Look at life backwards: Even if you don’t have feet, you still have to chase your dreams with your hands

If you don’t try, how will you know how much you can do.

— "Flying Against the Light", Huang Yuxiang Change may not necessarily bring success, but success comes from change

In England, there is a double amputee named Mark. Mark Inglis has loved mountain climbing since he was a child. At the age of twenty-two, he unfortunately had a serious accident during a rescue operation and had both legs amputated. His first challenge was how to change his mentality, accept the fact that he had lost his legs, and learn from the beginning. He is so accustomed to standing up, sitting down, going to the toilet, and even walking.

He said: "People can accomplish anything, but they often lack the courage to change. The key lies in whether you are willing to do it." Mark challenged to climb Mount Everest in May 2006 and became The first double amputee in the world to successfully climb Mount Everest. Mark said: "When you are willing to change your life, your courage will come." The more you are afraid, the more you have to do it until you are not afraid

I often ask the audience in my speeches: " "What are you most afraid of?" I received a lot of answers. When I asked them again: "So, how do you face the things you fear?" Some people answered directly, and many people shook their heads, but More people choose to remain silent.

In fact, everyone has something to be afraid of. Some people are afraid of not having money, some are afraid of homework, some are afraid of losing love... I also share with them what I am afraid of. When I was a child, I was afraid of two things, one was fear of heights, and the other was composition.

I am afraid of the feeling of standing on a high place and looking down. It will make my whole world spin, the hair on my body stand up, and my body becomes cold. Even now when I travel abroad independently, such as the Pearl Tower in Shanghai, the CN Tower in Toronto or the Tourist Tower in Macau, when I stand on the transparent glass on the highest floor, I still feel a little scared.

Of course the audience would ask me curiously: "Since you have a fear of heights, why do you dare to challenge extreme sports such as high-altitude abseiling and paragliding?" This is a good question. How could I have it at that time? Courage to challenge? My first challenge was high-altitude abseiling. In fact, I didn’t deliberately want to challenge it at the beginning. A friend told me about a three-day and two-night combat camp and asked me if I was interested in participating. At that time, I didn’t know what a battle camp was. I just thought it should be a three-day and two-night camping activity!

The night before the event, we took the Guoguang Express from Taipei south to Kaohsiung and arrived in Kaohsiung at about four o'clock in the morning. The sky was slightly bright, and many early risers were exercising in the park. Since it was still early, we chose a soy milk shop and sat in the shop to slowly enjoy our breakfast. At around seven o'clock, the staff of the activity association began to gather the students who came from all over the country to participate. After taking their names, they got on the bus one by one and headed to the event location.

When we got out of the car, the squad leader in camouflage uniforms started shouting at us to move faster. Only then did I come to my senses. It turned out that the combat camp was not the camping activity I originally thought, but a military experience. activities, and the first activity was actually the high-altitude abseiling that I feared the most. I was completely unprepared and extremely scared. The first thought that crossed my mind was to give up. Looking at the seven-story tower in front of me, I began to feel flustered. I could neither advance nor retreat, so I had no choice but to bite the bullet and rush forward wearing a steel helmet. But first I have to climb seven floors before I can jump down!

When giving lectures on life education campuses, I often ask the students below: "How long does it take you to climb seven floors?" Some students said three minutes, some said five minutes, but it seemed that the students We all agreed that the slowest time would be no more than ten minutes. And I continued to ask my classmates: "So, how long do you think it will take me to climb seven floors?" Some students said twenty minutes, some said an hour, and finally I revealed the answer: "Thirty minutes."

I told my classmates: "I can't climb up step by step with my own feet like you. I have to sit on the steps, then use my hands to hold up one step, and then push *** up. I moved up one step, and I slowly climbed up one step at a time. "I was very grateful that the instructor did not give me special treatment because of my physical inconvenience. When all the students arrived, the instructor asked everyone to wait for me. After I climbed up hard, the instructor asked everyone to gather their equipment. At this time, a strange smile suddenly appeared on his face, and he announced: "Wait a minute, if you don't dare to jump down, it doesn't matter, the instructor can help you."

I asked the students in the audience "Do you know what the phrase 'the instructor will help you' means?" The classmate answered me with a gesture: "Push you down with your hands." I said to my classmate: "Pushing down is relatively gentle. He just used his hand to push you down." Kick it down!" At this time, the students couldn't help laughing.

The height of the seven-story building is actually not very high, but everyone has a fear of heights. In addition, I have a fear of heights, so it is even more terrifying. When it was my turn to jump, I sat on the platform and looked down, and my whole body started to tremble involuntarily.

Two minutes, three minutes, and four minutes passed, and I still didn't have the courage to jump down. At this time, I glanced out of the corner of my eye. The instructor who was sitting behind me slowly stood up from the chair, and then slowly Walk towards me slowly. Two options immediately came to my mind. The first option was to let the instructor kick me down, and the second option was to jump off myself.

At this time, the students listening to the lecture were already laughing. I asked the students: "If it were you, which one would you choose?" The students all wisely chose to jump by themselves. I told my classmates, "It's the same as jumping down. It's so embarrassing to be kicked down by others!" I didn't want the instructor to get close to me. When the instructor got closer and closer to me, I mustered up the courage and closed my eyes. Jump down hard.

I shared with my classmates: "When I skied to the end, my life suddenly felt enlightened!" The classmates were a little puzzled, so I continued to tell them: "When I finished the high-altitude skiing When I was challenged, at that moment, I felt that life was so broad, as if there was nothing I couldn’t do, as if I could accomplish anything.” So, from that moment on, I fell in love with the sport of challenging extremes.

I often encourage everyone that the only solution to what you fear is to face it and challenge it. Although I still have a fear of heights, in order to overcome my fear, I also tried to challenge paragliding. I don’t want to prove how good I am, I just want to challenge the things I fear and see how much more I can do. And every challenge brings different insights and feelings to my life. Find positive power through extreme sports

People often ask me: "With your feet like this, do you feel inferior?" I would tell them: "Before I came out, I really I have extremely low self-esteem, perhaps because I was looked at strangely and laughed at by others when I was a child, which made me feel quite uneasy about people, because I was afraid that others would point fingers at me when they saw the way I walked, and I didn’t want to get hurt again. I don’t want the people I love to get hurt, so the only way is to hide myself in a place where there is no one.”

I still remember that when I was a child, I would hide as soon as there were guests at home. When guests came over, my parents would always call me out and let me sit next to them. My parents introduced me to their friends and often encouraged me: "You are no different from others, it's just that it's more difficult to walk." I didn't understand what my parents said at the time. When I walk on the road and others see me, the strange looks they cast on me always make me very uncomfortable. Am I really no different from others?

When I started to get involved in extreme sports, after each challenge, my life seemed to be baptized all over again. I slowly found the positive power in my heart, and then I gradually understood the words of my parents who encouraged me: It turns out that I It’s really no different than anyone else. They can walk, and so can I, but at a slower pace; they can climb mountains, and so can I, but I climb slower and my posture is less beautiful.

To me now, I get polio just like you get myopia, and I put on the brace just like you get glasses, which is a little inconvenient, but absolutely nothing serious.

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(This article is authorized from "Mufeng Culture", source: Mufeng Culture/Zhou Fan "Looking at life backwards: Even if you don't have feet, you have to chase yourself with your hands" "Dream") "Looking at life backwards: Even if you don't have feet, you have to chase your dreams with your hands"

Author: Zhou Fan

Publisher: Mufeng Culture