What is the relationship between a man and a woman based on?

In this life, everyone will meet many compatible people, especially the mutual attraction between men and women. However, whether it is about love or friendship, if you want to establish a relatively stable relationship, attraction alone is not enough. You also need something else:

1. Three views. If a man and a woman want to establish a relationship, they must first have relatively compatible views. What are the three outlooks? They are world outlook, outlook on life and values. It sounds very vague and has no landing point, so let’s talk about a simple example. My friend met a very good boy during a blind date. Both parties had a good impression of each other when they first came into contact, but they still did not get married. The biggest reason is that my friend is a workaholic. She believes that the value of life lies in making money. Moreover, she is also very honest. She admitted that she is willing to pay for a car and a house together, but she cannot give up her current job; the man is relatively unambitious. People think that as long as they have enough money to spend, and that the house is enough to live in, the most important thing is that the family has time to spend together, and they don’t want the woman to travel around on business. Then it's game over. It's just that both parties have different definitions of respect, work, and life.

2. Trust. Whether you are a friend or a lover, you need to trust each other. Only when trust exists can you trust the other person and not worry about gains and losses, which will make the relationship between them very tense. My parents are very good at this. My father is away from home all the time due to work, but he and my mother never doubt each other. They both believed that the other would be faithful to the marriage, especially my father, who put the house, car, and salary in my mother's name. He said that my mother had a hard time at home and that he should give her the greatest sense of security, and that he also trusted his own wife.

3. Suffering. It does not mean that cancer, earthquakes, fires, and other natural and man-made disasters are called hardships. You have a cold and feel very uncomfortable, which is a physical hardship; if you feel depressed because of something, and want to cry or talk, this is a soul hardship... These small things that may seem inconspicuous are actually very important. Everything is a hardship. I remember there was an article on Chicken Soup for the Soul that wrote about the other person's actions that made you completely give up. In fact, if two people want to build a relationship or take it to the next level, it is inevitable to deal with these things. Although it seems inconsequential, and it seems that you can do it or not do it, but once you do it, you will find that something is different.

So, based on these three points, if you can be perfect, you can build a perfect relationship.