Meeting all things is like seeing them for the first time, but also saying goodbye

My friend Hui Hui broke up a few days before their wedding.

On Instagram, she posted a photo of them together with the text: Due to the immaturity of herself and xx, she hurt each other and the people who love them. Emotions are fluid and we are not yet able to fully grasp them, but we still cherish each other’s friendship. Thank you to everyone who has accompanied us along the way. We will work harder to grow and change, and hope that in the future we will know how to cherish and manage every precious fate.

Huihui and his boyfriend were classmates in elementary school and have known each other for nearly 20 years. I met Huihui when I was in the research institute. At that time, they had already established a relationship and were in a stable relationship. It is said that this boy has been chasing her for 6 years. After graduating from graduate school, they got engaged. 3 months ago, they announced their breakup.

In the eyes of us outsiders, this is such an indestructible relationship. It has the foundation of time, and the two people's abilities are equally matched. There is no reason to break up. But, feelings are fluid, everything is fluid, and everything that seems to be under your control is actually not under your control. "No good thing in the world is solid." You can't expect a match made in heaven to grow old together.

After the breakup, Hui Hui also felt depressed. She is a Christian. She once posted a picture of a cross and asked at the bottom: Will I still be happy?

Falling out of love itself is not terrible. We know that there are thousands of people in this big world, but what worries girls is always where is the next better person? Will I go on alone like this? Life without love and companionship always seems to be missing something. But as everyone knows, the less a person relies on external things, the closer he is to happiness. A girl can be relied on, but she must also have the courage and ability to go on alone.

Huihui, who is single again, like many girls, works hard and travels. In addition, she also picked up her previous interest - radio DJ. When her life is fulfilled, she will not think about things anymore. Think about the West. Even though she would cry silently late at night, her calm conversation and her consistent smile made people around us believe that she must have the ability to heal herself. Happiness and pain, we experience it, pass through it, feel it, and then let it go. I admire such a calm and decent girl.

In my concept, many things are like the "impermanence" mentioned in Buddhism. We always think that things that are fixed suddenly change. A sure chance of being promoted may be passed up to others; a seemingly smooth job may suddenly be disrupted by an airborne boss, and a boyfriend who has been dating for several years may break up, and everyone goes their separate ways. The most certain thing in life is that it is indeed full of uncertainties, and these unplanned things will also become a certain node in life, forcing people to grow. Although it is painful, it makes people see it all more clearly.

I strive to uphold the idea that "meeting all things is like seeing them for the first time and saying goodbye." Some people may say that all love is for the purpose of getting together. If you know from the beginning that it will not last, people will not cherish it. But in fact, people have obsessions. It doesn’t mean that you won’t love something if you don’t love it, or you can give up if you say you give up. Instead of trying to hold on tightly and worrying about gains and losses in your own little world, it is better to cherish it more when you have it and not be too sorry when you lose it.

Don’t be stuck in things, don’t be confused by emotions. It is very important for people to live a grateful and free life.

You have been here and I remember it, so there is really nothing to be sad about.