Why do you say, "Don't give an umbrella if you like it, don't give cigarettes if you live for a long time, and you won't make up for the loss?"

"If you like it, don't send an umbrella, if you are alive, don't send a cigarette, and don't make up for the loss", that is, pay attention to gifts. The meaning is very simple, that is, you can't send an umbrella when you get married, you can't send cigarettes when the old man is alive, and someone can't make up for it when he dies.

Then why do you say that? What's the point? Next, let's take a look.

First, do you like giving umbrellas?

Throughout the ages, marriage is one of the most important days in a person's life. On such a festive day, of course, newcomers also hope to get the blessing of the guests, who should be happy. They often wish the new couple a hundred years of harmony, grow old together, have a baby early and so on. When giving gifts, we will also give some beautiful gifts, but "umbrella" is a homonym of "parting", which feels like people are leaving, which is a very bad meaning, so we say "I like not to give umbrellas". Not only that, when you get married, no matter how hot it is that day, all the guests attending the wedding are not allowed to fan the wind, otherwise it will give you the meaning of breaking up.

However, we will also find a phenomenon that when modern people get married, the bride will always wear a red umbrella. Why?

In fact, there are two main reasons: first, the bride who used to get married is the oldest, but no matter how big she is, she can't beat heaven and earth. Therefore, the bride usually carries the bride on her back from her family, just to prevent the bride from breaking the world.

You will also cover your head and face with a red scarf. At the groom's house, either the matchmaker carries it in or the groom carries the bride in. Your feet can't touch the ground anyway.

In modern society, people have replaced the big red hijab with red umbrellas. In many places, the wedding custom is to let the bridesmaid open the red umbrella at the first step when the bride steps out of the car door, and then escort the bride to the car all the time, which means that it will shelter the bride from the wind and rain and avoid being troubled by evil spirits. Accordingly, the custom of the matchmaker carrying the bride was replaced by the red carpet. Then there is the homonym of "umbrella" and "scattered", which means spreading branches and leaves, hoping to wish the newlyweds many children and grandchildren.

Second, don't send cigarettes.

In China, alcohol and tobacco are the most common gifts for holidays, because men like smoking and drinking in nine cases out of ten, even if the host of the family doesn't smoke or drink, they will use them when entertaining other guests, so it is generally not wrong to send alcohol and tobacco, but there is one occasion where cigarettes can never be sent, and that is the birthday of the elderly. There used to be a strict difference between "birthday" and "birthday".

Because the original meaning of the word "longevity" means that people are old, Shuo Wen Jie Zi explains: "longevity is long." Therefore, when the old people celebrate their birthdays, they are already very old and afraid of death, and this "smoke" is homophonic with the dying "swallow", indicating that it is very bad. Therefore, when the old people celebrate their birthdays, they must not send cigarettes. But you can send wine, because "wine" and "nine" are homophonic, which means a long time. Generally, old people who deliver wine will be very happy.

Third, make up for the loss.

In the former countryside, if an old man died at home, he would go back and inform his relatives and friends and neighbors to pay his respects. When these people get the obituaries, they will definitely take time out, so this "no compensation for funeral" means that if someone invites you to the funeral, but you miss it because of something, you can't mourn after the funeral.

If you miss your birthday, you can make up for it. You can make up for it afterwards if you don't get married, and you can't make up for it if you miss the funeral. This is because funerals are different from happy events. I forgot the happy event, and once again I gave a gift, which means "adding joy to happiness." It is very sad that someone in the family died. If you make up for it afterwards, it will make your family sad. Moreover, it is suspected of cursing others and killing relatives, so there is a saying that "the loss cannot be made up".

In fact, although this proverb has no scientific reason, it is also a custom taboo, and everyone still has to abide by it. Isn't it a blessing to give gifts? Don't do bad things with kindness.