When I became a mother, I became the most afraid of death and the most cowardly person!

After having children, we are no longer the most important people in our lives.

Two days ago, my colleagues asked me what interesting places to visit in Guilin. I briefly introduced the places I had been to before. Some places were more dangerous if it rained, so I did not introduce them. My husband started quarreling with me over this matter. He believes that traveling should go to fun, beautiful and exciting places. My reason is that it’s too dangerous in the mountains on a rainy day because my colleague’s family of four went there. When traveling with children, even if you are close to nature, you must avoid dangers.

That’s right, after becoming a mother, I have become the most cowardly person in the world! In the past, I was accustomed to various travel and travel accidents reported on the Internet; now when I go out with my children, I am subconsciously careful on the main road with people and cars, for fear of taking a wrong step! I used to be an unruly and passionate woman. Traveling could start with a bus ticket or air ticket at any time. It was a high-risk but new and interesting thing. I would never stop playing anything that was exciting and fun. Now when I go out with my children, where can I go? Where to go safely. Just stay away from anything that is estimated to have a slight risk index.

Angelababy just gave birth to her little sponge. When talking about the psychological changes before and after giving birth, she said confidently: I used to ride roller coasters without any reason, but now I think: Why should I? Go? Yes, riding a roller coaster, what if my child has a heart attack?

In the past, when I was alone, I could do whatever I wanted without fear; now, I would retreat if there was any danger and would never do anything like "shooting the first bird". In the past, when I did something wrong, I was criticized by the leader, scolded by my parents, dared to talk back, and dared to slap the table; now, if I make a mistake, I hang my head, come back and change it, and thank the leader for giving me a chance! All the "cowardly things" that I had dismissed in the past are now happening to me in a cycle of cause and effect! Well, I give in, because after having children, we are no longer the most important people in our lives.

"Woman, your name is weak" is not valid in the eyes of mothers.

But are women who become mothers really just weak and retreating? No, although many women feel "cowardly", after retreating again and again, they become brave and become their own backbone. Shakespeare's famous saying "Woman, thy name is weak" is not true in the eyes of mothers.

Alyssa Chia’s marriage to scumbag Sun Zhihao caused a stir in the city. Helpless, she was willing to put aside her celebrity aura, admitting that she had been domestically abused and that she was a loser in her marriage. She made all these sacrifices just to ask the media to help her find her daughter. . Some people laughed at her for being stupid for giving up all the divorce proceeds for her daughter. Even if love is gone, property is given up, and you become a single mother, you have to work hard and start over. It is rare to hear of a man giving up everything for his children, but there are always those "silly" mothers who choose their children at all costs.

In order to let her child enjoy 37 degrees of love, Ma Yili insisted on carrying breast milk even though her family was under great pressure and her family repeatedly persuaded her to wean her baby, and she did not care at all about her figure being out of shape.

Taiwan’s most touching public welfare film "Brave Mother" in 2010 tells the story of a 63-year-old mother who has never been abroad before. She spent three days flying more than 30,000 kilometers to three countries in order to give birth to a baby. My daughter gave me Chinese medicinal materials that can be used to make chicken soup. During the security check, I had a conflict with the security personnel who did not understand the language over a package of Chinese medicinal materials. I cried and took back the package of soup.

For the sake of the children, he gave up his property and superior life; for the sake of the children, he gave up the figure that celebrities care about most; for the sake of the children, he traveled thousands of miles to deliver supplements to children overseas. Only mothers can do it. The tenacity and bravery that mothers develop out of being "cowardly" are great and extraordinary!

Bearing the unbearable weight of life

In the past, everyone in the unit left during the holidays, and I stayed alone in the dormitory. I didn’t dare to open the door, didn’t dare to go out, and closed the door. I stayed in the dormitory obediently outside the window, and ran around when dead people appeared in movies and TV shows. But now, with my children on vacation, when I stay alone in the dormitory with my children, the front door is open, and the back door is also open. It seems that I am not afraid of anything anymore. From a girl who screamed loudly when she encountered a cockroach to a warrior mother who stepped on it and won, it actually happened in an instant.

When I was sick in the past, I kept putting it off and would not go to the clinic unless it was absolutely necessary. I would act as a "doctor" myself, get some medicine, take a few packets of granules, sleep and continue the work at hand; Now I find that my throat is a little dizzy, so I pay attention immediately. I am afraid that I may catch a cold and my child will be infected. I need to see a doctor quickly. From a workaholic who doesn't take her health seriously to a mother who is "scared of death" and seeks medical attention as soon as she feels unwell, it actually happened in an instant.

Rousseau said: "If a person is afraid of pain, afraid of various diseases, afraid of unexpected events, afraid of life danger and death, he will not be able to endure anything." However, after becoming mothers, we Begin to be afraid of pain, various diseases, unexpected events, danger of life and death. However, you can endure everything and bear the unbearable weight of life. However, after becoming mothers, we emerge from all kinds of fears and "cowardice" and transform into a truly brave "warrior".