Every time I see the recruitment notice posted at the door of the hotel, I dare not go in to apply. All I know is that I'm standing outside. I'm so nervous.

To effectively eliminate tension, fundamentally speaking, first, we should lower our demands on ourselves. If a person is very competitive, strives for perfection in everything and strives for the best in everything, he will naturally feel pressed for time and in a hurry (psychologists call it "type A personality"). And if you can clearly understand the limitations of your own ability and energy, lower your demands on yourself, and consider everything from a long-term and overall perspective, don't care too much about the gains and losses of one place at a time, and don't care too much about other people's opinions and evaluations of yourself, and your mood will naturally relax. The second is to learn to adjust the rhythm and combine work and rest. Pay attention to adjusting the rhythm in daily life. Concentrate on your work and study, and have fun. Ensure adequate sleep time and arrange some entertainment and sports activities properly. Be sure to relax, work and rest.

When a person already has a nervous emotional reaction, how should he adjust? In this case, people are used to comforting the parties: "Don't be nervous!" "What's the big deal!" The parties themselves usually tell themselves in this column: "Don't be nervous!" "What's the big deal!" Unfortunately, however, this method is almost impossible. In fact, it will make people feel even more uneasy. Because this is your own hard time, which makes you more nervous. As the saying goes, "love is like a tide, and the more it is blocked, the higher it is."

When the nervous emotional reaction has appeared, the effective adjustment methods should be: First, face and accept your own nervousness. You should think that your nervousness is normal, and many people may be more nervous than you in some cases. Don't fight against this uneasy emotion, but experience it and accept it. Train yourself to observe your fears as an outsider, and be careful not to fall into fear. Don't let this emotion completely control you: "If I feel nervous, then I am really nervous, but I can't do nothing because I am nervous." At this moment, you can even choose to talk to your nervous psychology, ask yourself why you are so nervous, and what the worst result may be, so that you can face up to and accept this nervous mood, deal with it calmly, and do your own thing in an orderly way.

Second, do some relaxing activities. The specific methods are as follows: ① Choose a place with fresh air, quiet surroundings, soft light, no interference and free movement, and stand, sit or lie in a comfortable posture. ② Exercise some key joints and muscles of the body. When doing it, the speed should be even and slow, and the action does not need to have a certain format. As long as you feel the joints relax and the muscles relax. Take a deep breath, inhale slowly and exhale slowly, and say "relax" in your mind every time you exhale. (4) Pay attention to some daily items. For example, look at a flower, a candle or anything soft and beautiful, and observe its nuances carefully. Light some spices and gently suck its fragrance. Close your eyes and try to imagine some quiet and beautiful scenery, such as blue sea water, golden beach, white clouds, high mountains and flowing water. 6. Do some favorite activities that have nothing to do with the current specific matters. For example, swimming, taking a hot bath, shopping, listening to music and watching TV.