Do you think wedding photography is necessary?

Life is your own, good and bad, only you know best.

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I'm a big fan of The Story of Chipper. Every time I watch it, it can bring me a lot of new and different things, and it can also make me find that I actually have some aspects that I didn't know before. After reading the Story of Chipa, I know that the world is so big and I know that I have a world different from others. ?

Of course, I can't miss this program, but after watching it, I want to say something. Although I am just in my twenties and have no lover, at this age, I will inevitably be asked about marriage. Something happened the other day, which also made me talk to my mother about the wedding, so the first thing I did after watching the program was to type this text.

In fact, as for "Is it necessary for a wedding", as Wang said in the program, every girl has a dream in her heart. Maybe the experience of some people in the process of growing up made her stop wanting this dream, but there is no denying that this dream once existed in her heart truly and firmly. Maybe this dream is the stereotype Yong Kai said, but this stereotype is also very beautiful. A girl with delicate makeup may be a beautiful western-style wedding dress or a Chinese-style hooded gown. How beautiful. ?

Qipa said

When you took a wedding photo, so many passers-by saw you. Men praise you for your beauty and can't help looking at you. A woman can't help looking at you and saying, I will be so beautiful when I get married. At the wedding, your beauty, his handsomeness and your love were all seen by your family, relatives and friends. Their envy, jealousy and blessing are all reasons for your happiness. How beautiful this stereotype is. Even a girl who never dreamed of getting married wanted to wear a wedding dress, so beautiful once. ?

But again, marriage is not maintained by wedding. ?

I'm not looking forward to marriage. I used to look forward to the wedding, and I thought about what I would do if I got married many times. But recently I began to think that if I really had a good life, the wedding was actually unnecessary for me. Because it's not just a wedding that can tell whether we are doing well or not. Just like a couple, after marriage, or before marriage, there may still be domestic violence, but one of them just can't live without the other. They just want to fight and get hurt. Before they even got on the platform, they quarreled, almost started, and were finally persuaded by their friends. Looking at their wedding, will you still be full of emotion and joy? I'm afraid not. So if we are really good, we don't really need a wedding to prove anything. We got a marriage certificate. Even if we don't have this wedding, no one will say that we are living together illegally, not to mention that you didn't have a wedding when we gave birth, so you can't get a birth permit. So the wedding is actually just a ceremony and won't really affect your life.

Qipa said

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In the course of the debate, the sense of ceremony and the concept of "who is this wedding for" have always filled the field, affecting the whole debate. To tell the truth, our country really attaches great importance to these things, just as we have to prove ourselves by obtaining many certificates in this life, but in fact, those certificates can only be proved for a period of time, and some people even spend money to buy them, but that certificate actually does not represent your ability, it is just a ceremony, so you have to do it. This is a national regulation, and I can't say anything, but I hope that one day this regulation is unnecessary, because everyone's ability can be recognized.

Qipa said

As for "who is this wedding for?" I want to say first that on this day, I wore exquisite makeup and beautiful clothes. The first time I saw my husband's clothes, he came up to me with a serious face and told me sweet nothings. And then you tell me this wedding is not for me? I don't agree, even if there are only two of us at the scene and everyone else is a spectator, even if there are more spectators than the protagonist, so what? I am so beautiful, I smile so sweetly in the edited wedding photo. It is rare to see my husband shyly telling me sweet words and gently wiping my tears. How did I become a show for others when I was so happy and immersed in it? This is also our "stereotype", because there are more spectators, and the bride and groom become unimportant. We do this for our relatives and friends, so we should reassure them and accept their blessings. But how many of those lines at the wedding were not prepared in advance? The protagonist is more likely to be immersed in it without knowing it. Don't spectators know? Many weddings have been rehearsed now. Who can not know who the protagonist is and why it is easy to immerse himself? It is because of the atmosphere and music, and so many people around her. She felt that the occasion suddenly seemed more formal than the rehearsal, so she accidentally took it seriously. ?

However, if a person who didn't want to have a wedding originally gets married because of compromise and family, then for ta, the wedding is really not for himself. For ta, it is a show, a reality show, for those who want to watch ta's wedding.

Qipa said

I, a person who doesn't look forward to marriage, can't even imagine that I have to live with the same person for decades, and I can't stand it if I think about it. My best friend, her brother, is getting married soon. One day, I went to their house and sat on the sofa, just opposite the bathroom. Her brother and sister washed their hair, and her brother handed her a towel and blew her hair, wondering if the picture was warm, but what was I thinking at that time? I thought at that time, oh, my God, they are getting married, and they should be with this person they are facing for at least 50 or 60 years. How do they live? ! How can they stand it? ! Of course, my worry is superfluous to them, and I only feel this way when I think of myself. I really can't imagine that I have lived under the same roof for so long. It's too long and difficult for me. For a long time, people like me still want to have a beautiful, not grand, at least warm wedding, but recently, I suddenly don't want it. I don't want gifts, I don't want blessings, I just want to take wedding photos quietly, get a marriage certificate beautifully, and then we will come back from our honeymoon happily and live the life we should live. ?

You want a sense of ceremony, you want others to praise you for your beauty, you want to be envied and envied, you want to be blessed, you put almost your wedding photos in a circle of friends, and you put your carefully decorated wedding photos and marriage certificates in a circle of friends. Isn't this coming? Isn't this there? ?

There is also a sense of ritual in daily life that Luo Pang said below:

Qipa said

Isn't this all a sense of ritual? Why is a wedding a sense of ceremony? Isn't a marriage certificate more ceremonial than a wedding? You don't want a sense of daily ritual, or you don't just want a sense of daily ritual, so a marriage certificate is the most formal. Why not just get a marriage certificate? ?

Now that marriage and marriage certificate are unnecessary, how can a wedding be necessary? How did the wedding become necessary? A wedding may be necessary for the dream in your heart. But I have to say that not everyone's dreams in this world will be fulfilled, and not every dream will come true. So if you want to do it, there is no one around you who doesn't support it. You won't be unhappy because of a wedding, but because of some accidents, so do it. But it's really unnecessary for life.

Qipa said

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Why did I suddenly stop doing it recently? One reason not mentioned in the debate, why did a person who was looking forward to the wedding suddenly stop doing it? Why doesn't anyone think about the reason? Why? There must have been an accident in her life, which made her suddenly panic about whether this incident could make her marriage happier. I am one of them.

Qipa said

My family relationship may not be complicated to many people, but it makes it difficult for me to do it. My father and my grandmother are not on good terms. My mother is the oldest in the family. I have five uncles and three menses, and only one of them has a general relationship with menstruation. I have been in her family for a period since I was a child, so the relationship is very good. Eight relatives only associate with three, and my father is particularly mean and overbearing. He doesn't allow me and my mother to associate with them. Every time I get angry and drink, he tells me a lot of things before, saying that I must not invite them to get married, I must not ask them for help, I just can't have any contact with their family. But I'm different. I am an only child. Because of my father, I was not very close to my brothers and sisters at home since I was a child. But in fact, I especially want to be close to them, because my mother has contacts with them and my mother often tells me about them. I've seen a lot myself since I was a child. Those things that I am too young to remember, my father said many times, I have no impression. But when I was growing up, my own eyes and ears could see and hear the good and bad people around me. But I can't change this established reality. I can't get my father out of his bad mood. I can't approach them regardless of his feelings. Even I don't know how to get close to them. Twenty years is no joke. ?

I used to think, maybe when I get married, if I can still get married (I don't want to get married for family reasons), I want to invite my uncle, menstruation, my brother and sister, my brother and sister. I want everyone to be happy, and I want my family to witness my happiness. Even though my father never treated them as family, I did treat them as family, because they are. And I grew up alone, and I really want to have my brother and sister to take care of me, and I also want to take care of my brother and sister as my sister. ?

But recently, my father and they had a serious contradiction, which made me feel that my dream could only be a dream, unless my father was gone when I got married. I'm sorry, I know this statement is too much and scary, but this is really the situation I am facing. I didn't swear. I just want to say that I suddenly realized how naive my idea was, and it was impossible and impossible to realize. Just because I want to invite my relatives to witness my wedding, just because of my idea, there may be a murder case. Do you think I still want this? But if I don't invite them, I will make it difficult for my mother to do this wedding, and I will feel sorry for myself. ?

Then I'd rather not do it. ?

My life is mixed, not just at a wedding. As long as I live well and my parents are happy and at ease, then I won't do it; I don't want my father to be bad and my mother to be bad, so I won't do it; I don't want my wedding to make me unhappy, so why don't I do it and avoid everything? ?

I don't want to talk about my family. It's a fact, and it can't be changed. Doing your best can't turn Gan Kun around, so don't say too much, just say one possibility.

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If a wedding is a "must" thing, what should people in the world who can't have a wedding today because of family or other reasons do? Not getting married? Facing them, how can you have the heart to say that you have to have a wedding? The wedding is so beautiful that everyone has to do it. As long as you want to get married, the wedding is an "indispensable" existence in your life. What do you want them to do with themselves?

Qipa said

For some people, they finally have the courage to walk into marriage. Now you tell them to have a wedding, they will be afraid. Unlike Mix, I don't even have the courage to hold a wedding. How can I have the courage to walk into marriage? For them, marriage is a matter of two people, but the wedding is not. It is tantamount to telling the world, but he actually doesn't have the courage to tell the world, because he is afraid that his marriage will go wrong, he will be laughed at and eventually get out of harm. He finally got up the courage to say "I will marry you". He really wants to have a good life with you. Who is married and wants a divorce? ?

Please leave something for such an injured person, let him feel at ease, don't deprive him of all his sense of security, say that I give you a sense of security and throw away all the sense of security you gave yourself before. Please don't treat him like this. You think this gives him enough sense of security, but perhaps for him, this is the most cruel gentleness. ?

There is too much pain and sorrow in this world for us to understand and predict. Only when we are lenient with others can we be lenient with others. ?

Therefore, whether you are for ceremony or romance, for blessing, for gift money, for the recognition of the other parents, and for getting more what you want, the wedding is never necessary. ?

No one in this world can ask others to do something "must", let alone say something is "necessary" just because most people have done it. Because just when you think you have to do it, others think you really can't. ?

Everyone needs to do it, but you can ask yourself to do everything, but you have no right to ask others to do it.

Whether it's a wedding or a marriage certificate, it's just a ceremony. Real life has never been them. The real life is rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, getting along day and night, trivial.