Can't the bride and groom meet the day before the wedding?

An ancient taboo doesn't matter if both parents don't have too many ideas and demands. It's already a new era. Modern young people already know too little. Where do people know all kinds of sayings and taboos, they naturally disappear and are not taken seriously. The previous taboos are unfounded and just a kind of spread.

If you think you care about the past customs, The wedding must end before 12 noon on the wedding day! ! ! It's unlucky not to end the wedding before twelve noon! ! ! The bride has to get up early that day and wait for Xinlang to pick her up. At this time, she can't eat anything! You can't eat anything! You can only eat jiaozi! But I forgot to eat a few, but there are numbers, either singular or even. You can ask the old people who understand when you come back! Xinlang has come to meet him, and he will worship the bride's parents together with the bride, and then the parents will give out red envelopes, and then the children who follow the bride's side of the basin, press the sedan chair and carry shoes will all be chosen, which can be children of her parents' relatives, cousins and so on. What's in the basin is a symbol of good luck and a good moral. You can ask people around you for details. I don't remember clearly. When the bride gets on the bus, she should put on green shoes, so that she won't suffer indignities when she gets to her mother-in-law's house. That is to say, the children who carry shoes help the bride change them. Remember that if the shoes are put on, they can't touch the ground. Just reach into the car! Then the car can drive away. The children who press the sedan chair are a couple, sitting next to the bride and groom, that is, in the same car! During the bride's stay at her parents' home, relatives and children who are in conflict with the bride's family are not allowed to appear. Of course, this is not the rule in every place. You can't go to the groom's house until the bride is picked up by the groom! I remember when my cousin got married, when the car drove to the crossroads, she would throw a packet of baked wheat cake wrapped in red cloth and a red envelope, which could be ten cents or white ash. If passers-by pick it up, please be happy! But my cousin and cousin are from the same city, and they are very close. You are so far away, forget it, there are too many intersections! After that, I arrived at my husband's family. At this time, the wedding was the main scene. The master of ceremonies presided over the worship of heaven and earth, and the parents of the man's family gave out red envelopes. What kind of fun activities, and the couple bit apples! Then you can enter the bridal chamber, and your family members can join in and have fun, and put some things prepared before, such as symbolic pots and boxes. Then it's almost time to have a banquet. The bride has to change her clothes, usually a red cheongsam, and come out to toast the guests with the bride. Then you can be free, and everyone can go their separate ways. If you are young people, such as the bride and groom's own friends and colleagues, you can go to the bridal chamber at night and have fun, and then go home separately, so that the bride and groom can be alone after a tired day! After three days, the bride can go home and visit once! There are many, many rules I haven't mentioned, such as a hundred needles around the bride's waist when she gets married! And what length of satin should the bride and groom wear, color and so on. I'm talking about all Chinese style, not western style. The bride and groom all wear Hanfu, but don't wear a wedding suit. Then the bride must never lift the veil when she goes out. When changing shoes, she can only lift it a little bit to see it clearly. You can't let everyone see that after the groom worships heaven and earth, the master of ceremonies can exchange tokens of love, earrings and rings, all of which are made of gold. Of course, diamond rings are popular now, and then the hijab can be lifted. First, the choice of wedding date: in the past, people were of course very particular about the choice of wedding date, and they all had to find someone to criticize the eight characters. Now it's not so complicated, but some people still find someone to look at the date according to the birthdates of both men and women. Nowadays, if people in Baoding choose their own dates, they will watch Wednesday, Saturday and September. There are not only lunar calendars, but also solar calendars, weeks and so on. The more days there are, the better. If you come to Baoding and find that many people are getting married, look through the calendar quickly. Generally, there will be many Wednesdays, Wednesdays and Wednesdays. For myself, I was on September 16th, 25, and on August 13th of the lunar calendar, Wednesdays, Wednesdays and Wednesdays were basically complete. In addition, due to the changes of the times, there are many people who choose eight now, and there are many people who get married during the golden holidays of May Day and November Day. Sometimes they are not particularly restricted by this, but most people still choose according to this basic principle. 2. Preparation before marriage According to the tradition of China, the man usually prepares the house, the wedding banquet, taking photos, etc., and the woman marries the electrical appliances. Of course, there is no big difference between this. Now everyone is doing it according to their own actual conditions, and the issue of bride price is not the same now. As far as I know, there are some, so I can't say it in detail. Please forgive me. Now it may be different from Beijing. Under normal circumstances, men and women can't meet one day before the wedding (it is important that they can't meet three days in advance, hehe). At this time, both men and women should confirm the wedding preparations separately. The woman prepares the things placed on the day of the wedding in advance, and the man prepares the layout of the wedding, and determines the vehicles, personnel and so on. In addition, if the bride's dowry (usually bedding, clothes, etc. here, because people are too troublesome now, all the appliances have been put in the new house) is to be delivered by the woman in the afternoon the day before the wedding, the man should give the dowry giver a red envelope or invite him to dinner. The man is going to tie a float one day in advance, and then all the helpers will be invited together that night to assign tasks, all of which are in the charge of the wedding manager. Third, the custom of the wedding day: 1. Time to pick up the bride: According to the custom of old Baoding, the sooner you pick up the bride, the better. You should pick up the bride before the sun comes out, but now many people don't follow this. However, affected by this, the time to pick up the bride is still very early. Generally, the groom will leave the house before 7 o'clock. 2. Briefly introduce the people who take care of the relatives and send them off: generally, the relatives are helped by the man, the manager, the best man, the thief, etc., and the man's sister-in-law has to follow. Of course, many of us are only children now, so we can find cousins or colleagues who are simply sisters-in-law. There are usually relatives, friends and bridesmaids here, and there should also be a special woman to play the role of seeing the bride off. The most important thing is to have a burden. 3. When you arrive at the bride's home, it's inevitable to call the door. It's hard for the groom's official anyway. The red envelopes must be pulled out, but now many of them are fake, including melon seeds, peanuts, sugar and steel collapse. Hehe, it's just a celebration. 4. Generally, after entering the door, the man will rush to the bride to press the waist money first. As the name implies, the waist money should be placed on the waist, generally not much. Just put a 6-yuan, 8-yuan and 8-yuan, but now in order to prevent being groped, many people hold it directly in their hands. In addition, the bride should bring a small comb and a small mirror, which seems to mean that she will be comfortable in the future. Then we need to find shoes. The bride's shoes in Baoding will be hidden, and the groom will have to find them before he can take the bride out. So hiding shoes is a big deal. Many people's shoes are also hiding more and more creatively. Some of them are hidden outside the windowsill. I have heard that the most malicious ones are hidden in the main chassis of the computer. Isn't that cool? After finding the shoes, the groom will personally put them on the bride, and then give the bride a bouquet of flowers. The two sides wear corsages to each other, and sometimes take pictures with their families or something. At this time, the person who steals happiness will take away four kinds of fruits and cakes arranged at the bride's house, because they all seem to be stolen before, so now they are called stealing happiness, and now they are generally taken aboveboard. The most important task of stealing happiness is to steal water from the new bride's family, because it is said that water represents wealth. Of course, the bride's family should keep an eye on water. Also, the bride's family should prepare bowls, chopsticks and green onions for the best man to take away. Wrap some clothes for the bride and give them to the bride's brother or sister (because they are all only children now, some are cousins and some are nephews). When going out, the groom must hold the bride, because the bride can't touch the ground when she goes out of her family's door. In addition, if the bride meets another married motorcade on the way, the best man will pout his chopsticks (it is said that it is better to throw them out first), and if he happens to meet something white, he will break the bowl. 5. When you arrive at the new house, the baggage bearer will appear, because the bride can't get off the bus until the baggage bearer gets off. At this time, the general manager will usually come over and give red packets. As far as I know, there are 666, 888 and 999. After Bao Bao gets off the bus, the bride and groom will get off the bus. Of course, the groom still has to carry the bride upstairs. When we arrive at the new house, we usually take photos, make videos and sometimes have a little program. Everyone livens up the atmosphere, and at about the same time, everyone goes to the hotel together. Fourth, the wedding part: the wedding part is almost the same as everyone else. I don't think there is any special difference in arrangement and ceremony, except that our small city is not as modern as Beijing, hehe ~ ~ ~ Oh, by the way, Baoding usually gives 11 to show its wholehearted mind. At the wedding, the parents-in-law (and now the bride's parents) will be painted with ink, in order to "wash". 5. Making bridal chamber: Making bridal chamber is a necessary project. Generally, friends of the bride and groom engage in small programs or something. The necessary project here in Baoding is to eat jiaozi. I think everyone knows why. Six, three days after the wedding, the bride will go back to her mother's house with her husband, which is also commonly known as Huimen. According to the previous stress, it is the husband's family who puts wine on the wedding day, and it is the mother's family who puts wine on the return day, but now many people are also together. Hehe, the above is what I know about the marriage customs in Baoding. I wonder how you feel after reading it? I hope you will like it ~ ~ ~ and I hope there is something that JMS in Beijing can learn from. You can also communicate with me if you have any wedding problems ~ ~ Supplementary point: brides in Baoding should wear red shoes on their wedding day ~ ~ ~ Underwear is generally red (some people wear flesh-colored ones now because they are afraid of being exposed) ~ ~ ~ The number of wedding cars is not limited, but it is generally even. Today, I suddenly remembered a little, and continued to add: on the wedding day, you can't take the same route from the new house to the bride's house and take the bride back, so you can't go back.