Can parents use "mind map" to help their children overcome procrastination?

Today, my friend came to my house with a child who is going to the second grade. I was surprised to see my children doing their homework.

said enviously, "Your baby is really good. They are all doing their summer homework seriously."

I was stupefied and told her, "The child's summer homework was finished early. Now it's time for her to preview the textbooks for the new semester and make the topics for the new textbooks."

it's my friend's turn to be in a daze, and then he vomited to me and said, "It's really someone else's child. My troublemaker, the holiday is coming to an end and I haven't written my homework yet. The father and I are too busy at work to take care of him. "It was only these days that we were forced to do some homework."

"I really have a headache. My child procrastinates as soon as he does his homework, but he doesn't listen to what he says. There is nothing I can do to deal with his procrastination." The friend looked sad. There is no cure for procrastination in children. Procrastination, is it really "hopeless"

The answer is obviouslyno. The best way to overcome children's procrastination is to use "mind map" skillfully.

When some children have a holiday, they are like runaway wild horses, running and having fun. They travel with their parents all over the world this week and get carried away in the game next week, having no idea what their homework is.

Some children are occupied by various interest classes and remedial classes in the summer vacation, and they don't want to do their homework in the summer vacation.

Therefore, it is quite common that the summer vacation is coming to an end and homework has not been written. At this time, there needs to be an effective way to overcome this terrible procrastination.

What I have to mention here is that some parents use their own grasp of time and control of rhythm to balance their children's time arrangement.

In other words, it is obviously unfair for children to measure their rhythms by the rhythms of adults. But we can't leave the children alone.

Therefore, we should take children as the masters and make a plan suitable for children themselves. The plan can be represented by a "mind map". Then let's take a look at how to skillfully use "mind map" to overcome children's "procrastination". First, get to the bottom of it and summarize the crux of procrastination.

In the article "The most comprehensive practical guide to mind mapping for children in history", eight types and practices of mind mapping are put forward. They are: bubble diagram, flow diagram, circle diagram, double bubble diagram, complex flow diagram, tree structure diagram, bracket diagram and bridge diagram. Among them, the circle chart is the most commonly used in time management.

A circle graph is composed of two concentric circles, the inner circle is mainly the characteristics of things, and the outer circle is mainly the things corresponding to these characteristics.

here, the theme we want to analyze is procrastination, so we can write procrastination on the inner circle, and then the outer circle is obviously the cause of procrastination. The crux of procrastination is in a circle, and children can see it at a glance and quickly understand the problem, so they don't have to look around like headless flies to overcome it.

Similarly, we can draw what we need to do in a circle with the help of circle mind map. 24 hours is the inner ring, and what you do is the outer ring. Why do you do this?

Children's thinking is scattered, inexperienced and thoughtless, so it is difficult to have a holistic view. We use the circle mind map to write the itinerary of the day on paper, so that children will know what they need to do in a day, and they will not think about it.

of course, the bracket diagram and the flow chart also have this function. We can make a flow chart with children according to their interests. It doesn't matter which form of flow chart you choose. What is important is to let your child know what needs to be done in a day, so as to complete it in a planned way. At the same time, parents also need to pay attention to the fact that the plan is not static, but controllable.

The plans made by parents after communicating with their children can be handled flexibly and adjusted constantly in practice. The purpose of making a schedule is not to force a task to be completed, or to make children tired. It is to let children grow up and learn to manage themselves in the process of making and implementing plans. Arrange your own time. So as to gradually overcome the "procrastination" in a subtle way.

Of course, mind mapping is not the only way to overcome procrastination. The following methods also have certain effects. Second, keep a "running account", record what you have done for 24 hours, and analyze the lost time loopholes.

after finding out the crux of procrastination with mind map, record the time spent on everything in a concrete and systematic way, so that children can see for themselves how the day is spent unconsciously, and at the same time learn to observe where the time of the day goes.

For those who spend too long, we can guide children to shorten the time they spend and supplement it where necessary. Cherish every minute. Third, split and optimize tasks, many a mickle makes a mickle.

Some tasks are too huge, which will give children a sense of oppression that can never be completed. At this time, we need to subdivide the tasks and complete them bit by bit.

after we help our children sort out the law of spending a day, we can make a schedule that best meets our needs. It can be sorted according to the priority of things, or according to the length of time it takes and the value of things. Let things be done in order, so as not to have no articles of association, feel that they will never be done, and thus have a slack mentality. Fourth, psychological suggestion, set a deadline.

Things like summer homework give children a sense that they can finish it all summer. So they subconsciously think there is a lot of time left, and then put off their homework again and again. Therefore, we should establish a sense of deadlines for children, so that children have no time to delay.

We can define the completion deadline after subdividing the homework tasks, what needs to be completed today, what must be completed in a few days, how long it can be delayed if the task is not completed within the agreed time, and so on. By doing this, let the children have a deadline mentality and complete the task well. Fifth, develop a reward and punishment system that both parents and children are satisfied with < P > Rewards are often the source of children's motivation. When children behave well, we don't give some rewards appropriately to encourage them to make persistent efforts.

On the contrary, we can also punish children when they violate the plan and are unwilling to complete the task. Let children know that some things can't be delayed and some rules can't be broken.

In a word, the reward and punishment system is not set up to increase the pressure and oppression of children. Instead, let children have a dynamic trend and know how to compare the effectiveness of pay and income. Sixth, parents lead by example and exercise their children's crisp and neat style.

Parents are the biggest source of children's learning, and some children take their parents as models. At this time, parents' behavior style needs to have certain requirements.

Parents should also pay attention to whether they have procrastination in their lives, and if they do, they must correct it quickly. Prevent children from learning this incorrect style. At the same time, we should pay attention to training children's attention, and don't let children dally and drag their feet.

To sum up, children's "procrastination" is not hopeless. With the right methods, children can still get rid of procrastination. Moreover, when we use mind mapping to help children overcome procrastination, we also cultivate children's logical thinking ability and overall view invisibly, which is also of great help in children's study and life. Therefore, the clever use of mind mapping can have a multiplier effect.

in addition, it is very important that everything is harmonious. Any plan should not be made at the expense of family ties, but in harmony and happiness, we should hope that our children will become dragons and daughters will become phoenixes.