Zhihu Hot Search: I want to study in Japan. What if my parents have poor eyesight and don't support me?

I was ready to learn German by myself from the end of my junior year, passed the exam of German Embassy, got the admission notices of all the schools I applied for, and finally got a master's degree in engineering in Germany through part-time work. It can be said that I basically stepped on all kinds of pits on my way to study abroad.

Seeing this problem in Zhihu, I really can't help but want to vomit.

The question is this:

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This high school student made a common mistake: he didn't locate himself accurately.

I want to give some reference and suggestions to all the students who are going to study abroad by analyzing his situation.

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Do parents with junior high school education have lower eyes than you?

Not exactly.

Your parents have at least 20 years of social experience. Even in remote rural areas and remote towns, if your parents can stand on their feet in society and raise you, they must have their own advantages.

Even if they sell their labor and live the hardest life, as long as they really struggle for food in society, they are people who have their own real understanding of life.

Some young people have been studying for several years, but they still can't support themselves, so they think they have surpassed their parents with low academic qualifications.

My previous tweets have always emphasized that young people should have their own opinions and don't let adults do everything. But that doesn't mean you have to go to the other extreme.

Most people need the support of their families to study abroad. Whoever has economic strength has the final say.

When you see that everyone around you has gone abroad and you are eager to try, you really should have a frank and in-depth talk with your parents first.

Except for a few selfish parents, most parents want their children to live a better and happier life, and the only person in this world who can love you without any selfishness is parents.

Don't just look at the study agents, that's their job. Did someone ruin their job? I am afraid that we don't have. During my years in Germany, I have seen many examples of being cheated by an intermediary and paying someone to come over and say goodbye.

If your family objects to your going abroad, don't act rashly. Zhihu's classmate, for example, said that his parents had "low vision". Maybe he is almost an adult and doesn't know what respect is.

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When encountering obstacles, first find out: Why do they object?

Safety is the most concerned issue for many parents. As far as I have lived in Germany for many years and often go to other countries for short-term work, the law and order in China is really very good.

Some people who have never been abroad always feel that the public security in developed countries such as Europe, America and Japan is better than that in China. This is not objective. You can search what foreigners living in China say.

The epidemic will sweep the world in 2020, so special attention should be paid to safety issues at this time. You didn't see so many international students give up everything and go home. Look at the number of overseas infections and deaths. I believe that most parents will not trust their children to go abroad at this time.

Another important factor is the economy.

Your family is not rich enough, so it doesn't hurt to throw away hundreds of thousands. Studying abroad really needs to consider economic benefits. If your parents need to use pension money, I advise you to be cautious. You won't die if you don't study abroad, but your family is very sad because of lack of money to study abroad.

Last year, she accompanied domestic clients to Switzerland for an inspection tour and told me the story of her daughter studying at a colleague's house.

"Almost thirty years old, I have been asking my parents about her study. She sold her house when she first went out, and now she may not be able to buy her salary back after returning to China for decades. Usually I don't know how to work, so I ask my parents for money. I don't know what it means for her to study abroad like this. Her parents are retiring soon. How can she come back? The two old people are very lonely. It's so unreasonable. "

This is the case with an aunt I know. At the beginning of 2000, she sold two houses in the center of Shanghai for less than 600,000 yuan and came to study in the Netherlands. Now the house on that land needs at least 30 million.

She said she had no regrets. Because this is the asset that she struggled for herself in those years, but what if this is your parents' life savings?

Many people say that knowledge, experience and knowledge cannot be measured by money.

Of course not.

But how can you survive without money?

Students who come back to Zhihu to ask questions, whose parents graduated from junior high school, are likely to miss out on the stable jobs in the system. He said that the family can give up to 100,000 yuan, which is definitely a quite ordinary family among those who are going to study abroad at their own expense.

In the idol drama, what the rich family throws out to exercise their children without giving money is really just a TV series. The children of rich families are all paved with money. Deliberately let the children suffer, just listen.

Simply put, a poor family has money, and a child with little money goes to live in an area with poor public security but cheap rent. Who would do that for a rich parent?

So I ruled out the possibility that this classmate has money at home but is only willing to pay 100 thousand.

There are many classmates with good family around me. It is very expensive to go to London to study art, which can burn millions of parents a year. It doesn't matter. Anyway, there is a mine at home. In his words, if you can't achieve anything in art, you can only go back and inherit the family business.

Such a life with many choices is lived by people with strong reincarnation skills.

We ordinary people, on the way to chasing our dreams, should watch your parents hold you under their feet.

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If you are from a poor family and want to go abroad, do something for yourself, such as improving your academic performance and getting a scholarship. The National Scholarship Fund Committee is very powerful. Every year, a large number of students are sent overseas for joint training or doctoral studies.

There are many rural children around me who come to study abroad through the Overseas Study Fund Committee.

Overseas universities also have their own scholarships. I've also seen those who go abroad to be exchange students and learn languages as nannies before studying abroad.

In fact, the road is just around the corner, but many people are too lazy to work hard on their own, so it is much easier to blame their parents for their incompetence.

(My official WeChat account also has detailed strategies on how to go abroad without money. Can I study abroad if I have no money at home? )

Either work for a few years and save enough money to go. You say working for a few years is a waste of time? I can't get a scholarship at home, and I can't save money for working. Must I borrow 1 million from Zhan Qingyun? Ordinary people are not popular majors. Really not recommended.

I have an official WeChat account reader. I started to save money at the age of 20, and at the age of 25, I saved it in the study abroad fund. Because of my excellent work, I was sent to the Japanese branch.

She told me that sometimes she works overtime until three o'clock in the morning and takes time to learn Japanese. It took her three years to pass Japanese N 1. Originally, she wanted to study medicine after the college entrance examination, but seeing that her parents are farmers, she couldn't bear to mention it, so she chose computer to study in junior college, just to make more money and give her family a better life.

When I was in college, I met a girl from Hunan in fun run Club. Her brother also works in Shanghai. Once he came to see her and we had a meal together. He proudly told me that the company would send him to work in India soon.

At that time, I didn't understand. What is there to visit in India? But now that I think about it, he's actually great.

No matter what you say about class solidification, the children of the poor will continue to be poor, and there will always be people who jump out of your cognitive range and do things you can't think of.

High school students who are also seventeen or eighteen, some people feel sorry for their parents, even if they can only go to college, they should play well.

Some people only complain about their parents' low vision.

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Besides the economic benefits of money, should we also consider personal interests and abilities when studying abroad?

Many people like to talk about interest best. The reason why they don't study hard is that they are not interested in their major. So how much have you paid for what you are interested in?

Some people say they like it, but it's actually a pastime. It's really hard work for him to watch and learn.

The high school students who asked questions said that they liked Japanese culture since childhood, yearned for Japan, and wanted to find a Japanese girlfriend to work while studying in Japan.

I want to talk about people who are really interested in Japanese culture.

There is a girl who is my junior high school classmate. She likes watching anime since she was a child, so even if she is not a Japanese major, she passed Japanese N 1 early in college.

After graduation, I successfully went to a famous Japanese school for graduate study, applied for a scholarship with excellent results, and went to work and experience life without lack of money at home. If you talk to her about anything about Japan, she can open the door to a new world for you.

She went to the prototype town of dunk to punch in. She took a camera to shoot beautiful scenery in Japan on weekends and learned to cook food ... Life in Japan is fast and she enjoys it.

Zhihu wants my friend's life.

But I guess he can't.

My friend has always been a top student that everyone looks up to. She is a popular major in University 985, and her language ability is super strong. Besides, she really likes anime, so Japanese is very good.

She has a strong learning ability and good Japanese. Is there any reason why Japanese universities don't like such young people? What reason does Japanese society have to reject such excellent young people?

What about that high school student in Zhihu? He gets two books at most. This is not to despise two books, but your learning ability is the embodiment of your long-term study habits and thinking ability.

How can you expect to come to Japan, suddenly use a strange language and be able to cope with the pressure of work while studying in a completely strange environment?

Please, in your hometown, you don't have to worry about your livelihood. Chinese can only be tested in two in a high school.

Everyone's time is 24 hours, and your starting point is not high. Why do you feel confident that you can find time to work and study hard?

He may not have thought about how far away he is from his imaginary life of studying abroad.

Maybe he is only interested in Japan that he learned from the TV network. If he is really interested, he should have realized that Japan has restrictions on the working hours of international students, and it is difficult for him to earn enough tuition and living expenses within the legal working hours.

I'm talking about yearning and interest. I can ask questions online in Zhihu, but I don't know how to find relevant information. I really don't know how to define his interest.

Not to mention that he needs to relearn a strange language to live, study and work.

Are there any foreign students who have come back from studying English around you? For the simplest example, Nana, the host of Happy Camp on Hunan Satellite TV, once went to the United States for a lively study tour and finally communicated with foreigners in Europe during her wife's trip. That horrible pupil English, Sister Na, is your study tour just a tour?

So people who have this idea, wake up, it doesn't mean that living abroad will improve their language level!

He wants to find a Japanese girlfriend. There is nothing to talk about. It's normal for a second-dimensional child to have beautiful fantasies about Japanese girls.

But, wait a minute, you earn living expenses and tuition by working, where do you get the money and time to date?

Why do Japanese girls like a poor student who stutters in Japanese?

Even if you are AA, I'm afraid you can't stand it.

Not to mention how tired it is to work while studying. Cross-cultural and cross-racial love needs to spend more energy on trifles than ordinary love.

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Some people may say that the subject is still a child who has not graduated from high school and has no social experience. Why should he be sprayed?

Because there are many young people like him.

Seeing others go abroad, I feel that my parents owe me a plane ticket to go abroad.

Talking about the conditions that parents should provide for themselves seems to have greatly wronged themselves. When it comes to the consciousness that a person should have when he was a child, he has the cheek to ask his parents with average ability to send him to study abroad without even studying hard.

I have three classmates, some of whom went to Germany to study, and some of whom worked hard to graduate smoothly or even study for a doctorate. Some of them returned to China because of poor foundation, lack of hard work, really unable to keep up, and the language did not pass. Either it is too difficult to take an undergraduate course, it is too difficult to indulge in games abroad, and it is so empty that it is depressed that it finally returns to China.

So the last thing I want to remind you is that going abroad after graduating from high school is such a risk. If you don't graduate abroad, you won't even have a college diploma when you return home!

I watched a TV series called Kill Eve the other day. After a boy named Kenny was murdered, his mother found his girlfriend and asked him if his son was happy before he died. She said regretfully, "I was too hard on him."

I want to share Kenny's girlfriend's answer with readers. She said,

"My mother told me at an early age that I am excellent and excellent. But in fact, I have no talent at all. I studied art for four years. Sometimes we need serious reality. "

Ironically, when I was in primary school, I was confused about whether to go to Tsinghua or Peking University. Adults are embarrassed to tell me how small the probability is. This kind of entanglement may have been experienced by many people.

If you can understand at a young age that most children in this world will grow into mediocre people silently, then you can avoid the great pain caused by the tearing of dreams and reality.

Don't deceive yourself, because life won't play with you.

I don't mean to hit anyone with this article, but going abroad is a big investment for most families, and it may be a life-changing decision for you personally.

Before you decide to study abroad, think more about your actual situation, which may help you and your family make more realistic choices.