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The best date is to stay together and do nothing

Original: The story of the flow of feeling is delicate and the flow of feeling

BY The story is delicate

Let me talk to you about dating today. In my dating experience, there have been few scenes where she and I kissed on the Ferris wheel just as the fireworks went off. More often than not, I eat beef noodles with my girls. Yes, it's just that plain, because life is very plain, there is no need to deliberately pursue the so-called excitement, this is too impetuous.

The reason why it is dull is that on the one hand, when I was in college, the school was in the suburbs, and I did not have the time or money to go to the city to play, so many dates were basically conducted at low cost. But that’s not the point. The point is that I think this is enough. Oh no, it’s the girl who thinks this is enough. They just want to be with me.

So, even now, sometimes the date between me and the girl is just to take a walk together at no cost, but we still hold hands when we should, and kiss when we should.

Many men make dates fancy and call them romantic, but in fact they are not confident enough in themselves and feel that without a gorgeous stage or cool lighting props, they cannot cover up their lack of strength. In the end it will look very pretentious. You are pretending, and girls can only pretend more than you. Firstly, it is to give you face, and secondly, many girls will pretend a little out of self-protection or a little vanity, but they prefer to have a man. It allows them to no longer have to pretend and can truly be themselves. Girls usually like such men, but there are too few such men.

A truly capable singer can conquer the audience by singing a cappella. Music is just embellishment. For example, do nothing on a date.

Many men should have experienced this feeling, that is, if the girl you like very much is willing to go out with you, even if you do nothing, you will be happy and excited, even if she keeps going around. Walking around the school, circle after circle, you are tireless. You will lose track of time, ignore your surroundings, and be completely immersed in the joy of getting along with each other.

This mood is the essence of dating. Dating always answers why you want to meet, not what you want to meet for.

So, when we study dating, we are not studying how to fill up the activity schedule of an afternoon or a certain night, but how to make girls also have this kind of desire as long as they stay with you, what? You will be very happy even if you don’t do anything.

Whatever movie, meal, or gift surprise, they are just embellishments. They are just chords composed of small notes. The real chorus is yourself.

In this sense, the understanding of dating is the understanding of charm; and building charm is building oneself. So the question comes back to my essential understanding of picking up girls. The process of picking up girls is the process of self-strengthening.

This is the difficulty of picking up girls. If you only regard picking up girls as technical proficiency, such as practicing how to start a conversation, reciting the conventions of conversation, and practicing hand-holding techniques, you cannot adapt to all changes. A thousand girls have a thousand Hamlets. Every girl is different, and they will have different understandings of you and different feelings towards you. And here, what is more important is that excessive obsession with technical training will make you forget who you are, and at the same time lose the real happiness of picking up girls. It is like taking a camera to take pictures when traveling, no matter how good your shooting skills are. It's useless because you never put down the camera during the whole process.

Let’s get back to dating. You can get along happily with each other without doing anything on a date. This is the main direction for you to practice picking up girls. This article can give you some preliminary guidelines.

1. Be able to chat casually during a date. When you have no stage, no accompaniment, and no lighting props, you only have yourself, but you must not be timid and try to chat with her about anything. Remember, picking up girls has nothing to do with the content. It doesn’t matter what you do on the date, which means it doesn’t matter what you chat about. What matters is whether your chatting state is casual or deliberate. As long as it is casual, it is a very rubbish topic. If I give you a very cool topic, you can also have a very cool conversation; but if I give you a very cool topic deliberately, you can also have a very embarrassing conversation.

2. Be able to feel the people and things when you are dating. When you take a walk, you will see a lot of flowers, plants and trees, a lot of people passing by, and a lot of interesting things. Learn to feel them. When I go for a walk with girls, I often talk to them about the people and things I see during the walk. For example, the smell of the stinky tofu stall on the street corner reminds me of my time in elementary school. For example, the girl selling milk tea is so good-looking. Tian deliberately made her jealous, such as sitting on the stone steps together and listening to the ship whistle flying in the distance.

3. Don’t talk. If you can do the first two points, then you should try not talking. In other words, even if you don’t talk, you won’t be embarrassed, and you will still be in a happy state even if you don’t talk. This is the state you want to reach when dating without doing anything. This is not something you can do casually, but you can work in this direction, and you should be able to do it one day in the future. But you will pay a long exploration process.

Doing nothing on a date is not a way of dating, but an understanding of dating, a process of following your heart to complete why you want to meet each other.

So in terms of specific performance, many stage-like and prop-like elements were removed, and it was carried out in a more simple and low-cost form, allowing pure communication to become the protagonist. Of course, this does not mean that you should deliberately go on single dates. If you really want to do something together, just do it. This is not a contradiction.

After eating beef noodles with her, I looked outside the store door. A large swath of bright sunlight fell on the road, and a brown puppy was wagging its tail in a daze. There was no class in the afternoon, so I didn’t know what to do after lunch. I was bored, but I felt happy at the same time. I couldn’t explain why, it was just like that.

Then go to the beach and enjoy the sea breeze.

Okay.

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