Humor skills can make your chat interesting.

Knowing how to chat interestingly will play a positive role in promoting our interpersonal relationship.

Think about it, do you prefer to associate with interesting people or people who make you sleepy with a straight face?

Other things being similar, we often prefer to get along with interesting people, because chatting with them will make us feel relaxed and happy.

The reason is that interesting ways of chatting will create an interesting atmosphere for everyone, so that we will not feel bored when we are in it.

To be an interesting person, you must first know how to create an interesting chat atmosphere.

And the way to create a chat atmosphere is of course our words.

Conditions for creating an interesting chat atmosphere To create an interesting chat atmosphere through our words, we must first do the following four things:

1, the attitude should be relaxed and natural;

2. Clever language use;

3. Speak with a degree of relaxation;

4. Know how to deal with embarrassment;

When you do these four things and create an interesting chat atmosphere, it will be easy.

Because the atmosphere is the result of emotional superposition. When everyone shows positive emotions, then the current atmosphere is positive and vice versa.

So if you want others to feel an interesting atmosphere when chatting with you, you need to control your emotions and relax yourself, and then strengthen this atmosphere through language, even if there is embarrassment, you can handle it well.

As long as you do this, you will know how to be an interesting person.

What prevents you from relaxing? Is there any way to relax in a social environment?

Generally speaking, there are two main reasons why you can't relax:

First, you don't have enough sense of security about the present environment;

Second, your mental burden is too great, causing self-restriction;

The first reason is that I feel insecure because I am unfamiliar with the environment and don't know what to do in the current environment. And the reason why we feel safe at home is because we are familiar, understanding and free.

To solve this problem, just do two things:

1 Relate to the environment through simple interaction, such as greeting others.

2, understand what the current environment allows you to do and what you are not allowed to do, so as to have a good attitude.

However, there are still many people who are afraid to take the initiative to establish relationships with others in a strange environment because they have too many self-restrictions on their own thoughts.

I don't think it's good to do this, or I think it's not good to talk like this. These ideological restrictions can easily make you stiff and nervous.

This kind of self-limiting thought is related to everyone's growth experience, forming their own way of thinking about the outside world! Therefore, we should know how to adjust our thinking and hint ourselves with positive language.

So, don't care too much about your performance and allow yourself to make mistakes. As long as your behavior is based on respect for others, you can do it boldly whether you are joking or discussing something.

Under the guidance of this mentality, you can use words to shape interesting feelings.

Skills to make your language interesting Interesting chatting requires the use of some specific language skills.

Only through the foreshadowing of language, can others' thinking be deviated, can we give people a refreshing feeling and get an interesting impression.

For example, when you go to the movies with a friend and find that his friend is wearing a lot of clothes, you ask him strangely, "Wow, don't you feel hot with so many clothes?"

This is a common saying.

But if you want to be interesting, you need to adjust your language expression in order to say to your friends, "Do you want to travel to the North Pole with so many clothes or do you want to prevent exposure?"

This response transcends fixed thinking and interprets this matter in a new way.

In other words, to make your language use interesting, you need to do two things:

1, don't interpret events in the usual way of thinking;

2. Don't use fixed means of expression to express your ideas;

If you want to do these two things, you must make your mind active, dare to break the rules and chat in ways other than your inherent habits.

Among them, some rhetorical devices, such as exaggeration, foreshadowing, irony, metaphor and pun, can make your words interesting.

For example, you are dating a friend, but because of the traffic jam, your friend asks you, "Why are you so late?" You replied, "Traffic jam." This is the usual answer.

But if you answer in an exaggerated way, "I'm sorry, I was caught in a traffic jam like the end of the world." No way! " "

Interesting chatting requires you to jump out of logical thinking and organize your words with divergent thinking.

For example, if a friend asks you how to catch up with the beauty queen and explains the situation to his friend with logical thinking, it may make him feel sad.

If you jump out of logic, say "buy a sports car to chase her, and you can catch up with her!" " "This pun illustrates the difficulty of this matter.

Look and think about the following joke:

"Today I sang to Xiaohua under her room, and she gave me a flower."

"Really? Why did you hurt your head? "

"Maybe Xiaohua forgot to take the flowers out of the flowerpot!"

What is the language skill of this joke? That is to say, a bad result is replaced by a good expression, and vice versa.

This is the same thing, the effect of different expressions.

Let's give another example.

You confessed to the goddess today, and the other party refused. Saying it will give people a very sad feeling. But if you change the expression, it may become another interesting feeling, such as:

You: I confessed to the goddess today.

Friend: What was the result?

You: She is so happy.

Friend: Really? Did you confess?

You: No! She was very happy and finally had the opportunity to formally reject my pursuit.

This is an interesting chat.

So how can we make ourselves have this sensitivity in using language?

Be a conscientious person, read more jokes, accumulate more jokes, analyze more interesting words you see, and cultivate your sense of application. Then constantly exercise yourself in daily life, and naturally form the habit of expression.

Of course, again, only when you feel very relaxed can you develop this creative language skill.

Otherwise, it is difficult for you to be interesting because of your emotions.

Cultivate a relaxed way of speaking. If you want to make others feel interesting, you must first have a foreshadowing.

Because you can't laugh and laugh all day, otherwise this kind of fun will be annoying; You can't keep a straight face all the time, just make a joke or two occasionally, which is more deliberate.

So we must use "relaxation" to cultivate our way of speaking.

Zhang means to speak seriously and seriously;

Chi, that is, talking is interesting and fun;

In other words, when you are chatting with others, you should be serious when you should be serious, and open your heart to others when you need to joke.

So when should we be serious? That is, when it comes to other people's factors, or to other people's face, self-esteem and defects, don't make jokes casually.

Otherwise, if someone else is disabled, you still make fun of their health, which is disrespectful to each other.

So when should I joke?

It's just that you can make some unimportant jokes, even about yourself. For example, self-mockery is to make fun of yourself. After all, you will be more careful about your own affairs.

If someone asks you what your name is, if your name is "Chen Million" and you think it's a joke, you can say, "Hello, my name is Chen Million, and I'm a millionaire's million. Maybe my parents want me to be rich or expensive in the future, so I changed this name. But judging from the current situation, calling me Chen Baiyuan is already a luxury. "

This is the expression of "Qi" in language. Get out of the normal mode of thinking properly, make a joke and relax your tone, which will naturally make others think your speech is very interesting.

So we must cultivate a way of speaking with "relaxation".

Be polite and respectful to others, even if you are joking, don't hurt others' self-esteem.

Similarly, don't say everything seriously, giving people an aggressive feeling. This serious way of speaking, in daily chat, will make people feel very stressed, and naturally they will not be able to have a good relationship with others.

The question is, what should I do if I accidentally say the wrong joke when joking, causing an embarrassing atmosphere?

This requires you to know how to deal with embarrassing chat obstacles. Handling it well can also make the speech interesting.

Knowing how to deal with embarrassment is the killer to destroy the chat atmosphere. Once the embarrassment appears, the atmosphere of chatting must be very uncomfortable. If you know how to deal with embarrassment, it is easy to turn embarrassment into interesting nutrients.

What would embarrass you? That is to say the wrong thing, the chat suddenly has no topic, or step on the other side's minefield and so on. , may make everyone into embarrassment.

So how to deal with embarrassment? It is divided into three steps:

1, realize that embarrassment has happened.

Only when you realize that embarrassment is coming can you deal with it. Otherwise, you don't even know the embarrassment, and it's hard to do something wrong.

2. Think about who is the biggest victim of this embarrassment.

If this embarrassment makes friends feel embarrassed, you need to do something to make them feel better. Similarly, if this embarrassment makes you feel bad, you need to take the initiative to change this situation.

3, according to the embarrassing situation, in different ways to deal with.

There are two ways to ease the embarrassment. The first way is to apologize directly and sincerely say "I'm sorry, I shouldn't have said that" to others. I'm sure others won't care too much.

The second way is to use self-mockery to ease the embarrassing atmosphere.

For example, when you are discussing love with friends, you suddenly say that people who can't find a partner are "poor". Later, I found that your other friend has no date, but he is not poor and rich. What should I do?

You have to laugh at yourself and say, "The problem is that I actually belong to the kind of poor boy who has a date but still has no money. This is even more tragic! " When I heard you say that, everyone smiled and disappeared.

Therefore, it is easy to dilute this embarrassing atmosphere by making your speech interesting, knowing how to laugh at yourself and teasing yourself, instead of making the chat atmosphere tense.

Then how can we cultivate a sense of humor?

That's what I said before. First of all, you should relax your mind, then jump out of your logical thinking, give play to your innovative thinking, and chat in a way other than your inherent speaking habits, so don't be so serious and rigid. When you do this, it is possible for you to resolve the embarrassing atmosphere.

If you want to be an interesting person, you must master these qualities and then keep exercising yourself. Naturally, you will become an interesting speaker.

Your social charm is also shaped.