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Every week, I take an afternoon off, sit in the bookstore for an afternoon, read some books I am interested in and make relevant reading notes.

This week, I "met" a strange uncle named Matsuura Yataro in Japan. It is said that he knows life best in Japan. His words are simple, but full of profound meaning, which will always benefit you a lot. "How to Plan Your Life at the Age of 25" is one of his works. I choose something meaningful to share with you.

Let's talk about how to be a better self.

1. Positive attitude towards life.

In life, we will inevitably lose our enthusiasm for life because of some factors, but actively adjusting our mentality is an essential skill. A positive attitude will give you some motivation to live. Some people are full of energy every day, giving people a positive feeling. On the contrary, some people live in the world every day, giving people a negative feeling. In the face of positive and negative opposition, I think more people will choose the former. Life will treat you positively only if you face life positively.

2. Accumulate "small successes".

Today, your game level has improved, which is a success. You passed the exam today, which is a success. You learned a dish today, which is considered a success. Even if you finish a job perfectly today, it is a success. Every small success will accumulate your self-confidence, and over time you will become more and more confident, so that you won't be timid in doing many things for a long time. Of course, overconfidence is conceit.

3. Insist on doing what you like and work harder than others.

You like playing football, please stick to it; You like singing, please stick to it; You like photography, please stick to it; You like riding, please stick to it; You like hand painting, please stick to it; You like writing, please stick to it. When you meet something you like to do, stick to it and work harder than others. Those things you like will become your extra chips one day.

4. Face up to failure.

I have heard a famous saying since I was a child, "successful people always have ways, and unsuccessful people always have reasons." It is not terrible for a person to fail. The terrible thing is that I don't know where I am wrong. We are all afraid of failure, and we are all sad, but at the same time, it is more important for us to find the place of failure, face up to the reasons of failure and ask ourselves, "Why did I fail?" After all, the wound hurts to scar.

5. Insist on buying a book you want most.

Please note, it's a book, it's a book you want to have most. Is this undoubtedly a challenge for everyone who has difficulty in choosing? When you enter a bookstore, you may encounter many books that interest you, but at this time you can only choose one. What would you do? I'm sure you will compare several books at this time. Every book has a reason why you like it. Some books are worth buying, while others are unnecessary to collect. At this time, you will gradually learn to observe, carefully taste and constantly choose, because the opportunity is only once. In fact, there are many choices in life. Constantly temper yourself in the choice, and finally you can have what you want most.

6. Always be curious.

When you are curious about something, you will learn more, think and have questions. A few questions will haunt your mind, "Why?" "Why?" "How?"

For example, if you are curious about the three silly sledges, you will know what the three silly sledges are. Why do you call them three idiots? How stupid? Under the curious trend, you will gradually know that these three are Alaska, Husky and Samoy. About their habits, the differences between them and so on.

7. Explore deeply what you like.

For example, my sister likes coffee. She tasted every kind of coffee carefully, and now she has made her own coffee at home. She has been able to distinguish the different tastes of coffee, evaluate the blooming of coffee and name each coffee accurately. I often ask her if I encounter problems in this area. Also, a friend of mine especially likes succulents. A person raises many succulents and gradually becomes a succulent player. His succulents have a high survival rate, and potted succulents are very popular, and he has become a professional in the field of succulents. In short, when you like something and explore it deeply, you will become a professional in that field.

8. Make a top ten list.

"Top ten songs you like", "Top ten dogs you know" and "Top ten domestic film and television dramas", you must want to ask, what's the use? Divert attention and activate the brain. Do this often, you will find many interesting things in life, and you will get a lot of knowledge from it.

9. Try something you've never done before.

Is there anything you want to do but haven't done? For example, I want to bungee jump and challenge myself; Or take a day off and live your own life. Add different colors to your seemingly dull life.

10. Get into the habit of carrying a pen and paper with you and recording it at any time.

This habit is a habit I have always maintained. I often read books or wait for people. At this time, a pen and a notebook became my tools to pass the time. Write down what you like at any time, or leave your own impromptu graffiti. You will look back on your life and know yourself from your notes.

When you are alone, you can use your own time to recharge your batteries, do something you like, learn some specialties and enrich your life. When you learn these skills, time will pass quietly, you won't feel that time is long, and you won't feel how hard a person is.

Now I will continue to share with you how to be a better self.

1 1. Sincere praise and thanks.

This should be obvious. When shopping, give a thank you to the waiter around you; Say thank you to the master when you get off the train, but the seemingly small details give the other person a good mood. Many times, you will gain more goodwill.

Let's talk about compliments. When your family or friends wear a new dress in front of you and need your advice, if they really think it's good, you can give them some compliments appropriately, instead of just "looking good" and "not bad." On the contrary, you can say, "This dress is good, which means you are slim." Just a few more words, in the other party's view, there is absolute affirmation.

12. The more trivial the agreement, the more you should abide by it.

This is a good habit, because for the author, there is a bad habit and an attitude towards people around him, "If you can't do it, then don't promise me." Actually, I didn't ask anyone to do too much for me. Even if you tell me that you can't do anything for me, I don't think it's a big deal if I do it myself. But please don't promise and don't do it. I hate that expectation turns into disappointment, and eventually it will slowly develop into despair. Once I had that despair, I began to give up that person and stop trusting that person. Therefore, we should try our best to abide by those seemingly insignificant decisions, and don't promise if we can't do it.

Actually, I don't have much say in this. I didn't do well, but I'm gradually correcting it.

13. Use "Go to the bathroom" when appropriate.

There are many such plots in TV dramas. When the protagonist is in a very serious or tense environment and both sides are silent, he goes to the bathroom. This is because when he feels stressed or nervous, he will choose to go to the bathroom to calm down for a while. This method can adjust the mentality and clear the mind. Of course, when couples quarrel, this method is also feasible, giving each other a calm time.

14. Don't judge a person only by his appearance.

This is vulgar and easy to understand, because it has been said in many places. I use one sentence to say this truth, "this person is not as good as you think, and similarly, it is not as bad as others think." or vice versa, Dallas to the auditorium

Appearance is internal, but in fact it lies in fate. Appearance is just a signboard that attracts everyone's attention, and inner is the key essence of whether you can retain everyone. Never put the cart before the horse. You don't need to care too much about your appearance. Uncle Matsuura said: "The best external performance is to include your hairstyle and make your overall dress clean. Suitable and natural. "

15. Build your own voice platform.

The author's exclusive voice platform has two official WeChat accounts, one is from Chuxin and the other is a wandering monk. At this point, someone will definitely say, "You only do this number because you like writing? What if I don't like it? " In fact, the vocal platform does not refer to a certain category, but a platform. Space, friends circle, Weibo, Douban, Blog and Zhihu all belong to the platform. In the era of big data, many people don't like to post too much in the circle of friends and space, and think that there is no need to send those words. There is some truth in this, but what I am talking about here is a voice that belongs to my own attitude, not limited to my mood.

When you have your own voice platform, you will meet all kinds of people, share your inner feelings with others, develop some unique interpersonal relationships and adapt to express yourself. The author made this figure out from his own heart and wanted to share some attitudes with those in need. Even if only one person finds it useful, the existence from the heart is meaningful.

16. Don't ignore the 5% profit.

I wonder if you have heard of "1 137 principle"? This is an economic principle. Generally speaking, when we invest in a thing, we first invest in 1000 and lose money; This is the reinvestment of 1000, and it is possible to break even. If you lose money at this time, you need to invest 3000 yuan, so once you make a profit, you can earn back the previous 2000 yuan. If you lose money again, you will finally invest 7000 yuan. In this way, as long as you win once, you won't lose money and you can remain profitable.

Although this is an economic principle, it is widely applicable. Simply put, this is also a kind of persistence.

Uncle Matsuura cited two examples: first, when asking for help from others, at least three times, first listen to others' opinions with an open mind and gradually establish interpersonal relationships. Second, regarding shopping mall transactions, if you want the other party to buy more profitable goods, you must deliberately calculate them cheaper when customers buy goods several times before, so that the other party feels that they have made something here.

17. Learn to be independent.

Independence, independence. Now too many girls and teenagers are only children, so they are spoiled by all kinds of pets, and many of them are unable to take care of themselves. This is not a case, but a common phenomenon.

The author was raised by "stocking" and began to learn independence from an early age. He goes to school alone and has no family to pick him up. Cooking alone because parents are busy; Washing dishes, washing clothes and cleaning seem to be all, and joking is to live as a boy. But it is precisely because of this that I gradually developed a person with strong adaptability. Wherever I go, from changing light bulbs to repairing sewers, I can take care of myself and support myself. Okay, that's beside the point.

What I want to say is that independence is a necessary skill.

18. Thick skin is also a positive sign.

People in China are generally proud, so they are all thin-skinned. What I just want to tell you here is that being cheeky is also a positive performance. Previously, there was a very popular TV series in Taiwan Province, which was based on a comic book and starred Joseph Cheng and Ariel Lin. Yuan's thick skin was necessary, and it was finally won successfully, including Christine chasing Akin. This example may not be appropriate, but the general expression is cheeky and positive. After all, it is very important to decide the courage and instant explosive power.

19. Do a good job in health management.

Health is the most basic thing people need. Without health, you have nothing. After all, dust to dust, life can not bring death, nor can it take away death. Therefore, everyone should not neglect their own health management. You don't have to eat healthy every day, but try to eat less unhealthy things. Alcohol and tobacco are enough, and once in a while, eat carcinogenic food such as barbecue. Take more exercise and keep a positive attitude.

20. Exercise observation.

Xu made a very abnormal observation in the popular online drama Yu Sin some time ago. This observation is not born to him, but his more than ten years of police experience. It can be seen that observation is usually accumulated. Find the bits and pieces in life, meet some interesting people and things, and get some inspiration.

Let's talk about some tips at work.

2 1. Meeting is an opportunity to show yourself.

The author has personal experience. When I worked in the internship unit before, when I first came here, when I introduced myself, because the self-introduction was different from other students, I was appointed as the monitor, which is the manager of all our interns. Later, there was another publicity activity about showing the company's corporate culture, which involved articles, photography and micro-movies. The author spoke actively at the meeting, attracted the attention of the leaders and gained many opportunities. If you have some internships and ideas, you might as well show yourself at the meeting at the right time.

22. Always check the working status and decide the priority.

This is a kind of efficiency management. In the face of a lot of work, we must distinguish the order, do the important work first, and strive to do it well before the leadership urges it. In short, flexible adjustment and improvisation. By the way, an apology is the same as a thank you. It's much better to do this at the first time than overnight.

23. English is an indispensable weapon.

English is the first language in circulation in the world, so it doesn't matter where you go with her. At work, you can get extra points at critical moments. After all, there are still many international friends now.

Only by changing your point of view can you improve your level.

When you encounter something, don't look at it from an inertial point of view, always choose assumptions and learn to put yourself in the other's shoes. For example, you have someone you trust very much. When you encounter something, you might as well assume that if it were him, what would he do? You might do it differently. Cultivate your ability to see things from different angles. Some things are not only good and bad.

25. Don't always say "I can't help it" and "I won't".

First of all, these two words give people a very negative feeling and will make you lose points in front of others. A lot of things, try to do, if possible.