Why am I always one beat behind others?

I checked it carefully for you. Let's have a look. First, it is caused by the innate temperament of children. In psychology, "temperament" refers to the sum of the dynamic characteristics of people's psychological activities, which is a typical and stable psychological characteristic of people. Dynamic characteristics are the essence of human temperament characteristics. Specifically, it refers to the speed and flexibility of people's psychological reaction, as well as the intensity and stability of psychological activities. Generally speaking, temperament can be divided into four types: choleric, sanguine, mucinous and depressive. According to the research of psychologists and sociologists at home and abroad, there is no difference between the four temperament types, but temperament can affect the characteristics, methods and efficiency of human activities. For example, mucus-type children are quiet and peaceful, have strong self-control and patience, but are slow to respond and lack vitality; Depressed children are delicate, profound, practical and meticulous, but they are sentimental, withdrawn and dull. "Slow pat" is a common behavioral response of children with mucinous and depressive symptoms. This type of people tend to be slow-witted, taciturn and lacking in vitality. Second, parents are too protective of their children. Parents do what their children should do by themselves. That is to say, during the period when the child asks to "do it by himself", the parents don't let the child do it out of love or worry that the child can't do it well or spend too much time. Children can get everything they want without doing it themselves or even talking. For example, Xiaohui, two years old, pointed to the toy cabinet, and her mother immediately took out the building blocks for him; Xiaohui shook her head and grandma took out the bell; Xiaohui still shook his head. Finally, the father guessed his son's mind-he wanted to play with the electric train, so he quickly took out a full set of toys and immediately assembled the train track for his son. The children didn't say a word, and the adults were already busy! Kindhearted adults deprived children of the right to speak and the right to start work. Over time, children lack a sense of urgency and presupposition about their behavior. He knew that if they didn't do something themselves, their parents would help him eventually. Parents' overprotection prevents children from exercising their self-help skills, such as eating, washing hands, dressing and undressing themselves. However, after entering kindergarten, the environment has changed, and children can't get one-to-one or even several-to-one care and care like at home, so they will feel a kind of pressure and challenge. This kind of children who don't have certain independence and self-improvement ability will be dwarfed in the group, so they want to beg for help more. As a result, their dependence is getting stronger and stronger, and their actions are getting slower and slower. Third, children lack self-confidence. Children with low self-confidence often lack the initiative and enthusiasm to participate in various activities and do not believe in their own ability and strength. Such children are often timid, afraid of difficulties, afraid to try and so on. Children who lack self-confidence tend to feel inferior in groups, afraid of making mistakes and being scolded and laughed at, so they act slowly and timidly. If adults criticize too much at this time, it will have a strong suggestive effect on young children, but he will "break the jar" and become more "slow".