What is love? It’s love when you see it!

A few days ago at the Weibo Conference, I saw someone saying that she was an emotional photographer. She took a lot of photos of people crying, but those photos were really touching and contagious. It makes people seem to see the sadness in their hearts. She said she felt grief needed to be seen.

In fact, many of us usually turn a blind eye to our families and children. Seeing doesn't mean seeing, he said they were about two meters apart in the shed. The photographer looked at each other through the lens, that kind of attention that an ordinary person may not have received for a long time. This point hit me. When I thought about it carefully, I really hadn’t focused on looking at my family and my children for a long time. Focus on feeling the needs behind their emotions.

Everyone may have things that others think are not worthy of sadness, but for each individual, his own things are the only important things.

Nowadays, positive energy is advocated everywhere, and adults must appear to be emotionally stable, invulnerable, and peaceful in the years. So what should we do with our sad and angry emotions?

Teacher Wu Zhihong said that all our emotions are vitality. Emotions themselves are not right or wrong. If he is seen and responded to, he becomes a luminous life force. If he is suppressed and not satisfied, he will turn into black life force, and in the end he will attack others or himself.

Reminds me of some scenes that I often see.

Child: "Dad, I got 99 points."

Dad: "Why not 100 points?"

Child: "Dad, this time 100 points"

Dad: "Don't be proud."

Your performance was particularly successful, and you opened your arms and threw yourself at your mother.

Mom: "Girl, be more reserved."

When your energy rises, you will be pressed down. When your energy goes down, it seems to be pressed down a little more. , this situation often occurs. You feel like your energy has been blocked.

In fact, many couples also quarrel like this. It's because we don't see the needs behind the other person's emotions.

Now when I get along with my child, I often reflect on myself and try to be consistent with her energy. Don't suppress it, laugh together when you are happy, cry together when you are sad. Encourage her to express her emotions.

What would you experience if no one saw you? You will experience despair, so Freud once said this, and Spanish art poetry wrote like this, "Death is the place of no response!"