Giving roses to others leaves a lingering fragrance in your hands

Let me tell you a little story first

In a temple, a disciple who had just converted asked the elder of the temple: I heard that there is heaven and hell in this world. What does hell look like? The elder replied that in fact, they all look the same on the outside, but they are different on the inside. They all have delicious food there, but it’s not easy to eat it by yourself because the chopsticks are very long. People in hell want to pick up chopsticks and put them in their mouths, but after trying hard for a long time they can't eat any food; while people in heaven give food to the people across from them and eat it easily.

Let’s talk about “roses and incense”

From the above short story, we can see that the same world turned into heaven and hell because of different actions. We care for others, and others respond to us. We work hard and contribute to society, and society will respond to us. This is what we often call "altruism and self-interest."

Here we use "rose" and "香" "Let's talk about the relationship between self-interest and altruism.

In 2017, I joined a fee-based community for the first time. In addition to completing related tasks, there are not too many managers in the group. Even these few managers are the voluntary actions of group members. I applied. I was full of doubts about this phenomenon at first. After all, in this era where people are chasing fame and fortune and seeking quick results, such "selfless" people are almost extinct.

There is a girl who always sends the mind maps shared by big names to the group immediately, and later also sends verbatim drafts. Everyone applauds constantly, but she said that the most beneficial thing is actually It's herself. Excellent people always have their own magnetic field. Later, I added her as a friend. Under her influence, I slowly began to want to do something for this group, so I compiled comments on excellent articles for a month.

In the beginning, I just simply summarized the excellent articles so that the group members can see the excellent articles more conveniently. In the process of sorting, I gained a lot. The most direct thing is that I learned fancy bragging instead of Only "the article is so well written", I gradually understood the characteristics of excellent articles, and in the next month I got two excellent articles in a row.

A summary not only allows group friends to see excellent articles, gain some insights and grow from them, but I also gained a lot of friends.

This is "giving roses to others, and the fragrance lingers in your hands".

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A formula

Life. The result of work = way of thinking x enthusiasm x ability

< p> The author believes that the results of life and work are determined by three factors: way of thinking, enthusiasm, and ability. These three factors are mutual multipliers, not addends.

Therefore, as long as one of the three factors fluctuates, the result will change greatly.

Two phenomena

Ability is composed of IQ, experience, health and other factors. Enthusiasm is related to likeability and effort. Because of the multiplication relationship, even if the ability is high but the enthusiasm index is low, the result Not ideal, but those with average abilities put in great enthusiasm, and the results they obtain are often surprising.

Generally, new entrants in the photography industry start as assistants, which is a legendary job that requires more work, less money, and training.

Fangfang and Xiaoli are both new employees. The first week happened to be the peak season, and the workload was extremely heavy, so Xiaoli was slacking off. In the second week, a front desk clerk resigned, so Xiaoli applied to be transferred to the front desk. She completed whatever work the boss gave her in a pinch. He also told us how easy it was to change the job.

As for Fangfang, in addition to helping the photographer with setting up scenes and lighting, she also goes to the art department whenever she has time to look at sample photos and learn how to edit client photos. A month later, Xiaoli became a full-time employee. Once she became familiar with her job, she became even more lazy. She even visited shopping websites and read entertainment gossip during working hours. Fangfang is still an assistant, learning lighting from the photographer and retouching from the artist.

Half a year later, the company will transform and the stores will be merged into other places. The requirements for employees joining the new stores will be different, but there will be a one-month buffer period.

Xiaoli always complains that the assessment mechanism of the new store is inhumane, but Fangfang studies harder. A month later, Xiaoli failed the assessment, but Fangfang became the backbone of the department.

Before Xiaoli left her job, her boss said that Xiaoli was a quick learner and had good abilities, but if she was clever at work, she would be the one who suffered in the end.

Three results

Enthusiasm and effort have positive values, but the way of thinking can have negative values.

When the three factors are all positive and have large values, this is usually the case when we see many great heroes.

When the thinking mode is negative and the other two numbers are large, it is more dangerous, like a dictator.

Reference book "Living Method"