Psychology: Never travel with your relatives, or they will become enemies. Why?

In recent years, the tourism boom has never subsided, and every holiday is like a great migration of human beings. In addition to enjoying the beautiful scenery and tasting delicious food, the anecdotes in the journey are even more memorable.

Most people will choose to go together, whether they are friends, relatives, lovers or a group of strangers with the same purpose.

There will be contradictions where people live. Seemingly the most intimate and flesh-and-blood relationship, if there are contradictions in the journey, it will not stand the test, and it is very likely that relatives will become enemies.

Moral compulsion

Some people say never do business with relatives; Some people say that you should never find relatives as employees; Some people say, never tell your relatives about your income easily; Some people say never travel with relatives.

Everyone has excluded their loved ones from their own lives, and anything involving interests does not want to be related to their loved ones. In fact, many things related to relatives are more worth pondering than others.

Everyone is afraid of "moral kidnapping", and the moral kidnapping of relatives will bring greater mental harm to people. So people subconsciously think that relatives will hinder their development.

There are too many such examples in life, and Xiao Chen's family suffers greatly. His father is a real estate developer. After years of hard work, he has made good achievements. Father Chen is a nostalgic person, so he invited all his nephews who didn't find a job to work in the company.

Xiao Chen's cousins are paid to loaf around the company every day, but they have never done their work well, and they are still arrogant in the company. Chen's father didn't take any measures in his eyes, but let it develop. He thinks that everyone is related, so help anyone who can help.

But in recent years, Chen's business has been sluggish and he has been unable to find a way out. None of his relatives can help. Chen's father has been idle at home for four years. Without reliable help, his relatives will find another way out. As the saying goes, the tree fell apart.

When traveling with relatives, you will encounter many disagreements. If you go out with others, the other person will consider whether the tone of voice is appropriate and know how to measure and measure.

And between relatives, because of constant contact, there is less humility and respect. In front of the people closest to you, you can fully express and release yourself.

People think that relatives are related by blood, so we should tolerate ourselves unconditionally, expose selfishness to the fullest, and support selfishness with morality.

The so-called relatives are "broken bones with tendons." As long as relatives and friends are involved, they all bear responsibilities and obligations and are vulnerable to moral kidnapping.

However, once the bottom line is broken, relatives will become enemies. In the process of communication, how to prevent relatives from becoming enemies?

four principles

First of all, emergency is not to save the poor. Every family's financial situation is different. It is understandable to try your best to help your loved ones when they are in trouble.

However, there is a limit to everything. Don't give alms to make your relatives rely on them. As long as you stop helping, you are likely to turn against you and can't solve the real problem.

Second, brothers should settle accounts clearly. The relationship between people is based on borrowing and returning. Only by using family ties for moral kidnapping and obtaining the interests of others can we become enemies.

It is the duty of others to borrow money, and it is also the duty of not borrowing it yourself. Even relatives have their own families to protect. Don't be afraid of offending people. Putting the interest relationship on the table will save a lot of trouble.

Third, don't spend the night under good conditions. It is normal to visit relatives, and it is understandable to spend the night occasionally, but you must never stay with relatives for a long time.

After a long time, contradictions will intensify, and relatives have no obligation to take care of you. At first it was just a polite relationship. After a long time, there will be contradictions and resentment. If a relative encounters a problem, it is better to help him find a way than to take him in.

Finally, don't cooperate with relatives. Some people want to find relatives to cooperate when starting a business, thinking that relatives are more reliable than outsiders, and they naturally have relations before cooperation.

But in the face of interests, family ties are vulnerable. Everyone has selfishness, and relatives are most likely to have conflicts over money, and finally turn against each other and become a laughing stock.

Don't think so beautifully about the feelings between relatives. The dark side of human nature cannot stand the test. A simple trip can turn relatives into enemies. If you have sincere relatives around you, please cherish them and feel their unconditional love for you.