Four psychological scars of men

Chapter 1: Four psychological scars that men don't want you to touch.

Chapter 2: Never mention four things that hurt a man's self-esteem.

Chapter 3: The six "private parts" of a macho man are soft when touched.

Men's self-esteem is very strong, and men also have some little secrets that can't be told to others, which are related to men's face. So, what psychology does a man have that he can't touch? What is the thing that hurts a man's self-esteem? How to keep men confident?

Four psychological scars that men don't want you to touch

Past emotional experiences

Everyone's past is a well-preserved spiritual diary, which may be read occasionally, but never easily shared with others. Especially the chapter about women. But almost all men have complicated emotional experiences. In men's circles, showing off how beautiful women around you used to be is also a special way for men to prove themselves; But in the face of today's women, they will never mention it easily, because the past, even if it is unforgettable, is a matter of another world. What's more, even the most educated woman will inevitably not ask about the past. If she meets a "jealous man", won't she ask for it?

Everyone will be curious about the past of the person they love the most and want to have the person they love. This is an instinct, the instinct of love. But once you know, what will be left except pain? Love needs sincerity, but it also needs secrets. The so-called secret is to give love a space, let love breathe freely, and keep love fresh and mysterious. Finally one day, when I got up the courage to say something to him, he stopped me. He gently pressed my lips and said, don't say anything. Everyone has a past. Without the past, there can be no present. No one has the right to trample on the green space in others' hearts at will. Listen, man: If you love me, don't ask me about my past.

A man's vanity

Men are all players. If a man likes racing and is a center on the football field, his charm in front of women will suddenly increase greatly, so a man must always have some real skills. At worst, you should play one of them properly so as not to lose face in front of women. So a man secretly practiced tennis for his girlfriend. If the house can't be taken away, some men spend all their money on buying a car to bluff. It is really impossible to borrow one or rent one day to satisfy their vanity.

Maupassant, the wife of a vain civil servant, worked hard for a necklace for ten years. At that time, I thought vanity was a woman's patent. When I grow up, I know that men are actually more vain than women. A woman's vanity is superficial, a necklace can satisfy her vanity, and a man's vanity is in his bones.

Male sexual anxiety

There is a theory that a man will have a one-off fantasy every six minutes, and only when he is busy with it will he stop thinking about it. After thinking every six minutes for six days, men began to do something about it, but few women knew about men's anxiety about sex. Before they have a chance to sharpen their penises, many men are already mumbling about how big their penises will be once they get an erection. They constantly comfort themselves that size is not the key. It's not its size, but how you use it. But in fact, the problem of size has been bothering them. In addition, men are afraid of women who are more gaudy than him in bed. This kind of game will scare him. Of course, when men can't do it, they are most afraid of women saying, "What's wrong with you?" As for prostatitis, impotence, premature ejaculation, alopecia, insomnia, kidney deficiency, palpitations, hemorrhoids and so on. It is a notoriety that men dare not face.

Kidney deficiency seems to be very common in men now, especially middle-aged men. Women's tears are golden. When a woman tells her partner that she can't do it, people will be very sympathetic. On the other hand, if a person can't do this, he seems to have committed an unforgivable crime. What he got was not sympathy, but contempt of the same kind, a monster in the eyes of the opposite sex.

Psychology of male children

The image of Gao Cangjian-style tough guy in women's ideal makes men learn not to cry easily, so men have developed the habit of denying their feelings since childhood. Knocking out their teeth and swallowing them is a sign of weakness. If something happens that the Japanese cry because of business failure or the dissolution of the Australian cabinet, it will definitely make headlines immediately. Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what? So there are more men suffering from depression than women, and the suicide rate is even higher than that of women.

Every man has more or less Oedipus complex, especially those men who lacked maternal love when they were children. They often snuggle in the arms of their beloved women in the dead of night. Of course, this complex will not spread everywhere. The woman in front of him must be his favorite and most trusted woman, because only in front of the woman he loves will he feel safe.

Men are also spoiled. Is it fresh? In fact, this is already a "play" that is often performed in life, but men are reluctant to make it public because of their "strong" face. But since women can be strong, why can't men be "weak"? This society is getting richer and more tolerant. Why do we prefer one of them? It's tiring to treat a man as a strong incarnation. Even if they can carry it themselves, don't you feel bad?

Don't mention four things that hurt men's self-esteem.

1. He will lose his hair in the future.

Most men with shiny chrome blond hair are not considered to be the sexiest men except Hollywood types like Von Desso. This is also the reason why many men are uneasy about future hair loss. Even if it shows signs of getting thinner, it will definitely become an embarrassing topic for adults. This is really an embarrassing topic.

Ricky, 30, said: Once I went on a date, I really wanted to wear a hat because it was cold outside and she didn't want my head to freeze. I know my hair was a little thin at that time, but I don't need a woman to remind me even at home.

2. His meager income

Yes, it's not the Stone Age now, but we men still think it's our duty and responsibility to earn bread. When our wages have not accumulated enough, we have no motivation at all. It's like we use wallets to measure our value (or at least we think you do). So you have to understand why it's not our idea to stand up straight and joke with your lover.

Andrew, 28, said: I know this is wrong, but if my girlfriend earns more than me, I will feel embarrassed. She once taunted me to stay at home and be a father at home, but she supported us, which made me puzzled. We have reached a consensus that unless I win the lottery or open my own hotel, I can never ignore money. The bottom line is: it's not that we don't appreciate your femininity, we just don't want to be your precious son.

3. His mother

This is a game rule that can be traced back a long time: once you start to disrespect the boy's mother, things will become disgusting.

Josh, 30, said: I love my mother deeply. She is a complete character. I criticized her for not going, and she said I did. But if my girlfriend has a problem with my mother, I don't think she respects my mother at all. Reward a coup: sisters are beyond reproach.

4. His "younger brother"

In a word, this is a very serious problem, both in size and color.

If you have ever laughed at it, even a joke will do him great harm. Your best choice? Keep silent about his brother. Unless you feel the need to make it bigger.

A man's six "private parts" are soft when touched.

First, being laughed at is timid.

Since ancient times, there has been a saying that heroes save beauty, but men all like beautiful women. So in men's minds, everyone wants to be a hero admired by beautiful women.

Unfortunately, we are a civilized society, and there are not so many beautiful women who need men to use their powerful bodies as flower protectors.

However, this does not mean that men will give up their heroic dreams. For men, laughing at their cowardice is nothing more than insinuating that they are not men enough, which is an insult to them.

Second, the appearance is picky.

I always thought that only women would care about their appearance, but men also care. Recently, a friend made a girlfriend, and he always felt that his standard figure was not strong enough to give his girlfriend enough security.

In fact, from the girlfriend's mouth, her man is still a little muscular, so that men's self-confidence in their appearance often comes from their own psychological pressure. In fact, what women care about is not how Gao Shuai this man is, but how sincere this man is to her.

But it is said that men care about others' evaluation of his looks because they are confident in their genes, just as those short men always want to find a tall woman to make up for their shortcomings through complementarity. Therefore, if a woman finds fault with a man's appearance, it will be understood by him as not liking him.

Third, when he praises him in front of another man.

Just as a woman doesn't want a man to praise another woman in front of her, a man also cares about a woman praising another man in front of him, even if that man is a relative of a woman or a friend of a man.

Men can't stand it. When a woman is with him, she praises another man strongly, which not only makes him feel that you despise him, but also makes him mentally retarded.

Think about it. Most men are very face-saving, especially in front of the woman they love, and most of them want to be affirmed by each other. When you praise another man, you are just telling him that there is a better man than him. If this man happens to be known by him, imagine which man can tolerate it?

Fourth, be exposed.

It is also a matter of face, but it also involves the problem of being a man. Think about it. If a woman is exposed that you did double eyelid surgery somewhere on a certain day, I think it will be very uncomfortable at that time. The so-called beating people without hitting their faces, cursing people without exposing shortcomings, and exposing shortcomings is the behavior of the wicked to complain first. Even your closest lover, don't easily step into this forbidden area.

As a smart woman, you should know when silence is golden.

Confusion is always the highest realm of life. An outspoken person is always easy to offend others. A man's failure is like a scar, just leave it to him to lick slowly. What a woman should do is learn to make her memory worse.

Verb (abbreviation for verb) opens up private life.

I still remember I used to know a woman, and I always liked to tell her about her and her husband. She washed her husband's underwear one day and was blown away by the wind on the balcony. She bought several cans of soda and rolls of toilet paper today and asked her husband for reimbursement at night. Even her husband snores at night.

Everyone has two sides. Her husband is a person with a certain social status, and many people supported her before and after her. In his own home, all men will lay down their weapons and return to their true selves, but now he is unprepared and picks his nose and scratches his scalp.

If a woman regards the secret between you and him as a conversation, it is tantamount to exposing her weakness to others for a man, and he will feel betrayed, thus being excluded from showing his true side in front of you.

Expression of intransitive verbs

Every man wants to be strong for a long time, but there will always be times when men can't do what they want to do, and women's attitude towards men who can't do it will greatly affect their future performance. What is particularly bad is that some women also like to publicize the private addiction between husband and wife. You know, what men can't do is not all physical problems, but many are psychological problems. Women's ridicule is the reason why men can't do it psychologically.

For example, the woman I mentioned earlier, her husband didn't come home for three days, and everyone knows what happened. And because I have been married for many years without children and I am afraid of being laughed at, I preach everywhere that my husband can't stay in bed. I think it may be more serious for a man not to go to bed than to have no money, so a man openly goes out with a beautiful young woman and tells everyone with actions that he is not "no" but "not interested in his wife".

Conclusion: Never touch the problem of hurting a man's face. Men's competitive psychology is relatively strong, and men's self-esteem should be estimated on any occasion. Then, learn from the above-mentioned small series to maintain the male image for you.