After reading the comparison chart of children born in 1980s and 10, I suddenly understand why children are more prone to depression now.

I often hear adults proudly say, "Now children are so happy that they don't have to worry about food and clothing. Parents can buy whatever they want! " This sentence seems reasonable, but are children really happier now? Previous data surveys show that the trend of children's depression in China is becoming more and more obvious, and more children suffer from psychological depression. So why do children who should be carefree have this series of psychological problems?

Previously, a photographer posted a group of children's photos he took 30 years ago on the Internet together with photos taken not long ago. Although all the pictures are taken of children of similar age, there are obvious differences between the children in the 1980s and those after 10.

Under the photographer's lens, the post-80 s children always grin and look at the camera. They will spend the afternoon playing with eagles and chickens. They will play arm-wrestling with great interest between classes. After school, they will go home hand in hand, talking and laughing all the way. At that time, children's lives were simple, but they laughed a lot.

And the children after 10, they are obviously better off. They don't have to wear a skirt sewn by their mother, and they won't be happy to drink a bottle of Arctic Ocean in summer. But at the same time, they have to carry two schoolbags to school because of too much homework, and their fingers are cocooned because of homework. Even if they are sleepy, they don't put down their pens.

The same is to prepare a performance. After 80' s, the children wore thick stage makeup and their eyes were full of expectation, while after 10, their faces were tired and their eyes were full of grievances. Although the children are all eight or nine years old, it is obvious that the children after 10 have no light in their eyes.

People's living conditions are better, and parents have higher expectations for their children. Parents always want their children to behave better, so they fall into educational anxiety and don't forget to put pressure on their children. Children's childhood happiness is selectively ignored by parents, who just want to see their children get more certificates and better grades.

In the fierce social competition, parents themselves have to suppress their emotions because of the heavy pressure of life, and gradually become numb and unconscious. In order to avoid trouble, they ignore their children's emotional state, don't allow them to have an outlet to vent their emotions, and blindly ask them to obey and compromise, completely forgetting that the negative emotions accumulated in their hearts will only accumulate.

Parents like to compare with others more than ever before. They hope that their education for their children can get better returns and make them show off in their lives. Therefore, parents can't see their children behind others. Even if you get 890 points, you will reprimand your child because someone got 100 points.

Although the social competition is fierce, it is not only their beautiful scores on the test paper that can really affect children's future growth and development, but also their emotional intelligence development and personality performance will play a certain intervention role. It is necessary for parents to put down the education of score theory and free their children's childhood from endless examination questions.

Children also have a psychological threshold. Once the threshold is exceeded, the child's growth is prone to deviation. Therefore, the more precocious children are, the more parents should take the initiative to care about their thoughts and pay more attention to their emotional expression. Every child can bear different psychological pressures. Parents should not think that their children are melodramatic, and it is the right way to find a suitable emotional outlet for their children.

It is necessary for parents to correct themselves. Not every child will become a top figure who understands his child's growth. Children have their own life trajectory, and parents can only be the guides of children, not the manipulators of their lives. It is not difficult to admit that children are ordinary people, because ordinary people also have happiness. Cultivating children into a confident, optimistic and happy person is the success of education.

In children, if they can show a simple smile, straightforward eyes and reckless happiness, then this is the most precious wealth that parents give them all their lives. Parents who let go of their educational anxiety can truly see their children's talent and potential. Life that forces children to run forward may not always see beautiful scenery. When children become more and more unhappy, parents should not spit out their "blx", but feel guilty for their indifference and numbness. The best education will not steal the light from children's eyes.