Who is more influential, a child living in a loveless, noisy, and forever cold war marriage and family or a single-parent child? Help the gods.

Which is more important, a child living in a loveless and noisy marriage family or a single-parent family? ————————— These two situations are uncertain! From the perspective of children's psychological development, children who live in loveless and noisy marriages and families that are always cold war are more injured! If the child is in a place without love. A noisy and often cold war family is happier than the children of a single-parent family ————————— In this way, the children of a loveless and often noisy and often cold war family are sometimes more vulnerable than single-parent families! I'm not alarmist. Throughout our investigation, cases and handling, we can find a phenomenon ——————————————————————————————————————————————————— Living in a family where parents are not harmonious, children will have all kinds of unbalanced psychology and eccentric behaviors. Bu Hong, a family therapy theory, has an important triangle theory: whenever two people encounter problems in their system, a third party will naturally intervene in their system, in order to alleviate the emotional impact between them. Therefore, parents don't know that children often unconsciously join their front and form a triangular relationship. Strangely, the children involved in this triangle relationship are actually the most loyal children to their parents. They often have various psychological obstacles or behavioral problems, with the aim of protecting or balancing their parents. In a family, there is often a scapegoat who takes on all the problems for the whole family, for example, a disobedient daughter, a stunted son, an alcoholic husband or a vicious wife. Because their problems are too obvious, the so-called family members are all concentrated on one person, so there is no need to deal with other problems. This is a very interesting family phenomenon. If the husband and wife don't get along, there may be a problem children at home. When couples are busy dealing with their children's behavior, they don't have to face the marriage crisis. Invisibly, the children's problems saved their parents' marriage. Therefore, the lamb to be punished in the family is exclusive to the "problem" children and bears all the problems for the whole family. I study psychoanalysis. When I visit my parents' childhood, I often find many old scars. Adults think that children are not sensible. In fact, children's eyes are the brightest, like a clear and flawless camera lens. The early images are taken into my heart and unforgettable. It's just that the world of children is so helpless that everything depends on adults. Psychologist Henry Sullivan believes that most of people's personality development is shaped by important people around them. Therefore, in order to adapt to the behavior of adults, the original clear eyes gradually became turbid and originally direct. Therefore, adults are injured children! Everyone has a childhood, which is not only more bitter than happy, but also the origin of our life. Our childhood has stored a lot of rich treasures, but also imprisoned many past wounds, eroding the quality of life little by little in the flow of years. ! I have been exposed to many such family treatments, and "problem" children are treated! I found a phenomenon and did a lot of psychological counseling for "naughty" children. The initial visit made parents extremely headache, and the children's symptoms varied, such as internet addiction, running away from home, "puppy love", fighting, depression, mania and even schizophrenia. The first interview usually involves a tearful mother and an angry father. What about the children? I didn't meet him in the first interview, because I know that in the first interview, parents always list their children's "Top Ten Criminal Evidence". No child can stand his mother's tears and his father's anger, so I will make another appointment with the children alone. I also know that the "little devil" in the eyes of parents and teachers actually has a lot of grievances and helplessness. I want to give them a good enough container to hold their symptoms. Li Shuizi, Dean of Shen Xin Education Consulting Center