First thing: how to get rid of inefficient busyness and do a good job in time management?

This is an era of highly developed information technology. Facing the high-tech information society and fast-paced modern life, people generally feel anxious. Time is always insufficient, things are always unfinished, and daily life is always in a state of tension, just like the Russian-Ukrainian war.

We don't want this anxiety to continue. Is there any way to solve it? The book "First things first" gives us a good way to get rid of inefficient busyness and have free time to spend with our families.

There are three authors in this book, among which Dr. Steven Covey is the most outstanding. He is a "master of thought" in American academic circles, selected as one of the "25 people who have influenced the course of American history", named as a "mentor of human potential" by Time magazine, and a trusted advisor to former US presidents Clinton and Obama. The Economist magazine recommended him as "the most forward-looking management thinker".

His masterpiece "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" is popular all over the world and has a great influence. The first thing is an extended version of Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. In the book, the author emphasizes that importance, not urgency, is the standard of time arrangement.

1. Give priority to important things.

In time management, we should not only deal with urgent things passively, but also give priority to important things. Most of us are involuntarily dominated by urgent matters.

The child is crying, the phone is ringing, it's time to go to work ... Do you feel in a hurry and hate not being able to be in two places at once? For the things assigned by the leader, you handle them quickly and neatly, and you have a proud sense of accomplishment. Over time, dealing with emergency affairs has become your first priority, and you enjoy it. This is what the book calls "emergency addiction".

Urgency itself is not a problem, but whether what you do is what you really need. Therefore, to deal with urgent things, we should pay more attention to important but not urgent things.

When there are many things, first judge whether they are important or not, and sort them according to their priorities.

If you want to be the first, you should make a weekly plan.

Focusing on the daily plan makes it easy for us to pay attention to the immediate things-urgent and urgent things, which obviously goes against our original intention-to do important but not urgent things.

Just like professional photographers, they use wide-angle and ultra-wide-angle lenses to take panoramic pictures. Bring the distant scene closer to your eyes with a telescope, and then take pictures with a conventional lens. They can use their professional skills and choose the right lens to achieve the desired effect.

Like a photographer, you should know how to achieve high efficiency in your own way.

People usually think that daily plans are more specific. In fact, the daily plan narrows our horizons, while the weekly plan is more complete in our lives. Including working days, evenings and weekends, it can not only take into account the daily plan, but also provide a week's arrangement, expand the horizon to a week and consider it more comprehensively.

With the weekly plan, if others invite you to participate in the activities, you will have a reasonable explanation, so as not to change the plan and be limited to chaos.

For to-do items, there is enough time to prepare in advance, and everything can be handled in an orderly and calm manner.

No matter in daily life or work, we should make a weekly plan first, and then break it down into a timetable, so that our time can be allocated reasonably.

3. Principles determine the quality of life

Usually follow a specific and prescribed way of doing things. This way of doing things may achieve good results in some cases, but it may not work in other cases. Once there is no precedent, we don't know what to do. If we live according to principles and know how to live, we can adapt quickly.

The principle is the law of farming, which follows four stages: spring ploughing, summer sowing, autumn harvest and winter storage. In agriculture, the laws and principles of nature restrict cultivation and determine the harvest. But in the long run, farming rules restrict all areas of life.

If you are a student, you don't follow the agricultural rules (listen to lectures, practice and review) and think smart. Guess what the teacher will do? How to score? Maybe you will get a high score and get pleasure for a while, but the final result will definitely disappoint you.

If you are married, your mind is still single. You didn't take the time to cultivate the seeds of knowledge, selflessness, love, gentleness and thoughtfulness, but you accidentally harvested weeds. They tried to solve the problem by taking a shortcut. Without sowing, cultivation and maintenance, any method will not work.

No pains, no gains. Everything in the world follows the law of farming. If it is broken, it will lose its balance and affect the harmony of nature.

The law of farming was discovered for the first time. It turns out that all aspects of our lives follow the law of farming.

Principles restrict people and make them. Without principles, life will be chaotic.

4. The roles are balanced and can be synergistic.

In the world, everyone does not exist in isolation, and life gives people multiple roles.

If the balance between roles is broken, it will lead to chaos and disorder in life, often paying attention to one thing and losing another, and being anxious. For example, some successful people's marriages have turned red. This is the "lose-lose view". If one character wins, the other characters lose. People constantly compete, constantly choose, and strive to cope with their roles.

So is there any way for us to take care of our family without neglecting our career, and we can have our cake and eat it?

The book tells us: "As long as we balance our various role changes, we can work together." For example, taking children to play ball games and standing in the role of self-growth will improve the game level and relax the body and mind. Standing in the role of father, you increase the interaction with children and cultivate the close relationship between you and children. This is a win-win view.

Every role is equally important. You can't just focus on one role and ignore other roles. These roles are interrelated and support each other. Only when all roles are balanced can we coordinate and improve efficiency.

James, the author of the classic "Thinking Man"? Allen said: "A person's state of life comes from his inner state, his thoughts are transformed into actions, and his actions create character and destiny."

Only by accurately judging the important but not urgent things can we make reasonable time arrangements for work and life, have more time to spend freely and handle the relationship between family and work well.

The three pillars of life are family, health and career. Only when these three pillars are perfectly combined and developed harmoniously can life be truly happy!