My aunt agreed to travel, and the woman hid back to her family: "Every time I go out together, my aunt doesn't pay." Why?

Not long ago, I received a letter from my net friend Wan'er. At first, she used 3000 words to complain about her husband's family. Finally, she asked Bian Xiao such a question: "Being honest with her mother-in-law and aunt about money, does it prove that she is a bad person?"

When Bian Xiao just saw this netizen's problem, he only felt sorry for her, because she was a typical trouble-maker. Everyone should have heard of a saying: "Brothers, settle accounts clearly". The meaning of this sentence is very simple and everyone can understand it. By the same token, since brothers need money so clearly, how can a daughter-in-law not settle accounts with her mother-in-law?

In this world, countless people are running around and working hard every day just to make a living and make money. Since no one can make money easily, naturally no one is willing to give his money to others. Outsiders and family members should be like this.

There is an old saying: "Don't talk about money, it hurts feelings". This sentence is quite right. After all, in the face of money, any feelings are not necessarily reliable. However, can people really get along without talking about money?

How many couples in the world have abandoned their feelings for many years because of money; How many couples in the world have completely ruined their feelings because of money? In order to live, it is impossible for everyone not to deal with money, so it is naturally impossible to get along with people without talking about money.

Some people may ask, since it is impossible to avoid talking about money with family members, how can we properly handle the problems arising from money with family members? Let's analyze whether a netizen's practice is worth emulating through her personal experience.

Liu Qi comes from the countryside, and her parents make a living by farming. In order to change the life of herself and her family, she studied hard and was finally admitted to the university. In college, she studied graphic design, which is relatively easy to find a job. She has been engaged in advertising since she graduated from college.

After working as an employee for about three years, Liu Qi decided to start his own advertising company. She borrowed money everywhere and finally opened her own advertising shop. Although Liu Qi's family economic conditions are not very good, she has always been a particularly generous person. She thinks that money is a thing outside her body, so there is no need to care too much. So when she started her own business, she became more generous to anyone around her.

Because Liu Qi is cheerful and generous to others, she has many friends around her. Through the introduction of friends, she met her husband Wei Xu. Xu Wei used to be a salesman, but because of his low salary, after he married Liu Qi, Xu Wei went to an advertising shop to help.

Although Liu Qi's advertising company is small, in the eyes of people around her, Liu Qi is a strong woman with a successful career. After all, in today's society, there are very few women who work hard for their own careers, and Liu Qi not only founded the company, but also made money to buy a car and a house.

As I said before, Liu Qi is a generous person to anyone around him. As long as a friend asks her for a loan, she will basically not refuse. She is so generous to her friends and has nothing to say to her family. Facing her husband's family, she is completely responsive.

My sister-in-law bought a house, and her mother-in-law came forward to ask Liu Qi to borrow 50,000 yuan. Liu Qi directly lent it to her100,000 without saying anything. Although Liu Qi's condition is superior to that of her elder sister-in-law, she offered to give her more money, not to show off her wealth, but to make the family get along more harmoniously.

According to Liu Qi's idea, she should be thanked and recognized by her husband's family for lending her so much money, but the fact is beyond her expectation. After the elder sister received the money, she didn't say a word of thanks, but her mother-in-law just gave her a favorable look.

After that incident, Liu Qi became very dissatisfied with her husband's family, especially her sister. Liu Qi still clearly remembers how respectful her sister-in-law was when she borrowed money from her, but after borrowing money, she looked like she deserved it. Liu Qi is not a saint and can't be selfless. If her efforts are not recognized or thanked by others, then she can't accept them.

In getting along with her husband's family, Liu Qi thinks that she has done very well. Knowing that her mother-in-law was reluctant to spend money, Liu Qi helped her mother-in-law buy various necessities from time to time. Also, Liu Qi knows that her aunt's family conditions are average, so every time the family goes out, Liu Qi always takes the initiative to bear all kinds of expenses.

Originally, Liu Qi was used to giving money to her husband's family, but since something happened during a trip, Liu Qi decided not to be so generous.

At that time, taking advantage of the holiday, my in-laws suggested that the family go out for a trip together. At that time, besides my in-laws and Liu Qi, there was an elder sister's family. After arriving at the scenic spot, Liu Qi and Xu Wei were busy taking pictures of their in-laws, but when Liu Qi adjusted her angle to take pictures, she suddenly heard her sister say to her two sons, "If you want to eat delicious food, go to your aunt. My aunt has money and my mother has no money. "

Although Liu Qi was particularly unhappy with her sister's words, she did not show any dissatisfaction on the surface, and then took her children to buy a lot of food in a nearby snack street.

After that trip, Liu Qi began to dislike her sister. Liu Qi wondered why when she got there, her generosity to her aunt became a matter of course. Maybe in aunt's eyes, because Liu Qi makes more money, Liu Qi should help them pay. Liu Qi really wants to tell her aunt and all her in-laws loudly: "I do earn a lot of money, but I also earned it hard. It's my kindness to help you pay, not my responsibility. "

After all, those words are just Liu Qi's own ideas. In order to maintain the relationship with her husband's family, she still buried those words deeply in her heart. But two months later, my sister actually met again and went out to travel together. After a night of discussion, Liu Qi refused her aunt's invitation on the grounds of business trip.

Of course, Liu Qi didn't go on a business trip, she just hid back to her family. When Xu Wei asked Liu Qi why he didn't want to travel with his sister, Liu Qi said seriously, "Every time we go out together, your sister doesn't pay. Do you really think of me as a cash cow for your family? "

Since Liu Qi and Xu Wei said that, Liu Qi has never participated in any activities with her aunt, and she also feels that her life is finally not as wronged as before.