously, because after all, this is a very simple and regular dialogue and exchange; It seems simple but involves the deep manipulation of the other person's emotions. It is very powerful and cannot be used indiscriminately without knowing the consequences. After you have accumulated considerable social experience, your understanding of people will be profound and your mind responsible for society will be mature. Otherwise, it's fun and powerful at first, and then you must be possessed. Never play dialogue to build relationships and emotions. 1 belongs to shallow lexical chunks. The first level belongs to deep context 1. Simply agree or think that this is the last sentence of most of our brothers who don't know what to talk about next, and then they don't know what to say. For example, women say "I'm so tired in class today" and men say "Really, have a good rest". This situation is often that women don't talk, and men don't know what to say next. Say, "Really, have a good rest." Men's psychology began to ponder what to say below. But this sentence "really, have a good rest" is a normal conversation, which will add a little relationship. But you should start learning the next level of dialogue. The second level is to catch a keyword in the discussion, and then say something about you or others according to this keyword. This dialogue goes further than the first level. For example, the woman said, "I'm so tired in class today." (The key word here can be, I am tired from class, so I can "choose either or both". ) The man said, "Really, I didn't attend class today. With "going to class" as the key word, you can also use "going to class" to tell a story of your class. Women, including you, will be curious. After you say this sentence, you will leave the other party with many questions and ask you questions. ) The woman asked, "How can you act like you haven't been to school?" The man said: (You can tell a story about your work) I went to an intern's graduation ceremony this morning. I ate in a restaurant on Nanjing Road. Arrive at the office at seven o'clock in the afternoon and get off work at seven o'clock. (This simple story about you) has created many questions for women, such as, what intern, what school, and going to Nanjing Road for dinner at graduation? Wait a minute. Women are more likely to ask you naturally, and at the same time carry on this chat. At the same time, note that here is a woman asking a man a question, that is, a woman is interested in what a man says, and if she asks too much, she is interested in a man, because what a man says is of interest to a woman. The woman asked, "What school intern, the graduation ceremony is still on Nanjing Road?" The man continued ... Of course, if something unusual happens and the woman doesn't ask, just follow the dialogue above and bookmark it and jump to the end. There are many open topics that girls don't know what to talk about. For example, a man can ask, "Did you do more work in class today because you were lazy yesterday?" Or the man can continue to talk about interns and so on, and give you a keyword example. Woman: This is not very delicious. M: (using key words) This time is not enough, probably the difference clock. Burn it for another minute and it will be the top grade. (The question space left for women after this sentence: Do you understand? How can you understand? Why do you understand? Why does it take another minute to burn it? Wait a minute. After you answer any question, you will give her more questions to ask you. The topic will be endless, and there can be no topic to talk about. You can also use bad taste as a key word. The man said, have you ever had a drink called Hongle? It's the worst drink I've ever drunk (the question space left for women after this sentence: what is Hongle? What does it taste like? Where did you drink it? Why did you drink it? Why have I never drunk it myself? Here's something for you: Hongle's drink was mixed by myself. I once joked with a woman that it was produced in Nicaragua, a small island in South America, and its original name was viva de cheeva. My friends and I call it Hongle because it tastes like inferior red wine and still coke. This is the keyword technology. Simply put, it is to take out a keyword in the other person's words and talk about yourself or other things, a sentence, a question and so on around this keyword. In the research, I asked students to do a lot of exercises to practice this keyword skill, so as to speed up their mastery of this skill. If you don't practice, you should seize every opportunity to practice this skill with others, especially beautiful women. There is nothing wrong with this skill, just practice it after understanding and mastering it. Opportunistic skill is man: What do you like besides dancing? W: I'm interested in photography. M: Really. Like Le Bowitz or more like Mankat? Woman: Oh, it's more like Mankat or something! When a woman finds a bosom friend, she will feel excited. When they found a common topic, they started chatting with Marathon. The opportunistic skill of lexical chunks is to throw a little "color" on a topic, so that the other party feels that you have common topics, hobbies and so on. Common topics and common interests are equal to the intimate upgrade of the relationship. Chunks are the channel to deepen and upgrade this relationship. Let's continue to watch ... let's continue to deepen and expand the scope of the above dialogue. M: Interesting. Have you ever heard that a picture is equal to 1000 words? Woman: Yes! M: Maybe it's just me, but I think a photo is equal to a thousand feelings. When I look at a painting or a photo, what usually impresses me most is the feeling that the photo can give me. This reminds me that bookmarks jump to the bottom, and girls don't know what to talk about. They had to use a camera to capture this picture, because it could not express the feeling of this picture in words ... Woman: Wow!