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In late March, I attended the new book release conference of young writer Li Shanglong, Your so-called stability is just a waste of life. I want to share it with you.

Li Shanglong, born in 1990s, is a young director/screenwriter/former New Oriental teacher/screenwriter, a typical slash youth. In the year of college entrance examination, he was admitted to the military academy with excellent results, and then dropped out of the military academy regardless of obstacles, avoiding the jail of government agencies. Then I joined Beijing New Oriental School 20 1 1 and became a teacher. ? Later, he entered the advanced class of Beiying to study as a director and screenwriter, and founded the Longying tribe. Literary classics "Your so-called stability is just a waste of life", "You just look hard" and "You think you are gregarious and you are wasting your youth"; Film and television works "Collapsed Youth" and "Broken Dreamer"

1. The so-called stability

The sharing session will begin with the new book directed by Li Shanglong, a micro-film of the same name, Your so-called stability is just a waste of your life.

The film tells the story of three young people with different backgrounds and occupations who broke the stability and mediocrity and bravely pursued their dreams. These three young people are Xiao Song, who graduated from music major and was put into the company by his father for stability but not happiness, Xiao Zhao, a car driver who repeats regularly every day but feels no improvement, and Xiaobai, a photojournalist whose life and work tend to be stable but can't find the meaning of life.

2. Stability = insipid+mediocrity+waste of life

Although they are engaged in different jobs, they have the same troubles: they live a repetitive life without improvement, and their lives are becoming more and more stable, but they are not what they want.

They reflect: they always think that they can work like their elders for ten or twenty years, and they always think that they will be guaranteed when they are tired, but they forget that the present society has told development, and no one knows what will happen under the ever-changing market economy. Every day in the changing world, nothing is stable at all. Those days that are not enterprising, no matter how tired, will eventually be returned to you. Behind the stable work is one's own weakness of hands and feet, which is a chronic suicide of boiling frogs in warm water. The so-called stability and mediocrity is a second waste of life.

3. Pursue "real stability"

When he realized it was time to change, Xiao Song picked up his musical dream again, went to the library to recharge, practiced piano in his spare time and sang in cafes. Through his efforts, he was recognized by more and more people, and even changed his father's attitude towards him and supported him in pursuing his dreams.

After Xiao Bai lost his job, he picked up a camera and began to cultivate his interest in photography. She practiced her shooting skills diligently, and her works were widely praised on the Internet, which also brought her new career opportunities and ushered in the spring of her career.

Xiao Zhao taught himself a tourist guide card, and while driving, he explained the tour to the passengers, which was recognized by the passengers and improved his skills and professional competitiveness.

The end of the film tells us a truth: "Since there is no absolute stability, make progress every day, because only a life of progress every day is the most stable."

1. Reading makes girls richer.

Rich ≠ rich, rich means strong inside.

When you have a lot of time, you should use it to read. Reading is a process of dealing with the author. The author's point of view is not necessarily right, but it touches you.

No book list is required, because everyone's growth experience and background are different, and the books they need to read are different. But remember, don't limit yourself when choosing the category of books, each kind of book will bring you unexpected gains.

Reading doesn't mean how much money you want to earn, but in the dead of night, you can stand loneliness, at least you have books with you.

Too much chicken soup will kill you.

2. Girls should have a skill.

The story of the protagonist of "graduation photo, the loneliest in Peking University", which went viral on the Internet, tells us that in this era, efforts are not directly proportional to income, and income is only directly proportional to your irreplaceability.

Always ask yourself: where is my irreplaceability? How to cultivate your own irreplaceability?

You must persist in doing some crazy things in life, and you will find meaning.

After entering the society, your competitors are not just peers, but gods hidden in every corner of this society. At this time, you will find how important it is to be irreplaceable and skilled.

In this era when multi-occupation has become a global trend, the correct life is to make the road of life more and more diversified.

What you accumulate when you are young will make you irreplaceable.

We should be prepared to change our orbit at any time, and we should extend our tentacles to all angles to feel the octopus.

3. Girls should have clear goals.

Once the goal is clear, what you do is meaningful, and a little motivation will motivate you to move forward.

Even stupid goals, once written down, will become meaningful.

Life needs dreams to feed.

It is very important to write down your dreams on paper. The goal must be specific, clear, phased, practical and gradually realized.

Take time to love, but don't live by love.

Girls should never compete with men to pay the bill, don't be women, don't pretend, as long as they are normal.

The payment method for boys and girls eating out can refer to "AB system". Boys pay most of the bills and girls help pay a small part.

When you are young, don't put your energy into a man, but put all your energy into your dreams and look to the future.

He may take away what others have laid for you at any time, but no one can take away his own things.

5. Make more friends, travel and experience.

The best thing in life is to see all the scenery in one lap without regret.

Since life is a circle with the same destination, let's make the process more exciting.

Xiao Nan is a friend of Li Shanglong and one of the protagonists in the book. Speaking of the topic of "tourism", Xiao Nan was invited to share her legendary experience with you.

Xiao Nan used to be a special soldier. A year later, he jumped out of the system to pursue his dream. Later, he went to the "Golden Triangle" area of Yunnan as a war volunteer and filmed his own documentary. It is a border town in the southwest of China, located at the junction of China and Myanmar. The war made him see something completely different from our daily life. He said, "There are still people who are suffering and displaced. They are experiencing where you will go every day."

In order to build a tent primary school for the children in the refugee camp, their three buildings were destroyed by the war. The most terrible thing is that he was mistakenly caught as a spy by the Burmese army in an accident and was detained for several months.

This experience from birth to death made him feel a lot:

1. There is no absolute right or wrong in this world. After reading a lot and experiencing a lot, you have no clear boundaries between good and bad, good and evil.

Don't jump to conclusions easily, be more tolerant and love others.

What you experienced during your trip may not be felt at the time, but it will definitely be meaningful afterwards.

4. I don't know what the world is like without going out to see it. If you go out and have a look, you will find that the world is not what you think.

Despite the hardships, Xiao Nan was grateful for that experience. He said that it was precisely because he tried aerial photography in Yunnan that he realized his dream and became the best aerial photography team of drones in China and the promotion director. So, he said, the meaning of travel is that you can't feel it at that time, but you will definitely find its meaning later.

At the end of the sharing session, Li Shanglong answered several questions from enthusiastic listeners and talked about his own experience and views on English and learning.

1. Never limit your reading range, your knowledge needs to be opened.

2. Following movies and American TV shows is the best way to practice oral English. American TV shows must be watched many times. When learning English is lonely, you should bear loneliness.

The best rest is not sleeping, but changing your mind.

4. Leave yourself an hour or two free time every day. This is the "egg" in your life, which will enrich your efforts and give you opportunities at the same time.