What you call smart is actually the biggest stupidity

I saw two stories on the Internet that touched me deeply:

A friend who came back from traveling in Australia happily told people around him: In Australia, if you hold a map and pretend If you don’t understand English and look confused, ask the local police for help, and the police will take you to your destination in a police car.

It saves time, effort, and fares. My friend feels very smart.

So everyone followed suit and laughed at the local police for being stupid. Over time, the police developed a dislike for Chinese tourists. Some police officers have even begun to work hard to learn Chinese on their own so as not to be regarded as "free drivers" by the Chinese again.

I thought I was making a big deal, but in the end I not only shot myself in the foot, but also caused prejudice to the Chinese people who went to Australia in the future.

A girl traveled to Japan with her friend's family. The friend's father had a heart attack and needed emergency surgery.

Based on the principle of saving people first, Japanese hospitals performed surgery without receiving any surgery fees, saving the life of a friend's father, and told the friend that the surgery fees could be paid in installments after returning to China.

A few months after returning to China, my friend’s father died of a recurrence of a heart attack, and my friend immediately stopped paying for the surgery at a Japanese hospital.

The Japanese hospital communicated with the patient’s family several times through the girl, but the other party firmly refused to pay for the surgery. The reason given was that my father had spent a lot on his funeral and had no money left to pay for the surgery.

In this regard, Japanese hospitals have formed a tacit understanding: in the future, any surgery on Chinese patients will not be performed if the full surgical fee is not paid.

In the eyes of many people, it is foolish not to ride in a free police car; it is also foolish to have to pay for surgery thousands of miles away after returning to the country.

But they forget that there are not so many shortcuts in life, and there are not so many advantages to take advantage of. Some roads that are not taken now will have to be made up in the future.

We are used to riding in free police cars and enjoying free surgeries. The consequence is that Chinese people are increasingly discriminated against and made things difficult for us overseas. The essence of this is no different from fishing for the best.

Zhou Guoping wrote in "The Soul Can Only Walk Alone": "The so-called maturity of many people is just that the edges have been worn away by customs and become worldly and practical. That is not maturity, but spiritual Premature aging and the death of personality. True maturity should be the formation of unique personality, the discovery of true self, spiritual results and harvest."

Maturity does not mean sophistication, and true wisdom should not be measured by interests. Mo lost the big picture because of his little cleverness.

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There is a very popular topic on Zhihu recently, called: "What are some behaviors that seem silly but are actually smart?" Netizens have shared their own experiences and summarized It is nothing more than the following two points:

Do things seriously and give in appropriately.

A netizen’s wife works in a company with a majority of women. Every time she and her husband go out, she dresses up very beautifully, but when she goes to work, she simply draws her eyebrows, puts her hair in a ponytail, whatever she chooses. He just puts on his clothes and goes out, and he plays a very inconspicuous role in the company. For this, he was called stupid by his colleagues. Netizens never understood it until she explained it.

There is a female colleague who always dresses outstandingly, receives a lot of care from her male colleagues, speaks well in front of the boss, and was named the "most beautiful employee" at the company's annual meeting.

However, that colleague resigned in the middle of this year because someone was always stabbing him in the back.

So my wife turned on the silly attribute, and gradually people in the company felt that she was not a threat. She only needed to say hello to her colleagues every day when she came to the company, and then do her own thing seriously, and those who tried to Colleagues who rely on appearance to get shortcuts have gone countless batches.

I don’t know since when, people always think that serious people are too stupid and those who give in are too cowardly.

Everyone is eager to use the least effort in exchange for the greatest benefit. If they give in a little bit, they feel as if they have lost the world. The most obvious representative here is "Houhei Xue".

In recent years, "Houheixue" has suddenly emerged and quickly occupied various best-seller lists. Its advertised success criteria are: thick skin and dark heart. The highest state of thick blackness is that the skin is so thick that it is invisible, and the heart is so black that it is colorless.

However, in the face of an environment where everyone is unscrupulous and ruthless, can we really remain calm? Don't you feel the slightest fear?

Yu Qiuyu said in "The Frost-Cold River": "If you forget kindness and kindness and only know how to compete with others for success, that is true mediocrity."

The world There are so many mediocre people who spend their lives crawling among flies and dogs, and get their heads broken and bleeding while looking for shortcuts. Perhaps many people will never understand throughout their lives that behind being smart is not success, but an invisible abyss.

Any attempt to harvest easily without sweat will ultimately have to taste the bitter fruit yourself.

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When Wang Xun is mentioned at first glance, most people have no idea what kind of person he is. You may be able to recall something by looking at the picture below:

He is Qin Fengshou, the assistant to the general manager in "Crazy Stone":

He is Yao Ma in "My Captain, My Group":

He is the character in "Military Ge Zhang Yaozu in "Er Dan":

He is also the extremely stingy squirrel in "Extreme Challenge":

Wang Xun is a typical person who lives in the role. Ordinary people may not Know his name but remember his character.

In his more than 20 years of debut, Wang Xun has only taken on small roles, but he studies each role carefully and can show the complex hearts and thoughts of small characters with ease, sometimes making people hate him, and sometimes making people laugh. It makes people laugh again.

In "Extreme Challenge", Wang Xun is the most marginalized character. Compared with other big names and little fresh meat, his sense of existence is very low.

But it would be a big mistake to look down on him because of this. Wang Xun studied under Yang Ziyang, the third disciple of cross talk master Mr. Hou Baolin. He is currently the secretary-general of the military, political and legal circles of the Sichuan Youth Federation, a member of the Chengdu Youth Federation and a director of the Sichuan Quyi Artists Association. These are official recognitions and honors.

Although he has never starred in a film or television production, nor won a Best Actor Award, in terms of his job, he has done as well as anyone else.

Some people say that Wang Xun is stupid, but in fact they are the ones who are stupid.

There is a sentence in "The End of Time" that expresses the sentiments of many people: "We have heard many truths, but we still cannot live this life well."

In fact, there is no need for that. There are so many principles, no matter how many techniques, no matter how many shortcuts, they all pale in comparison to hard work. Most of the so-called "principles" are just fancy, only doing things seriously is the true meaning.

When competing with others, there will always be winners and losers. If you are not afraid of losing, why should you be serious?

Wang Xun has defeated countless people when it comes to seriousness.

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Rabindranath Tagore once said: "A completely rational heart is just like a knife with all sharp edges, which will cause bleeding on the hands of the person who uses it." "A Dream of Red Mansions" Wang Xifeng has been good at calculations all his life, but as a result, "the agencies were too clever in their calculations, and they lost their lives"; Yang Xiu in "The Romance of the Three Kingdoms" was too shrewd, thinking that he was unparalleled in scheming, but in the end he was eaten up by his own useless words. It’s useless, and it’s a pity to throw it away and “lose your life.”

Wang Xifeng and Yang Xiu are indeed both smart, but they are also losers. They did not lose to their enemies, but to themselves.

Whether you are talented or calculating, you think you can see everything, but little do you know that the more dazzling your light is, the faster you will lose.

There is such a dialogue in the movie "The Imitation Game":

Sometimes it is the people people think are useless who achieve things that no one has accomplished. What people call "useless" is actually just accumulating strength.

There is no free lunch in the world. If you want to take advantage of life, life will definitely ask you for it.