My Year in Shanghai —— Shanghai Women in My Eyes

In the fourteen years in Shanghai, judging from the total population base of 24 million, there are too many people passing by every day, few people can nod and say hello, and even fewer people can make friends. As a stranger, I really want to talk about Shanghai women in my eyes.

In the movie In the Mood for Love, Maggie Cheung is dressed in a cheongsam, exquisite and elegant, looking forward to life and mysterious; Although it is a story that happened in Hong Kong, it is really my impression of Shanghai women when I was a child. When I grew up, I heard Zhang Ailing's coldness and Lu Xiaoman's fierceness, and I also woven such scenes into the pictures of Shanghai women.

When I first came to Shanghai, I went out to eat with my father. A Shanghai girl opened her eyes angrily to the shop assistant because she didn't put any beef in the Lamian Noodles. She swore a few words that I didn't understand. At that time, she was really shocked: Shanghai girls are terrible!

Contact with Shanghainese, starting with classmates. There are two girls among my classmates, who are deeply impressed by Shanghai Xiaonan.

Among my classmates, ZLL is an old and beautiful Shanghai girl. As the name implies, people are moist and white, round and moist, with red lips and white teeth, which is very lovely.

Begging her to point out Shanghai dialect. Holding a pen in her hand, she held it up and said: a word pen; Remembering that we have to play hot water every day, say that the hot water bag is called Nie Siping. This is the first time since I grew up that I really want to talk to my little daughter because she looks good. It looks petite and really more sophisticated than us. She can tell you anything you ask, and she doesn't look like a big lady at all. I got good grades and then skipped other majors. Because I am from Shanghai, I spent less time at school, and then I saw less. When I was a junior, it was obvious that she was thin. When I came over, I obviously saw the clavicle and cut my hair short and dyed it. It is still as beautiful and lovely as a doll.

Lan is also my classmate. Hair is always smooth over the shoulders, black and bright. Walking, relaxed, round eyes, always smiling gently. Listening to her on the phone, the soft voice makes people feel a faint fragrance in the air. One night, when I came out of a club meeting, I saw her coming out of a good meeting. As soon as she saw me, she immediately buried her head on my shoulder and said, it was a long meeting. I suddenly felt like a man, patted her on the shoulder and said, it's over. It's okay. I'm sorry to say that I really haven't forgotten this scene. This gentleness and vitality can't be tolerated by girls, let alone boys. It's a pity that I haven't learned it after so many years.

Sister Ye Zi is from Shanghai, and she has a deep contact with me after work. In my impression, she is a model of everything, or a representative of Shanghai people's "shrewdness".

Every day when I go to work or go out, Ye Zijie's makeup is almost perfect, and I can't see the tired look. At work, I am meticulous, and I won't stop until I have to. I am full of joy to my colleagues and bosses. Ask some questions, and she can explain the reasons and consequences to you. When we are colleagues, there is always a feeling that she can arrange everything properly. Once on my birthday, I came over in the morning and saw a small gift on the table. When I saw it wrapped in exquisite packaging, I immediately guessed that it must be her.

Then I left my job, and then I had a circle of friends. What I know about Ye Zijie is mostly a circle of friends or an encounter outside. The degree of care for my daughter always makes me feel ashamed of someone who thinks I pour out my heart for my daughter. In order to give her daughter the best food, she was so busy that she was skinny and breast-fed for nearly two years. Knowing that she sleeps lightly, it is hard to imagine how she can have such great perseverance and courage. I thought she would be haggard. If she didn't want to see each other for the last time, she would get younger and thinner and stay at 28.

Once we met Eva in an early education class, and she immediately told me which teacher was the best here. I have never asked these questions, and always go to the early education class with the idea of having fun. After the kindergarten trip, it happened to be the same day and we were leaving in the morning. We saw Ye Jie's circle of friends, dressed our daughter beautifully, prepared all kinds of delicious food and sealed it with beautiful boxes. I think she must have put on beautiful makeup, so now I can only ask Ah Q to make up some powder right away.

It was fate that we met again when we went to Disney. We were very tired in the queue and were ready to surrender and go home after four o'clock in the afternoon. We think there are too many people, and we are a little disappointed in Shanghai Disneyland, which is not restricted at all. However, Ye Zijie's family has played a different flavor. They rushed into the earliest meeting early in the morning. Go in and get the fast track card, arrange all kinds of time, and brush the fast track card once every once in a while. As a result, they played almost all the games that day, and there were not many queues until 7: 30 in the evening. The same money, we played different effects. Needless to say, at this point, Shanghai people's shrewdness and meticulousness are worth learning, aren't they?

The old aunt in Shanghai has no intimate friends, but she is the most wonderful one I have ever seen.

On the street, in the scenic spots, or on the subway outside, you must have seen such a scene: the hair is "meticulous", the hair roots are distinct, the color is dyed, and there is a "tightrope feeling" that can't be destroyed after a night in bed, standing upright on the heads of aunts. They will wear cheongsam, sunglasses, pearl necklaces, scarves, bags on their arms and high heels. Although there are wrinkles on her face, she will definitely wear makeup, at least lipstick, which will be particularly enchanting in the crowd. However, I have never talked to such aunts, and I never know where they are going to dress up.

Before I came to Shanghai, I always heard people say that Shanghainese were xenophobic. I think I can completely correct my name. After staying for so many years, it is true that no Shanghainese is particularly cruel to me. When I was pregnant, I took the subway. Aunt Shanghai saw me. Although she didn't give me her seat, as long as there was a seat next to me, they immediately gave the order. Don't sit, let me sit there right away. It's funny and touching to think about it.

Aunties near the community are very enthusiastic after getting familiar with them. When I went out one morning, my aunt knew that my child was ill and asked me if I had anyone to take it with me. I often see me taking my children out to play, and I will be praised for my ability and hard work. The uncles and aunts downstairs will tell their stories enthusiastically every time they meet, which is not much different from those in your hometown.

At night, I saw the aunts in the community dancing. An aunt who dances well is leading the dance, because her little granddaughter, we know each other. I always thought that she used to do literary work, so she danced so well. Later, I heard from her that after she retired, she liked to learn to dance according to videos. I can't help admiring. Since then, she has enthusiastically introduced me to work and called my daughter like grandma many times. Read my article and give me a long comment.

In fact, China culture is acquaintance culture. Once you are familiar with it, the gap disappears, and it is the same everywhere.

Do you think people in Shanghai are doing well?

My friend Xiaoxi's mother enrolled in the university for the aged after retirement, studying photography, Photoshop and keeping cats. It's very cute. When you go out, you can always see uncles and aunts pairing up in groups and saying that they are going out to play. Of course there are difficulties. In the TV decoration program, generations have been living in houses in old alleys, which is unimaginable. Foreigners always disdain to say: we have never seen such a small house.

There are aunts in the community who will walk a long way with their backpacks in order to save money. They will go to far-away food markets to buy cheaper vegetables, give their granddaughters cheaper kindergartens, and take their children to the bus every morning. You'll feel sorry for it, too When I was at school, some friends went to my roommate to get money. My friend brought rice to school and left the last piece of meat and asked me if I wanted to eat it. A colleague found a bunch of things with a few dollars. Let me guess how much it cost. So, there are people with difficulties in life everywhere, see how you live?

After so many years, have you been assimilated by Shanghai women? It's hard to say when you think about it. I'm afraid others can see better. I just think I have to wear a mask every day, I have to wear beautiful clothes, and I have to make things beautiful. I wanted to learn from Shanghai women, but I never did. Want to learn Zhang Ailing's writing, still on the road!