Why listen and respond?

In a remote and closed town, only two radio stations can be heard: the first radio station specializes in celebrity news, entertainment programs, or pop song charts, and the listening rate is quite high; The second radio station is a meteorological professional radio station, and its audience is only a small number of people.

One night, the weather station issued an emergency warning: a powerful "tornado" would hit the town at midnight, and the radio station called on the villagers to evacuate immediately. This small group of listeners immediately organized, some went to the mayor, some went to the streets to beat gongs and drums, and some called the first radio station to ask for tornado news for help.

The mayor said, "There has never been a tornado in this town. The news of the tornado was misreported or fabricated by the Meteorological Observatory in order to improve the listening rate. " People who beat gongs and drums are considered crazy.

Radio 1 refused to interrupt this "life and death" news on the grounds that celebrities were being interviewed at the scene.

As a result, the town was razed to the ground by a tornado, so that no one knew that this land used to be a town.

When the meteorological station issued the weather forecast, the mayor and the people in the town didn't listen and respond, and it was too late to regret it.

The same is true of dealing with people. If you only care about yourself and ignore the words and deeds of others, you will also encounter "Waterloo".

When talking with people, it is not only the least courtesy, but also an important signal that you respect them. However, many people do not. When others are right, they like not to talk. If others don't agree with their views, they will interrupt, eager to confess or prove their correctness.

Actually, the reason is not high. Sometimes we speak not to argue who is right or wrong, but to deepen our understanding or clarify each other's thoughts. So there is no need to argue with each other in a hurry. Many times, we listen to each other's reasons quietly, and it is easier to achieve the purpose of effective communication.

In addition, we should also pay attention to giving back to each other appropriately. We can't let the other person talk for a long time, and you just look noncommittal, so that the other person can't guess what you are thinking. When someone smiles at you, you give him a smile. If others do well, don't be stingy with your own praise, give them a sincere compliment; Even if the other party has shortcomings, we should first find his advantages and criticize his shortcomings. So that the other person won't resent you.

Appropriate feedback can further deepen communication and enhance the relationship between the two.

We all want to achieve the best quality with the fastest speed, but not everyone can do it. Because it takes wisdom and skill to have such an effect. The seven principles and seven skills introduced here are a panacea that can help you improve your ability to establish, utilize and maintain interpersonal relationships. I hope you study hard to get the results we expect.