What is the form of parents' first meeting in Wenzhou?

1. The parents of both sides meet to discuss the engagement, mainly to determine the amount of Huang Li and the dowry of the man and the return of the woman. At present, it is 48,000-88,000, but it mainly depends on the economic conditions of both sides. According to the popular saying, the good condition is to marry a daughter, and the bad condition is to sell her daughter. The gift money received is refunded according to the economic situation. If the woman's condition is poor, she will receive a little money from the man as the cost of marriage. If the woman's conditions are average, both parties are free of charge. Gift money is just one meaning. If the woman is in good condition, she will return all the gift money and buy the man a high-end car. Generally speaking, Wenzhou people are more face-saving, and the amount of dowry is often the embodiment of family economic conditions and parents' love for their daughters.

There must be enough time before the wedding day. During this time, you need to buy something for two people to get married.

Let's start with what men give women.

(1) like candy. There used to be candied apricots in marriage, but now the economic conditions are better, which is relatively rare (because of the lack of sugar in the old society, there will be this custom). Wenzhou wedding candy has different sizes. The man is responsible for all the wedding candy that the woman needs, and the red envelopes in the wedding candy are open to men and women separately (at present, 50- 100 is released by people, and the amount is decided by both parents through consultation).

② A set of gold ornaments. Including earrings, bracelets, (anklets), necklaces, a pair of rings and a diamond ring (the price of a diamond ring is probably thousands to tens of thousands now, depending on the financial resources of both men and women. In fact, you can also go to the gold jewelry store to buy a loose diamond and choose your favorite style to build it, which can save about 35%. Note: Ask your parents first, because parents basically pay for it). Gold ornaments are usually given to the woman by the man before the wedding.

A woman's dowry: There are two reasons for giving a dowry: 1. For the sake of my daughter's better life, I will supplement my family or make emergency preparations. Try to find a place for your daughter in the man's house. A large dowry can show that the woman's family has economic strength.

(1) When the man got engaged, he wore a suit, two shirts, two ties, two pairs of shoes (a pair of casual shoes), two sets of casual clothes, a dozen socks, a gold bracelet and a necklace (if the red envelope for the best man is less than 580, you need to buy another shirt for the best man).

(2) Household appliances, furniture and cabinet supplies. In the 1980s and 1990s, most dowry items were televisions, sewing machines, wooden bags, washbasins and buckets. With the development of economy, dowry keeps pace with the times. Household appliances basically include flat-screen TVs, stereos, refrigerators, washing machines and computers. Furniture and cabinets are selected according to personal preferences, mutual conditions and the size of the new house, mainly for the comfort and convenience of future life.

(3) New house decoration. As we all know, Wenzhou's housing prices are among the best in the country. It is nothing new for rich families to send their daughters a new house to marry them, but generally speaking, men buy houses and women decorate them or men and women buy houses together. The grade and structure of the decoration are mainly practical and beautiful, which is decided by both parents through consultation.

(4) cars. In the new century, especially in recent years, the dowry products of Wenzhou people are moving towards high-end luxury goods with the upgrading of Wenzhou's private economy, and the first choice for luxury goods in dowry is high-end cars. Rich people marry women with luxury cars and new houses, while ordinary people will try to marry an Audi A4 or a new BMW or a Toyota made in China.

On the wedding day: in the afternoon, the man drove to the woman's house to meet her and her parents, and gave her brother or sister a box of money (the box of money means that the woman's brother or sister won't leave until she lets her sister get married, and he will let him go only after you give him money, which is the explanation of the older generation. Now the woman is basically an only child, which is free, or give each cousin a small red envelope). About the suitcase money, it is usually given on the wedding day.

The suitcase is about 800 to several thousand, and the good one is more than 1000. After arriving at the hotel, give tea to both parents and toast to friends and relatives to witness your love.