How to cultivate connections and emotional intelligence that you can rely on after the age of 30

Many young people worry, "I'm soft-spoken and inexperienced. Isn't networking just about helping each other? I can't help others, so why should they come to deal with me?" In fact, there are misunderstanding.

Let you and your connections grow together

Before the age of 30, rely on ability, after the age of 30, rely on connections.

Why after 30 years old? Just waiting for you and your network to grow together, everyone’s energy is rising. Therefore, when you start building connections, you must be enthusiastic. The greater your contribution, the greater your value. In turn, the greater others are willing to pay for you.

It can’t be a big help but a small one

First of all, you must be willing to share with others - share knowledge. Your professional knowledge can sometimes help many people; share resources , including material and friendship aspects; sharing love is really not helpful, but showing sincere concern will be remembered by others.

Dealing with "big friends"

Yang Fei said that since I work on the Internet, I am very willing to chat more with the "little friends" born after the 1980s, otherwise I will not be able to keep up with the situation.

Not long ago, she went to the United States to attend an industry conference. “Many guests from world-famous companies are much more senior than me, but when I spoke, they paid attention and took the initiative to communicate a lot during the meeting— —They are very concerned about China's Internet industry, so they will definitely pay attention to me. How many real benefits do you think there are in making such a "big friend"?

Unique skills: introverts, Please use the Internet more

In today’s society, introverts are indeed at a disadvantage. For such a person, it is recommended that he use the Internet to accumulate contacts. On many websites, netizens have established many "small circles". Some people discuss IT technology, and some engage in photography and mountaineering. If you don’t dare to talk to people offline, there will be no obstacles online, right?

"Small connections" and "big connections" come together

Many young people complain that they know too few people. The advice is: don't choose, accumulate and maintain all connections. The simplest way is to use work channels to turn people you know at work into your connections.

"Small connections" take no effort and effort

What is "small connections"? For example, once Yang Fei wanted to buy some stationery, so she went to visit a friend who was an administrator. "She opened the drawer, took out a large book of business cards, and told me by category: If you need it urgently, you can find the supplier Lao Zhang, who will deliver it to your door; if you want the lowest price, you can go to a certain stall on Qipu Road to find it yourself. Xiao Chen: In short, don’t go to the supermarket. Comparatively speaking, the prices there are the most expensive. “So, you can turn everything from suppliers that deliver water or copy paper into your own resources in case of emergencies.

Most of the time, you don’t need to worry about maintaining this kind of "small network". You only need to spend time building a clear database.

"Big connections" start with chatting

In her early years, Yang Fei was an intern in a government department. At that time, two-way selection was just started for college students' employment, and she had no idea where there were jobs. So I went to an "old Jianghu" in the office for help. "Lao Jianghu" opened the drawer, took out two stacks of business cards tied with leather bands, flipped through them for a few minutes, and found one. When I called him, I chatted with the other party as usual. At the end, I mentioned something about her in passing.

This "old Jianghu" doesn't write much at work. When he has nothing to do, he just flips through these two stacks of business cards and talks on the phone. Those who are more senior than him will report on their work and life; those who are more senior will chat about random things. His network of contacts is maintained through thousands of chats. If necessary, use it without any shame.

Don’t look at it, many people like this trick. Otherwise, why is msn so popular now?

Maintaining connections also depends on food.

Of course, some people don’t like this kind of “chatting about nothing.” If you chat with him, even if he is not busy, he will check his watch frequently: "If you have anything to say, I will always help you. Why are you so nagging?" Therefore, "maintaining" connections also depends on personal preferences.

Unique secret skill: When it is difficult to start, start with customers

There are really few opportunities to develop contacts, so you might as well start with customers.

Go out with your boss to meet a client and get four or five business cards, which is equivalent to waste paper - it is difficult to skip the post-event communication between the boss and the client. But if the project is negotiated, the boss usually will not follow up on his own. At this time, it is the best time to build a relationship with the customer.

After the project is over, it is of course not suitable to interact with customers anymore, but you can appear as a recommender: "A friend has a project, and I think you are a good match. Would you like to talk about it sometime?" Not only does it help friends broaden their choices, but it also connects customers with others. Isn’t it just adding a lubricant to the network?